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Accident at nursery
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OP, I love my children and granddaughter dearly, and I would do anything for them. This includes allowing them to grow and develop into well rounded citizens, able to make decisions for themselves. They have never been wrapped in cotton wool, but that doesn't mean to say that I love them any less.
You seem quite obsessive about your niece. Yes, you love her, but you seem to want to control her life. I love my kids, but don't have that need for control. I think this says more about you (and your insecurities?) than is does about your sister's ability to parent.0 -
VfM4meplse wrote: »I am not seeking control, but I don't think its too much to expect for us to be consistent in our actions given the vast amount of time I spend looking after her. If that means ganging up on the nursery, so be it
I'm being silly now. Obviously time for beddyhouse.
Vast amount of time looking after her.....You say she's in nursery all day every day so how vast can this time be?
You can't gang up on any nursery because it's nothing to do with you, they have a contract with your sister which could be in jeopardy if you cause trouble between them...
I spend great amounts of time with my granddaughter but my job is to do as my daughter asks with HER child and not have my own agenda which you seem to have with your niece.
It's coming across as very unhealthy obsessive behaviour on your part and I truthfully pity your sister... You could very well see yourself cut out if your nieces life in the future so you need to deal with YOUR issues before disaster strikes.
You sister seems like a normal hardworking mum who just wants to provide a decent normal upbringing for her child so leave them to it.0 -
On my first day at work fulltime, the youngest offspring, a whole year old, small and only standing for the previous three weeks, decided to join in with the boys (fifteen months and two years old) and play with a toy plane. As she wobbled off her feet onto the three inch thick carpet, underlaid with another inch of cushioned foam, she nosedived into the plane's wing.
My phone was off - it was my first day at work, after all - so I got home that evening to find offspring #2 had been to hospital and had her head superglued back together, along with a certificate for being 'very brave' crossed out and replaced with 'the bravest baby in the World'. She'd not made a squeak as the poor woman had picked up her newest charge bleeding profusely with a mini 747 embedded into her scalp and rushed to hospital - or when it was cleaned and glued.
She hasn't had a bruise free day for the 15 years and 4 months since.
Obviously, the aeroplane got cleaned off and relocated to the bin, but sometimes stuff happens, no matter how much you try. Some kids could manage to damage themselves in a padded cell.
It's a normal part of growing up and you need to stop fretting about it. After all, her mother isn't.I could dream to wide extremes, I could do or die: I could yawn and be withdrawn and watch the world go by.Yup you are officially Rock n Roll0 -
VfM4meplse wrote: »Would you expect a child to have an accident whilst supervised at a nursery?VfM4meplse wrote: »Aside from informing the parents asap, and noting it in the accident book, is there any requirement to look at the circumstances and put additional saftey precautions in place?
:rotfl: at some of the toilet related ones. I used to help run an out of school club: one child walked slap bang into a wheely bin as we walked in pairs from the station to the Zoo. He was too busy talking to his partner to look where he was going!Signature removed for peace of mind0 -
But like I say, I don't think anyone could look after her better than me!
My boy fell down when he was 12 months old and open the top of his eye at nursery. He didn't need stitches but had to have strips over it and 12 years later, he has a small scar. I never ever thought of blaming his nursery because it could have happened at home.
He also broke his arms.... twice at school! Playing football at lunch time. Again, nothing to do with the school.
I did spend a lot of time and energy to make sure my children attended nurseries and schools I was happy with the care and education they provided. That didn't change after these accidents. All those people involved in providing care/education to my children have contributed to them becoming contented, confident and successful teenagers.0 -
When wife was a primary school teacher and saw how sad these kids were being treated as though they're an inconvenience to their parents career, when all they want is to spend more time with their mum or dad is heart breaking and why we decided when we had kids that she would stay at home and be a parent, not pay some stranger to do their job. We also waited until she was over 3 before enrolling her, partly because if she didnt like it or something happened she would be able to tell us, and partly she went to other clubs and loved spending time with mum. Dont get why youd want to have kids only to palm them off most of the week onto someone else whilst paying extortionate fees.
My kids are teenagers and I can now look back and know I did the right thing for them. They both loved nursery. Maybe it is because I made sure they went to one I knew they were getting personal care rather then being treated like just any other child coming to their care. They have stayed in touch with a couple of their keyworkers. They became part of their extended family. Not all nurseries treat kids like cattle. They are some who actually employ staff who love kids, love looking after them and actually build some attachment to them.
You might not understand why some women decide to go to work, that doesn't mean that it is wrong. I have actually asked my children if they wished I'd been a SAHM and they said that they definitely didn't because if I didn't work, they wouldn't have experienced things that loved that unfortunately cost money. They are grateful that they have been given these opportunities.
Your wife is a teacher, she could afford to take time off and then go straight back to her job earning a decent salary. That is not available to everyone. Most parents do what they think is best for their children. What they don't need is teachers who use their own personal views to be judge others who make difference choices.0 -
Have I missed it or has op not actually said what the accident was
If it is in the realms of bruise, scraped knee, bumped head or something classed as minor then no the nursery are not accountable and can't put safeguards in place to prevent these unless they invest in a load of bubble wrap to wrap the kids and furniture up in. A childhood without a grazed knee sounds like a boring childhood and kids need to experience some 'ow's' to understand danger and consequences.
If however your 1 year old niece ended up falling off the top of the climbing frame as she had escaped the nursery room unnoticed then it is a different ball game and yes that would be cause for concern
What was the accident?I am a Mortgage Adviser
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I predict another post soon
"My sister is taking over"
"My sister-in-law is a control freak"
"How to tell my aunty to back off"Life is like a bath, the longer you are in it the more wrinkly you become.0 -
When wife was a primary school teacher and saw how sad these kids were being treated as though they're an inconvenience to their parents career, when all they want is to spend more time with their mum or dad is heart breaking and why we decided when we had kids that she would stay at home and be a parent, not pay some stranger to do their job.
Did you go part time too, to share that responsibility and so your children could have that lovely quality time with dad too?0 -
Wow! I answered what I thought was a reasonable question. Now I find that there's a lot more to it.
I didn't know that the child involved is a niece. The OP is over-stepping the mark and in real danger of estrangement from her sister.Member #14 of SKI-ers club
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