worried my friend is preparing to marry a gold digger and he's besotted with her.

fitnessguy1

Hermia wrote: »

I didn't know wearing tight clothes is a sign of being a gold digger! :rotfl:Girls, we better start wearing kaftans on first dates then!

You haven't actually really provided any evidence she is a gold digger. You have provided evidence he is spending a lot of money, but maybe he enjoys doing that. It might not be sensible, but some men like to do that when they are loved up.

heuchera - I have an aunt who was still being called a gold digger even after twenty years of marriage and several years of nursing her husband through cancer. If she was a gold digger she would have earned it!

a lot of women who are deemed as gold diggers tend to wear expensive clothing and they always seem to want to stand out by wearing provocative clothing. if you take a look at photos and videos of gold diggers you will see what i mean. also she shouldn't expect him to spend so much money on her without any resistance to disallow it on her part.

krlyr

VfM4meplse wrote: »

I am stunned. The implication being that the marriage is off when these aspects disappear. Whatever happened to:

Although how others choose to conduct their personal lives is none of my business.

Whateven happened to..



Fortunately for naughty boys nowadays, we live in a world where we're not forced to live to set religions.

Marriage is a legal contract, for many there's no religion involved. Doesn't make it wrong for those to marry for religious reasons, but doesn't make it wrong to marry for sex, money, etc. as long as both are consenting parties.

Person_one

'Gold digger' marriages tend to be mutually beneficial anyway. One gets a wealthy partner but gives up other things, while one gets a young, attractive partner but gives up other things. It's not what most would choose, but I wouldn't judge just one side, your friend is getting something out of the deal too!

That's assuming they don't care for each other deeply and would be in love regardless of looks of finances, who knows? Not you and certainly not us!

missprice

fitnessguy1 wrote: »

nothing i can do if he decides she is the one for him, but the red flags seem to be there. her attitude isn't one of wife material either with the way she acts like she's something special and with her nose in the air towards people. i would not be surprised if she's using him for money and seeing another guy/s on the side behind his back.

I so want to know what " wife material" is.
Maybe this is where I went wrong when I was married, and is there " husband material" too?

paddy's_mum

fitnessguy1 wrote: »

i would not be surprised if she's using him for money and seeing another guy/s on the side behind his back.

Unless you have evidence other than malice to back up this outrageous comment, I'd go so far as to say

YOU ARE NOT THIS MAN'S FRIEND :eek:

To use your own words, I would not be surprised if you are one nasty piece of work and that is probably the harshest comment I have ever made on the internet.

Ever heard of the concept of slander?

elsien

fitnessguy1 wrote: »

nothing i can do if he decides she is the one for him, but the red flags seem to be there. her attitude isn't one of wife material either with the way she acts like she's something special and with her nose in the air towards people. i would not be surprised if she's using him for money and seeing another guy/s on the side behind his back.

With friends like this, who needs enemies? This seems to be as much about your prejudices as it does concern for your friend.

tiger_eyes

fitnessguy1 wrote: »

her attitude isn't one of wife material either with the way she acts like she's something special and with her nose in the air towards people.

Maybe she doesn't realise she's a gold-digging !!!!! who should be ashamed of herself. What a relief you're here to tell her!

paddy's_mum

elsien wrote: »

With friends like this, who needs enemies? This seems to be [STRIKE]as much[/STRIKE] more about your prejudices as it does concern for your friend.

elsien - I've taken the liberty of correcting this for you :rotfl:

Hermia

fitnessguy1 wrote: »

a lot of women who are deemed as gold diggers tend to wear expensive clothing and they always seem to want to stand out by wearing provocative clothing. if you take a look at photos and videos of gold diggers you will see what i mean. also she shouldn't expect him to spend so much money on her without any resistance to disallow it on her part.

A lot of women just like dressing well and making the most of their figure. Do you know whether she has resisted his spending at all? I had an ex who loved treating me and I would constantly tell him not to, but obviously the people around us didn't know that and maybe they thought I encouraged it.

Be careful with the nose in the air stuff. Of course, there are snobs out there, but it also seems to be an unjust accusation that gets thrown around a lot. I have known some lovely down-to-earth people get accused of looking down on others simply because they had a good education, were well-spoken or cultured. The problem is that once people see you that way they interpret your behaviour in a negative way.

elsien

I put that to start with, then changed it to give the OP the benefit of the doubt. Along the lines of being nice to posters, and all that.