3.5 months 'dating'...

piglet74

like I says above.. I do hope I am wrong, but I would want to ascertain whether or not he has another woman before I would invest anymore time in this relationship,

Made_Without

This just struck a chord

BBC3 ad on telly pre - 'Would I lie to you?'

'It's healthy to have a conversation about things that make you feel uncomfortable'

I'm a proponent of this - I don't think he is!

C*F

piglet74

He is a man after all :-)

justme111

Op , if you getting angry when you do not get answers and pack up the whole issue so as not to cause havoc then you too have communication problem so you saying your bf does is pot calling a kettle black.

yvonne13_2

OP from what I read you have two issues with your boyfriend.
1. He's not mentioned you to his friends or family..
2. He's not asked you to be his plus one at the wedding. (Because his family don't know you exsist)
I woub be more concerned about being hidden away from his friends and family at this point over being invited to a wedding.

Everyone is different and moves at their own pace, it seems you're trying to rush him into something he clearly doesn't want at this point.
Yes he holds your hand and kisses you in public when strangers are around, but what makes you think he would do this around people he knows?
You even go to his house and you've never seen his friends there not even once! Do you have to book an appointment to go to his house or can you just turn up?

Are you sure you're his girlfriend? It comes across to me that you're only dating. It's been over 3 months and you haven't even met his best friend!

If you can't sit down with him and ask a simple question about not meeting even his friends let alone family then I'm sure you know what to do.

Domayne

I don't think it's that strange his family don't know about you.
In my experience, 3-6 months dating is still very much the 'honeymoon period' where you don't know each other that well and what really makes each other tick and it's all just butterflies and rainbows.
Having had many of these types of romances that have fizzled out after the 1-6 month period, These days I wouldn't introduce anyone to my family or friends for AT LEAST 6 months, Until I'm 100% sure that it's going somewhere.

Serendipitious

It's all a bit of a puzzle, isn't it?

If it were me, I wouldn't be too worried about not being invited, mostly because a wedding is too big an event at which to be introduced to the family. And it's not just immediate family, it's everyone else who is there as well. Also the wedding is about the bride and groom so the focus should quite rightly be on them.

It's still early days in your relationship and my question is this. Taking the wedding out of the equation, has there been any indication of any other plans for the two of you for a few months down the line? Eg with Spring and Summer on the horizon, have you talked about days out, the possibilities of weekends away, etc? You met in winter time, so it would be only natural for you both to be looking forward to enjoying time together outdoors.

justme111

Op , if I was getting frustrated in communication with my date to such an extent as not being able to bring the topic that interests me a lot up I would either question my emotional and mind state or suitability of that relationship.

Georgiegirl256

I don't think it's strange neccessarily that the OP hasn't been introduced to his family yet, but I do think it's strange that she hasn't even been mentioned.

SandC

I can easily go 3.5 months without seeing my family myself, never mind bringing a new bloke into the mix. 😂

I am cautious about telling people about new relationships as history has shown there's a tendency for them to go t*ts up at an early stage. These days I give it more time to become a bit more serious in order to save face. Ha ha.

Maybe it's a bit like that for him. I'd say go with your instincts. If you feel the need to have 'a talk' then that's what you should do as it's going to keep bothering you if you don't.