3.5 months 'dating'...

tomtontom

Chocolate*fish wrote: »

Yes (blush)
I chose it years ago as a Limp Bizkit fan (double blush)
I didn't know when I picked it.

I wonder if there is a way to change it...

C*F

If you message the admin team I'm sure they can help

BigAunty

We never invited anyone to our wedding that we never met before - it was a rule (the only exception was a friend coming in the evening who we offered a plus1 because she didn't know many people there). In fact, we didn't invite formerly close friends that I hadn't met up with for a year or two. There are cost/space/planning issues with this kind of event that makes it harder to make changes.

We invited close friends and allowed them to bring long-term partners that we met before. Out of three of them bringing partners who we barely knew, two broke up within months of our wedding while the third later got married to her boyf.

I'm with the person who commented earlier that you feel like scratching an X through the face of virtual strangers on the photo album who popped to the wedding that you will never see them again.

So I'm not even sure why you are analysing the lack of invite to a wedding of a sibling of short-term boyfriend when you have no social connection to anyone other than him.

From memory, I think I usually met the family of my partners a good year or so into the relationship, one perhaps 2/3 years down the line because she was ashamed of her parents, another I went out with for a couple of years and never met any family (though they lived at the opposite end of the country).

I can't say I was ever really in a hurry to do this. I doubt I ever pushed for it or saw it as a gesture to validate the relationship in some way.

Maybe he's not that into you. Maybe he has Mommy issues. Maybe there is no issue whatsoever.

BigAunty

And who says '3.5' months of dating, anyway?. It's a bit Adrian Mole.

Made_Without

BigAunty wrote: »

And who says '3.5' months of dating, anyway?. It's a bit Adrian Mole.

Really? You find that odd.
I find the fact you need to call that out - more than a bit 'Adrian Mole'.

Made_Without

BigAunty wrote: »

We never invited anyone to our wedding that we never met before - it was a rule (the only exception was a friend coming in the evening who we offered a plus1 because she didn't know many people there). In fact, we didn't invite formerly close friends that I hadn't met up with for a year or two. There are cost/space/planning issues with this kind of event that makes it harder to make changes.

We invited close friends and allowed them to bring long-term partners that we met before. Out of three of them bringing partners who we barely knew, two broke up within months of our wedding while the third later got married to her boyf.

I'm with the person who commented earlier that you feel like scratching an X through the face of virtual strangers on the photo album who popped to the wedding that you will never see them again.

So I'm not even sure why you are analysing the lack of invite to a wedding of a sibling of short-term boyfriend when you have no social connection to anyone other than him.

From memory, I think I usually met the family of my partners a good year or so into the relationship, one perhaps 2/3 years down the line because she was ashamed of her parents, another I went out with for a couple of years and never met any family (though they lived at the opposite end of the country).

I can't say I was ever really in a hurry to do this. I doubt I ever pushed for it or saw it as a gesture to validate the relationship in some way.

Maybe he's not that into you. Maybe he has Mommy issues. Maybe there is no issue whatsoever.

Maybe it's all of the above... and that is what I am trying to work out.

Georgiegirl256

BigAunty wrote: »

And who says '3.5' months of dating, anyway?. It's a bit Adrian Mole.

I would. "Abit Adrian Mole" would be 3 3/4 months.

piglet74

I think it is perfectly acceptable for the op to ascertain whether or not they are both singing from the one hymn sheet,

C*F, maybe say to your fella, I like where we currently are, and I would like to think that we might establish a more solid relationship, if you don't feel the same,or if you have a gf or wife tucked away somewhere, please let me know.

Words to that effect

I certainly don't think its unreasonable to know exactly when the wedding is so you can pick out a frock, or book yourself a mini break!

jaydeeuk1

I don't use facebook, but can you send a msg or leave a public comment a day or so before wedding saying 'good luck etc, yourname & wotshistits xx'

Made_Without

jaydeeuk1 wrote: »

I don't use facebook, but can you send a msg or leave a public comment a day or so before wedding saying 'good luck etc, yourname & wotshistits xx'

I don't know his sibling so it would be odd to do that

Besides, this isn't about forcing him to intro me to his family / friends. I'd like to understand why it's not being done - but equally, I would never be disrespectful and just intro myself.

C*F

piglet74

Have you ever give him the impression that you would not like to go to the wedding with him? Maybe he doesn't want to ask you in case you say no...?