Girlfriend's pregnant...

Person_one

marksoton wrote: »

And you know it was unplanned how?

"she's decided to keep it"

Couples planning a child tend to know in advance they'll be keeping it. They also don't tend to be teenagers at risk of homelessness if they have a baby, despite what the Daily Mail might want you to think.

marksoton

Poppie68 wrote: »

Why?....The father works and pays his taxes, and there is nothing to suggest the mother won't work in the future...

Well yes there is. They are 17 and don't work.

Honestly.....

Poppie68

leveller2911 wrote: »

There is a difference Gwylim and that is the majority of us (working class ) would have worked for a good few years and paid into the tax system whereas the OP is 21 and unlikely to have paid much in and his GF is 17........

My wife was 30 and I was 29 when we had our 1st child so Big difference ..........

What difference does it make.... They will still work for the same amount of years in the end....The child will eventually grow up and work themselves and contribute to the system.

marksoton

Person_one wrote: »

"she's decided to keep it"

Couples planning a child tend to know in advance they'll be keeping it. They also don't tend to be teenagers at risk of homelessness if they have a baby, despite what the Daily Mail might want you to think.

They also don't tend to refer to their child as "it"

Or post on forums asking for advice on what they can claim rather than what THEY can do.

Work it out....It really isn't hard.

leveller2911

Poppie68 wrote: »

Why?....The father works and pays his taxes, and there is nothing to suggest the mother won't work in the future...

And nothing to suggest she will work in the future.........

Many don't, they just shuck out another child when the one they have reaches school age when they are expected to "go back to work" .

Its great being a woman, threatened with benefit sanctions if they don't find a job so pop out another kid and hay presto ,back on the benefits gravytrain...

Just to add I was born and bought up on a council estate and saw it every day and still see it so I judge from experience......

Poppie68

marksoton wrote: »

Well yes there is. They are 17 and don't work.

Honestly.....

Eh....so because she is 17 now and not working this means she won't work in the future?

missbiggles1

Poppie68 wrote: »

What difference does it make.... They will still work for the same amount of years in the end....The child will eventually grow up and work themselves and contribute to the system.

And you know that for certain, how exactly?

ManuelG

missbiggles1 wrote: »

And you know that for certain, how exactly?

It's as certain as the alternative view.

The child could also find a cure for cancer.

Edit - as could the mother of course!

FBaby

17? Kicked out by family? Unmarried? Homeless? Unemployed? Pregnant?

Partner 21 and without a home to offer her?

The answer is so simple and so obvious

Indeed it is. OH should be saving every penny for a deposit on a place to rent, which he can do as he works full-time and lives at home. He should then look to rent a small cheap one bed flat. He and she should look on freecycle for furniture/ask family friends for cash for birthdays to help to purchase what they can't get for free.

They should move in together, OP continuing to work full-time whilst girlfriend continue/take on studying whilst looking after baby. They should ensure they are using double contraception so she doesn't fall pregnant again. OP's girlfriend should take on work experience whilst still studying whilst child is in free childcare and then plan to graduate by the time child is 5 and at school and she can start applying for reasonably paid jobs.

Most of all, they should ignore all judgmental comments about how they are wasting their lives. Good luck OP.

Poppie68

leveller2911 wrote: »

And nothing to suggest she will work in the future.........

Many don't, they just shuck out another child when the one they have reaches school age and they are expected to "go back to work" .

Its great being a woman, threatened with benefit sanctions if they don't find a job so pop out another kid and hay presto ,back on the benefits gravytrain...

Just to add I was born and bought up on a council estate and saw it every day and still see it so I judge from experience......

They are a couple, they are together....He works full-time as a bus driver at 21 which to me seems like he is responsible and no different to an older parent who manages to provide for their families..

Not all single mothers keep popping out kids for the benefits many are hard working parents who have to deal with ignorance and discrimination from people that only seem to see one side of single parenthood.