Accident at nursery

Money_maker

silverwhistle wrote: »

I'm 60, unmarried and long since paid off the mortgage, but even I know the difficulties in many parts of the country in affording housing. There are also many couples deferring having kids because of their poor housing situation. Getting off the career ladder is also an issue for many parents (normally the mother), which may have important implications down the line.

You seem appallingly unaware of all these issues.

I dont know whether you are a parent or not (unmarried does not tell us if you are) but when we are all on our deathbeds, will we be saying 'thank goodness I stayed on the career ladder and spent 40 years doing this/that/the other' or will you be thinking 'I've been so lucky that I've been able to spend so much of my childs childhood with him/her and haven't regretted a moment'.

ravilious_fan

iammumtoone wrote: »

When my son was born I was working full time, I returned to work but didn't like leaving him so gave up my (well paid) job to be a SHAM. That worked for five years until my sons dad and I split up.

I then had to claim JSA, I got slated on MSE for not working and claiming JSA. I found myself a job (a lot less money than I had previously been earning, but I was lucky to get that, I had been out of the workplace for too long). I don't have any family to look after my son whilst I work, so he has to go to paid childcare. Now it seems I get stated on here for doing that, you can't win with this place!

Please don't tell me you made a decision about the your child's wellbeing and safety based on the opinions of a bunch of strangers on an internet forum...

Person_one

Money_maker wrote: »

I dont know whether you are a parent or not (unmarried does not tell us if you are) but when we are all on our deathbeds, will we be saying 'thank goodness I stayed on the career ladder and spent 40 years doing this/that/the other' or will you be thinking 'I've been so lucky that I've been able to spend so much of my childs childhood with him/her and haven't regretted a moment'.

If people make the right decision for themselves and their family, they don't tend to regret those decisions whatever other people might think of them.

Parents who work still usually have close, good relationships with their children anyway. They're only tiny for a very brief period of time anyway, the relationship carries on well past that stage and hopefully through many decades of adulthood.

Lastly, because this can't be mentioned enough on this topic, would you expect a father who had always worked to regret it on his 'deathbed'?

thorsoak

Please do remember that she is your niece not your daughter -one day your sister might meet a new partner and move away - and you will no longer play a principal part in your niece's life.

ravilious_fan

VfM4meplse wrote: »

OMG the turn of this thread.

Baby is fine (aside from a cold). Nursery is fine. I wanted my sister to be sure that they were not peddling her a fairy story, and they weren't. You can't blame me for being suspicious, any child is precious to its family.

Sister is single. We have a very close family relationship and I am seen as a second mummy. Niece is often left with me for long days with advance planning, stays overnight etc and everyone is happy with the arrangement (esp me and the baby). Grandparents are also very hands-on. In fact I have her in my care for the rest of the week whilst her mum manages her work committments as I had leave to use up, and she does not. Culturally, familes pull together rather than get disturbed by loving siblings. I see my niece as a daughter, that's just the way it is. And yes it would be nice if I had one of my own, but I have made no secret of the fact I wish to adopt (not foster).

Finally: not a picture of my niece, just a cute image I found online.

OMG indeed. The responses have been absolutely hysterical (in both senses of the word) :rotfl:


And surely it was obvious the picture of the baby was a meme :wall:

haras_nosirrah

Op you still aren't answering what accident your niece had and what nursery said happened to her.

I take it from the refusal to answer that it was something very minor rather than her getting hold of something dangerous and inflicting damage on herself

Assuming this is the case then yes you are over reacting and nursery should not change their policies

I could however be wrong depending on what the injury and explanation for the injury are so just tell us and we can then tell you whether you are right to be concerned about your nieces care

ravilious_fan

The refusal to go into details might have something to do with the fact that an investigation is taking place, and writing possibly incriminating details on an internet forum might not be a good idea..?

But I agree it makes a difference if for example she pulled on a kettle lead and got burned with hot water, or if she just fell over and accidentally hit her face against the wall.

onlyroz

ravilious_fan wrote: »

Paranoia..

You want a baby, - babies need looking after. You decide between you who is going to look after the kids and when. You don't farm them out onto a nursery, where some disgruntled underpaid person barely out of their teens has to look after them for you.

As the OP is finding..

You talk as if the requirement for childcare is a new thing. In days gone by it would largely have been the wider family who looked after the kids, leaving mum and dad to go out to work. However, these days it is less common for people to stay in the same village or town they were born in and the wider family could be scattered around the globe.

As for your perception of nurseries and childminders :rotfl: I can only assume that you've never set foot in a decent childcare setting.

haras_nosirrah

The op doesn't say there is an investigation. She is saying that she wants to know that if a child gets injured in a nursery setting then should they review their safety procedures.

The answer is that it depends what the injury is and what the circumstances around it were so no one can answer the question

The fact the mother doesn't have an issue with her daughters care suggests it is something in the realm of grazed knee rather than falling off the top of the climbing frame while unsupervised for example

onlyroz

Money_maker wrote: »

I dont know whether you are a parent or not (unmarried does not tell us if you are) but when we are all on our deathbeds, will we be saying 'thank goodness I stayed on the career ladder and spent 40 years doing this/that/the other' or will you be thinking 'I've been so lucky that I've been able to spend so much of my childs childhood with him/her and haven't regretted a moment'.

On my death bed I hope I can reflect back both on happy times with my family, and on having a rewarding, fulfilling career. Too many people act like it's one or the other when it really needn't be.