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Jackzzz

Poppie68 wrote: »

When my sister and friends took a year out to travel they met several others in Australia who were lone travellers... what started out as a group of 6 ended up a group of approximately 20....Get yourself to a reputable travel agents who can help you plan a trip that would most probably change your life.

Thanks for the tip. What happens after the trip ends though? These people are probably from all over the country, maybe even the world. I guess it would give me some exposure to meeting new people and I'll have a hell of a story to tell after it.

I've wanted to go on a safari trip for a while now, think I might face my fears and do it.

FBaby

Making friends when you are young and free with your time is really not difficult, especially when you have money to take you out.

Surely you must have some interests? You need to take it from there. Join a gym, a club, a group of interest. Do some research of what is available around. Then when you do, instead of waiting for people to show you some interest, interest yourself in them, it is often much easier to ask questions than to answer them.

The difficulty for some people who've been on their own for some time is they become quite insular and often self-centered as a result. You need to get out of your house with an open and curious mind. You will then enjoy learning about what's out there and that will make new people attracted to you as a person and wanting to become friends.

Mojisola

Jackzzz wrote: »

Thanks for the tip. What happens after the trip ends though? These people are probably from all over the country, maybe even the world. I guess it would give me some exposure to meeting new people and I'll have a hell of a story to tell after it.

These days, it's easy to keep in touch with people wherever they live in the world. If they become friends, you've got a few holidays sorted out and can offer to show them around if they want to visit you.

zagfles

Jackzzz wrote: »

Thanks for the tip. What happens after the trip ends though? These people are probably from all over the country, maybe even the world.

I'd keep the two separate. There are very few people I've met on my travels who I'm still in contact with. Equally I wouldn't risk going on holiday with a new friend I've met at home. Travelling with someone for a week or more is far more intense than having a drink with them down the pub once a week, or even living with them. You're with them 24/7 and unless you're incredibly compatible you will start to irritate each other to some extent.

I lived with a friend for 3 years. Always got on well, never had cross words. Went on holiday with him for 2 weeks and by the end we couldn't stand each other! My wife and I almost never argue at home, we almost always have some sort of argument on holiday.

mark55man

+ seriously - do facebook - groups or just old friends - dont overdo it - but dont not do it

find out what your old friends are up to - adds a bit of colour to chit chat

selement

I suggest having a look at TrekAmerica. I considered going once, its a group trip and people will go as singles, as couples etc and you all travel together and get to know each other. True they will be form all over so may not be friends forever but it'll be an experience (and you never know)

Poppie68

Jackzzz wrote: »

Thanks for the tip. What happens after the trip ends though? These people are probably from all over the country, maybe even the world. I guess it would give me some exposure to meeting new people and I'll have a hell of a story to tell after it.

I've wanted to go on a safari trip for a while now, think I might face my fears and do it.

They are all Brits and several of them still meet up occasionally, don't worry about after the trip just concentrate on organising one to start with..

heuchera

Some great ideas on this thread, however I wouldn't recommend bar work if you're quite introverted/shy (they'll tear you to shreds! :eek::rotfl:) and also they usually if not always want someone with previous experience.

How about the Open University, or an evening leisure class? There might even be internet websites or chatrooms for singletons out there?

System

Jackzzz wrote: »

Afternoon everyone. It's taking me a lot to make this thread so please no trolls.

I'm 27 and don't have a single friend I can call to go for a drink, something to eat, watch a movie or just hang out. I think I'm starting to get depressed now. I used to be content with it but now I'm really starting to feel it. I am an only child, my father left when I was young and my mother passed away when I was 20 so I have no family. Well I have a aunt an uncle but I've not seen or heard from them since my mothers funeral.

At uni I made friends with quite a lot of people and really enjoyed the experience although after uni, everyone just went their separate ways and as a result, never hear from any of them. I worked after leaving uni but struggled to make friends with my colleagues, sure I spoke to them at work but never really bonded with anyone and so never did anything outside of work.

I quit my job and started forex trading at home and make more than I even dreamt possible but it's worthless because I can't really spend the money. As a result I spend everyday in my home, by myself and have no opportunity to meet new people and I'm getting very lonely. I do find it very difficult to meet new people but once I know them it's fine.

I can't go on holiday because I have nobody to go with, I can't eat at a restaurant because I'm there by myself and it's awkward, my home is large but empty, my car never has passengers and whenever I go to get my hair cut or something I always get asked what I've been upto and I just never have a response because my life has nothing in it apart from trading. I have no stories to tell anyone... ever. Sure I can tell them about my trades but that's often seen as bragging.

Then there comes the problem of if I do make friends, I kind of have to have friends that earn a similar wage to me, not that I am stuck up or anything but it would also be awkward if any friends I make can't afford to do things with me. I really really want to go to new york for example, not a cheap trip.

I've thought about getting another job just to get myself mixing with others again but then I can't trade... or I was thinking about going back to uni but I'm 27, pretty old compared to the 18 and 19 years old that will be there.

What does one do in my situation? I understand there are people that have it much worse and you're probably thinking I have money so what am I complaining about right? Well I never believed it before I had money but trust me, money creates ease, not enjoyment.

Any advice is much appreciated.

Just by saying that you are alienating yourself from loads of potential friends! I am almost 2 years older than you and i have friends who earn loads more than me and friends who earn less than me but we can all go out together and have a good time. Some of the best times out are going to places that are free

prosaver

why dont you start a trading course and your the teacher.
you could teach all us, the poor people and then we will have enough money to go to america with you..
happy daze for everyone..
what have you got to lose?
im up for it...anyone else?

ps while your teaching us lot, we could go to the pub after the lessons.
:beer::beer: