Accident at nursery

tea_lover

Well, that took a disturbing turn! OP, I hope you take on board a lot of the concerns here and think about your relationship with your niece and sister. It sounds like you very much need to take a step back.

I adore my niece. She's the best thing I've ever seen. I would, without a second's hesitation run into a burning building for her, step in front of a car, seriously maim anyone that tried to hurt her.... you get the idea. My sister is a single parent and when niece was younger we all (my parents and myself) took an active role in caring for her. This included regular time off work, nursery pick ups, school run. Less so now niece is a teenager but we'd all still be there in a heartbeat if needed.

Point is though - she is not my daughter. Yes, I love her with every cell in my body and I'd do anything to protect her and care for her. Yes, my sister has named me as her guardian should anything happen to her. But she is not, and never will be, my daughter. She has a mum - and my job as aunty is to support her mum and back up her decisions.

thorsoak

I don't suppose that this nursery would meet with the OP's approval:-

http://www.dandelionsnorfolk.com/

Shown on BBC Look East on Monday - it is like the Adventure Playgrounds that I was associated with back in the 1970s!

Slinky

thorsoak wrote: »

I don't suppose that this nursery would meet with the OP's approval:-

http://www.dandelionsnorfolk.com/

Shown on BBC Look East on Monday - it is like the Adventure Playgrounds that I was associated with back in the 1970s!

Yes I saw that too and thought exactly the same thing reading this thread!

southoftheriver

Wow OP you need to back off. This is quite disturbing to read and made me feel quite awkward on your behalf. I hope you've got people around you that you can vent to?

When I have this baby it will be going to nursery. Because as well as being an evil greedy career woman I have responsibilities and I can't pay my way through life as a SAHM. I'll probably be working 4 days a week as will my husband to avoid full time childcare. We'll both be compromising because that is how we've decided to raise our children. Different strokes for different folks.

My sister is very happy go lucky and I'm definitely more uptight but when/if she has children it will be up to her to raise her children however she sees fit.

Kaye1

Just a note about her losing weight- as soon as they start toddling around, they do tend to lose a little weight; just because the amount of calories they are using to get around increases.

My toddler, as a baby, had a portly little tummy. As soon as she started walking, she slimmed right down as she was so active.

SingleSue

My middle son had (and still has at the age of 19) the ability to trip on fresh air, great fun explaining that to the health visitor after he tripped on nothing apart from his own feet and nosediving into a tool box tucked under the stairs.

Accidents happen, it is the normal course of life and the way in which children learn. If you try to micro manage all risk, then what on earth are they going to do or how on earth are they going to survive when they leave home or go to university.

Poppie68

jaydeeuk1 wrote: »

Actually i pretty much agree with you. A lot of these day nurseries (not the proper pre schools who have a fully qualified teacher running the show) are treated like glorified child minders where parents drop kids off as soon as they can and then they get picked up, often by someone who isnt their parent, late afternoon/evening. When wife was a primary school teacher and saw how sad these kids were being treated as though they're an inconvenience to their parents career, when all they want is to spend more time with their mum or dad is heart breaking and why we decided when we had kids that she would stay at home and be a parent, not pay some stranger to do their job. We also waited until she was over 3 before enrolling her, partly because if she didnt like it or something happened she would be able to tell us, and partly she went to other clubs and loved spending time with mum. Dont get why youd want to have kids only to palm them off most of the week onto someone else whilst paying extortionate fees.










Well aren't you perfect parents!

You are talking a load of twaddle as you or your wife have no idea of the inner thoughts of these supposed sad children. Many children benefit from the socialization of being around other children and adults on a daily basis... I have a friend who drops her 3 years off at 7.30 and picks up at 6, he has been at the nursery since age 9 months and he's thriving, he's a confident independent little guy who doesn't feel the need to hang off his mother's skirt..My granddaughter is nearly 3 and spends 3 days at nursery and again is thriving and again doesn't need her mum around all the time for her to be happy. I know 2 others who don't go to nursery and spend too much time clinging onto their mums who are nowhere near as confident or inquisitive as the nursery kids.

Dill

Lets not turn the thread into a fight between the "terrible" parents who use nurseries and those who look after their own children.

OP can you give us any idea as to the nature of this accident?

ManofLeisure_2

Accidents will 'always' happen - whether at the Nursey or at home. What I think is important is that those involved 'learn' from what has happened.

It is very natural to wish to protect our children and I must admit when our first children (twins) arrived, I probably wanted to wrap them up in cotton wool . However, the world is a tough place and it is essential to develop skills to survive and take one's place in the world.

ravilious_fan

jaydeeuk1 wrote: »

Actually i pretty much agree with you. A lot of these day nurseries (not the proper pre schools who have a fully qualified teacher running the show) are treated like glorified child minders where parents drop kids off as soon as they can and then they get picked up, often by someone who isnt their parent, late afternoon/evening. When wife was a primary school teacher and saw how sad these kids were being treated as though they're an inconvenience to their parents career, when all they want is to spend more time with their mum or dad is heart breaking and why we decided when we had kids that she would stay at home and be a parent, not pay some stranger to do their job. We also waited until she was over 3 before enrolling her, partly because if she didnt like it or something happened she would be able to tell us, and partly she went to other clubs and loved spending time with mum. Dont get why youd want to have kids only to palm them off most of the week onto someone else whilst paying extortionate fees.

That is a very brave and honest thing to say, though you are bound to get slated for it on here :eek: I personally don't understand why someone would have a baby and then pay strangers to look after it, either. Your baby is the most precious thing you've got. Re the BiB many of my friends have pretty much said the same thing. If something happened to the child during the day, a baby wouldn't be able to tell you

Parent and toddler groups would enable the child to socialise, and once they're clean and dry they can attend nursery school for a few mornings a week, so it's not as some people are saying, that babies who aren't dumped on a nursery for 12 hours a day are somehow disadvantaged when it comes to social skills. I think a lot of them just like to tell themselves that, to be honest.

Anyway, it's good to know there ARE some like-minded souls out there who don't see their children as an obstacle to getting up the career ladder. Why have them if that's how you feel!!