Almshouses have put CCTV cameras which looks onto my door!

Money_maker

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

I suspect that the trouble seems to have started because grandchild is from a generation that just takes reasonable standards for granted and people treating their homes as their homes. Nan has probably got a bit "braver" being shown/told what normal 21st century standards are and is starting to stand up for herself a bit more.

I still cant see what this 'disgusting' behaviour is that the OP is complaining about. They put up CCTV to protect the residents and they (mistakenly) accused the grandchild of staying at Nans home.
Perhaps the CCTV wasn't put up to check up on residents but to ensure that anything untoward was recorded - does this really seem unreasonable?

Cue to a story of a lady a little older who was convinced that her next door neighbour was trying to drive her out of her home so his daughter could move next door. She claimed he was ringing the doorbell night and day and running away (he was a pensioner too). The doorbell never rang whilst any carers were present. CCTV was installed and inspected when further claims of doorbell ringing were made. There was no one there. Some months later the behaviour deteriorated further in the lady, she had a complete change of personality, was found to have dementia and couldn't live at home any longer.

I do suggest we are only hearing half a story, perhaps only a third of a story as the Nan has mental health issues which are not going to be solely due to this although may be exacerbated by it.

cadon

OP, even though we're hearing this entirely from your side, it still sounds like you're living at your nan's property. I can only imagine what the trustees' side sounds like...

Giving you the benefit of the doubt, perhaps you're round your nan's place so often because she needs the extra support from you? That being the case and bearing in mind you've already said there's no warden anymore, does this accommodation actually still meet her needs? She may love it, but with her declining health, should she in fact consider sheltered housing elsewhere?

I wouldn't have any objection to CCTV. It's presumably known locally that this is an almshouse and older, vulnerable people (potentially with health problems like your nan) live there. With no warden, the CCTV makes sense - should deter any local criminals and door-to-door salespeople from seeing them as such easy targets.

csgohan4

Op you haven't answered the question regarding what behaviour your nan has been subject to?

franklee

I agree with QuizzicalSquirrel.

I'm not sure we can see the wood for the trees here. Bottom line is that Nan "really does love her home" and also moving is extremely stressful so I'd suggest the best thing the OP can do is to help Nan feel settled and happy at home. Being pragmatic I'd be pointing out to her all the advantages of the CCTV so that she accepts it and after a while will probably forget it's there.

Besides if Nan is being accused of having the OP living there then the CCTV will prove that isn't true.

Also the OP could help smooth the waters by giving the trustees his/her address in case they need to get in touch. That says in a polite way that the OP has another home.

I'm all for standing up for rights. etc. but pick your battles - and IMO disliking the trustees isn't worth upsetting Nan even if they are a bit overzealous. Uprooting her over this is not the way to go IMO. She has been settled for six years, probably has friends locally etc.

OP, build some bridges and let it go.