what is emotional abuse?

merlin68

Seeing as its my motability vehicle and its a £200 excess i would have to pay ive every right if im nearly in an accident dont you think.
I'm barely in the car as it is 3 times in two weeks.
His out in it every day.

Guest101

merlin68 wrote: »

Seeing as its my motability vehicle - How is that relevant? and its a £200 excess i would have to pay - Are you a driver? Do you have a license? ive every right if im nearly in an accident dont you think. - No, I don't. Apologies, I thought I was clear on that.
I'm barely in the car as it is 3 times in two weeks.
His out in it every day.

He's the driver - it's his responsibility to be in charge of the vehicle and his license. Whilst your input could be useful, 'screaming' at a driver is incredibly dangerous


As a passenger you either:


1: Notify the driver calmly in an orderly manner of a hazard, if you think they've missed it. Like 'That car has just pulled out'.
2: Arrange for another driver to drive you around.

Pollycat

It's quite hard to comment as we're only reading one side of the situation:

merlin68 wrote: »

Its difficult to terminate as his my carer and its a joint council tenancy. So neither of us has anywhere to go.
I could get a divorce but he would still be living with me.
I cant chuck someone out of a joint tenancy.

If you do determine your partner is emotionally abusing you, considering the above that you posted yesterday, where do you go from here?

Are you looking for something to throw back at him when he is abusing you? i.e. "You are emotionally abusing me!".
Or wanting ammunition to be able to throw him out of the house?
Is there someone else who could be your carer instead of your partner?

It really does sound a desperate and fraught situation for you both - not to mention your daughter.

BigAunty

The Womens Aid website has a checklist of various behaviours that can indicate the presence of domestic abuse. Read it and quantify the extent of it.

You dont have to stay because you are a carer - he can contact social services for an assessment, find another carer or take responsibility for his behaviour and start to treat you with respect.

Ask the social housing landlord for advice on your accommodation options due to relationship breakdown and womens aid if you believe you are in an abusive relationship. See also the shelter website.

Guest101

BigAunty wrote: »

The Womens Aid website has a checklist of various behaviours that can indicate the presence of domestic abuse. Read it and quantify the extent of it.

You dont have to stay because you are a carer - he can contact social services for an assessment, find another carer or take responsibility for his behaviour and start to treat you with respect.

Ask the social housing landlord for advice on your accommodation options due to relationship breakdown and womens aid if you believe you are in an abusive relationship. See also the shelter website.

He's the carer.......

Person_one

Guest101 wrote: »

Tbh if a passenger in my car 'screamed' at me, they would be asked to leave the vehicle there and then.

I'd have thought it was probably involuntary, if you're a passenger and the driver is about to hit another car!

merlin68

We have already had social services do an assessment but because his here all the time they wouldn't help.
They did get the house adapted however.
His out in the car again and im sat here in my nightie with only the screen for company.
His gone to his appointment. I go to a lunch club 2 times a week when im well enough and that is it.

Guest101

Person_one wrote: »

I'd have thought it was probably involuntary, if you're a passenger and the driver is about to hit another car!

I'd agree, it's normal to scream if you are about to have an accident.


But if you see an accident developing..... So either the OP cant be sure who's fault it is and when the car pulled out and just blamed her husband.


Or the OP saw the accident developing and reacted terribly.


Neither is particularly flattering.

Guest101

merlin68 wrote: »

We have already had social services do an assessment but because his here all the time they wouldn't help.
They did get the house adapted however.
His out in the car again and im sat here in my nightie with only the screen for company.
His gone to his appointment. I go to a lunch club 2 times a week when im well enough and that is it.

has there been any respite care?

missbiggles1

Person_one wrote: »

I'd have thought it was probably involuntary, if you're a passenger and the driver is about to hit another car!

There's a difference between screaming and screaming at someone.