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Jackzzz

duchy wrote: »

OK Social skills 101

If people help you telling them you MIGHT take the time to let them know how the advice they took the time to give you worked out sounds rather stand offish....... I'm sure you didn't mean it that way but sometimes it can help to think how you say things will make other people feel. I know you're a little out of practice and I'm honestly not having a go

You're right. I should have said "will" as I do have every intention of letting you guys know how I get on. I've lived in London for 8 years and I've never gone to a museum, not a single one, can you believe that?

So first thing I'm going to do is go to the Imperial War Museum, and it's free! Maybe I can get chatting to someone in there who can teach me something that's not written on the screens.

balletshoes

heuchera wrote: »

Some great ideas on this thread, however I wouldn't recommend bar work if you're quite introverted/shy (they'll tear you to shreds! :eek::rotfl:) and also they usually if not always want someone with previous experience.

How about the Open University, or an evening leisure class? There might even be internet websites or chatrooms for singletons out there?

i wouldn't class myself as a social butterfly by any means, I was a barmaid in the evenings for years in my 20s, it was a brilliant job (and they don't require previous experience for a couple of shifts a week to start with, its very much training on the job). I'd do it again in a heartbeat if I wanted a bit more social interaction - behind the bar you're only in the spotlight if you choose to be.

Person_one

duchy wrote: »

Any female who has worked [STRIKE]in a bar [/STRIKE] in any public facing role will hear something off colour at one point or another.

Sorry Duchy, but just had to correct that slightly!

I never found bar work to be particularly social, was always very busy so little time to chat, and most people prefer to socialise with the people they've come with! The types lingering at the bar keen to talk were usually the pervy weird ones.

balletshoes

heuchera wrote: »

Nope.. this particular job was the pub area of an ice rink, but they dealt with many other ordinary pubs.

It's definitely a job for someone WITH social skills. A quiet, shrinking-violet type ought not to seek bar work (and probably wouldn't get it anyway)
Even a quiet country pub will have its share of rowdies and dodgy people on occasion.

true - but someone who only does a couple of shifts a week there is unlikely to be on their own and left to their own devices to deal with any dodgy rowdies.

My bar job was pulling pints and collecting glasses - that was it (it wasn't a pub which sold food, it was a garrison town mobbed-at-the-weekends joint).

OP if you're interested in working in bars, go to the bars and ask if they have any part time shifts going - if you don't ask, you won't know, will you?

balletshoes

Person_one wrote: »

Sorry Duchy, but just had to correct that slightly!

I never found bar work to be particularly social, was always very busy so little time to chat, and most people prefer to socialise with the people they've come with! The types lingering at the bar keen to talk were usually the pervy weird ones.

if you do get time to chat to your colleagues, it can be a very social job. I met loads of people who, outside of working with them in the pub, I probably wouldn't have had much to do with at all otherwise. It was a fun time , even when we were rushed off our feet (which to be fair, wasn't all night every night, except on weekends).

Person_one

Jackzzz wrote: »

I really enjoyed uni accommodation and lived in halls. I have no issues sharing facilities with people as long as they're not dirty people... 3 years of uni I lived with people and while not the tidiest of people, we were clean.

The great thing about trading is all you need is a laptop, I can trade anywhere.. Some mornings I just go sit in Costa for an hour trading... It would not bother me if my house mates had music on, just as long as people are considerate of others.

As I said I'd only move into a house share with others who work, so most days they'll be at work. Besides even if it was a nightmare I could just move out, might be worth a shot though.

Living with other students when you're at the same stage in your life and all in a similar mindset is worlds away from sharing as an adult. Most people don't actually enjoy living with strangers, they put up with it because it's what they can afford.

If you want to try living with a housemate or two, why not rent out rooms in your own house, then you have more control over who you share with and can ask them to leave if it doesn't work out.

Person_one

balletshoes wrote: »

if you do get time to chat to your colleagues, it can be a very social job. I met loads of people who, outside of working with them in the pub, I probably wouldn't have had much to do with at all otherwise. It was a fun time , even when we were rushed off our feet (which to be fair, wasn't all night every night, except on weekends).

Hmm, I did only work weekends, behind a bar on my own!

I think getting to know colleagues is possible wherever you work though, pretty much, and a great way to make social contacts.

prosaver

Bobcrowther wrote: »

It's not a forex course you need, it's an English teacher.

whats a forex
anyways thats my cloak
..but your to thick to understand..
:beer:

Feral_Moon

Person_one wrote: »

Sorry Duchy, but just had to correct that slightly!

I never found bar work to be particularly social, was always very busy so little time to chat, and most people prefer to socialise with the people they've come with! The types lingering at the bar keen to talk were usually the pervy weird ones.

That depends upon the type of bar you work in. A busy city central bar where you don't know the clientele is a far cry from the cosy small town or village bar where you get regulars who view the bar staff as friends/counsellors etc.

Feral_Moon

prosaver wrote: »

whats a forex
anyways thats my cloak
..but your to thick to understand..
:beer:

Oxymoron at its best :rotfl: