3.5 months 'dating'...

SandC

Keep us posted hun, hope it's just that he's a little scared to open himself up and all turns out good.

Philip624

Electric or manual toothbrush?

Made_Without wrote: »

Yes, many times. Have a toothbrush there ...

C*F

Made_Without

SandC wrote: »

Keep us posted hun, hope it's just that he's a little scared to open himself up and all turns out good.

Thank you all for bearing with me and providing me different perspectives and viewpoints to mull over. It's easy to get caught up in one way of thinking and really send yourself down a rabbit hole - however, typically rational you may be!

SandC you actually summed it up perfectly - in that he is scared in being open. He keeps a lot of thoughts and feelings to himself - not just with me, but with family / friends too.

With regards to his parents - like many of you said, he doesn't see the point of intros unless she's 'the one' but he can see my view that it doesn't have to be perceived that way and that actually just having casual interaction with his family could actually make them more relaxed. I'm just going to leave that where it - if and when (if ever) he wants to do intros, I'll take it from there. But at least I now understand why it is a bigger deal for him than it is for me.

With regards to friends, his best friends are abroad and those who live here seem to have been absorbed into coupledom / family life. I asked if that was one of the things he feared of being in a relationship - that it may consume you as an individual completely - and he said yes. It makes me quite sad as I'd hope that would never be the case. I like to (and have already) shared my friend circle with him, but equally still enjoy catching up with them without him. I wish he had the same network that I could be part of, but also gave him an outlet too.

Overall, I think the focus just needs to be in getting him to feel comfortable talking to me about his concerns and feelings. I'm not a mindreader and when a person fails to answer questions, it does make life difficult.

So things are not all sunshine and roses but definitely better than before and hopefully we can keep communicating!

M_W

Made_Without

emsywoo123 wrote: »

I really hope he at least has some answers/explanations. Does he know it is going to be that kind of evening (as in talking about big stuff! )

Yes he did!
As you can imagine, I'd blurted out 'we need to talk' on the phone - (I definitely need to work on not being so open!!)


M_W

thorsoak

So you are made without and chocolate fish?

Brighton_belle

thorsoak wrote: »

So you are made without and chocolate fish?

Reference was made earlier in the thread to the Op getting her user name changed, as C-F had another meaning (apparently) that she hadn't realised when she chose it.

thorsoak

Ah......re-read the thread - now I understand - thank you

piglet74

If your happy with the chat and what was discussed, then by all means leave it for now, enjoy getting to know each other, enjoy the relationship for what it is, and for what it may become.

I'm just delighted to have been wrong, I honestly was starting to think that you may be the other woman.

SandC

Made_Without wrote: »

SandC you actually summed it up perfectly - in that he is scared in being open. He keeps a lot of thoughts and feelings to himself - not just with me, but with family / friends too.



M_W

He sounds a lot like me hun. :-) Perhaps that's why I recognised it... and I'm working on it! I am also in the early stages of seeing someone new so gawd help him/me :-)

Anatidaephobia

Thank you for coming back and giving us an update! I'm glad that it worked out okay. Communication is the key