Almshouses have put CCTV cameras which looks onto my door!

marksoton

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

Personally - I'd say a wardrobe is pretty essential. I'd love to know a way to get couriers to turn up at a day and time that suits the customer - as I've certainly not worked one yet...:rotfl:

She's been in the property 6 years though....

kodiplod wrote: »

If you must know, I ordered the wardrobe for delivery way before she went on holiday. They delivered it but it was damaged. It took them 4 delivery attempted before I got the final delivery and the last delivery was the 2nd day she was on holiday.

How convenient. Sorry OP but i'm not buying it.

If you're that worried about your nan invest all your energies in moving her elsewhere. Everything else is superfluous.

moneyistooshorttomention

I'm wondering why the critical/sceptical comments?

The last wardrobe could have been a secondhand one (not her taste) or a cheapie one from somewhere like MFI (ie it disintegrated). I've had both personally...

I've had my own home (one way or another) for over 30 years - but I'm still buying furniture. Right now - one of the next things will be to replace the sofa I had to buy for my last house's tiny sitting room with the sofa I actually wanted to buy in the first place. Present sofa is as good as new - but its too small and too "cheap" a style for my tastes. Cue for perfectly decent £250 sofa getting passed on soon and my new bigger (probably around £1,500) sofa coming in. I think my mother has only stopped replacing furniture in the last few years. It's how most people live....

kodiplod

marksoton wrote: »

She's been in the property 6 years though....

How convenient. Sorry OP but i'm not buying it.

If you're that worried about your nan invest all your energies in moving her elsewhere. Everything else is superfluous.

How convenient? I can show you the emails if you want, and the complaint I sent to tescos? Luckily they refunded me.

The old wardrobe was falling to bits and was very old.

Thanks for your advice..

tomtontom

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

I'm wondering why the critical/sceptical comments?

The last wardrobe could have been a secondhand one (not her taste) or a cheapie one from somewhere like MFI (ie it disintegrated). I've had both personally...

I've had my own home (one way or another) for over 30 years - but I'm still buying furniture. Right now - one of the next things will be to replace the sofa I had to buy for my last house's tiny sitting room with the sofa I actually wanted to buy in the first place. Present sofa is as good as new - but its too small and too "cheap" a style for my tastes. Cue for perfectly decent £250 sofa getting passed on soon and my new bigger (probably around £1,500) sofa coming in.

I would guess it is due to the OP repeatedly referring to the place as their own. It understandably casts doubt on the rest of the story.

marksoton

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

I'm wondering why the critical/sceptical comments?

Because despite advice the OP seems far from focused on the actual core problem.

They need to secure alternative accommodation for their relative if the picture they paint is true.

Twopints

marksoton wrote: »

She's been in the property 6 years though....

How convenient. Sorry OP but i'm not buying it.

If you're that worried about your nan invest all your energies in moving her elsewhere. Everything else is superfluous.

What a stupid thing to say. I think we are only getting one side of the story from you (that accusation has already been thrown at OP) and you are not who you pretend to be, are you one of the trustees? (Again, the OP has been accused of all sorts of rubbish, so why not make some up about you?)

marksoton

Twopints wrote: »

What a stupid thing to say. I think we are only getting one side of the story from you (that accusation has already been thrown at OP) and you are not who you pretend to be, are you one of the trustees? (Again, the OP has been accused of all sorts of rubbish, so why not make some up about you?)

You got me....:whistle:

PasturesNew

Maybe they're concerned about elderly abuse if you appear to be round a lot of the time when nan's absent ...especially in the evenings when, presumably, you're sitting watching telly while waiting for things to be delivered. Maybe you looked "a bit too cozy" in their eyes.

lincroft1710

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

All the better if Nan can persuade her friends in the other almshouses to keep their own records of visitors too - to help protect them from these dinosaur wardens.

Nan could then say "How come you are on at me for 100 visitors in a year - all of whom were just visitors and never stayed overnight - whereas Bertha next door had 150 visitors and how come they never picked on her then? Why am I being singled-out?"

A record of visitors which is not certified by independent witness is no proof of anything, it can too easily be falsified. If such a record is kept, each visitor should sign, like an attendance register.

moneyistooshorttomention

Makes those trustees seem worse and worse Pastures:rotfl:. Wonders if the trustees actually know they aren't entitled to have any "personal opinions" like that about their tenants?

We all know there is such a thing as "elder abuse" - but I would think the statistics are that there are far more adult children/grandchildren just keeping a concerned weathereye out on their relative.