Girlfriend's pregnant...

GwylimT

Mojisola wrote: »

Except that all of us will be paying for her choice for many years to come.

Which is the case for all children unless parents are very wealthy and the child never uses the NHS or any form of state funded education, so a rather pointless comment.

Person_one

Mojisola wrote: »

Except that all of us will be paying for her choice for many years to come.

That's a pointless argument though isn't it? Unless you're going to start enforcing abortions on women without money. Personally, I have no issue with my taxes partly helping women and children in this situation.

Deciding how to handle an unplanned pregnancy is a huge and very personal decision, and only the pregnant woman can or should make it. A termination that she doesn't really want could impact on her for years to come, and a child she doesn't really want will impact on both of them. She needs to know what either path will entail, but nobody should be pushing her or trying to 'convince' her of anything.

leveller2911

I wish the OP and his GF well but there really is no excuse (apart from rape) for couples to be having children before they are ready to start a family.

Children are a green like to milk the benefits system and as others have said its entirely their choice to have children but the rest of us also have the right to be p*ssed off for having to pay for it.

leveller2911

GwylimT wrote: »

Which is the case for all children unless parents are very wealthy and the child never uses the NHS or any form of state funded education, so a rather pointless comment.

There is a difference Gwylim and that is the majority of us (working class ) would have worked for a good few years and paid into the tax system whereas the OP is 21 and unlikely to have paid much in and his GF is 17........

My wife was 30 and I was 29 when we had our 1st child so Big difference ..........

marksoton

Person_one wrote: »

Deciding how to handle an unplanned pregnancy is a huge and very personal decision,

And you know it was unplanned how?

Poppie68

FGS the mother will be18 when the baby is born which is hardly a baby herself.... The father is 21 and working full-time.... So what if they get help in the form off tax credits/child benefit, plenty of older parents also get the same help...
The country is full of young parents who manage to bring their children up successfully and without previous 'life experience'....In fact this is part of life experience.
If the Op had wanted advice on getting rid of their baby I'm quite sure this would not be the place he would go for advice.

Poppie68

Mojisola wrote: »

Except that all of us will be paying for her choice for many years to come.

Why?....The father works and pays his taxes, and there is nothing to suggest the mother won't work in the future...

Poppie68

marksoton wrote: »

And you know it was unplanned how?

Does it matter if it was planned or not?....Nothing to do with anyone on here if it was or not.

G_M

well looks like I wasn't the only one wanting to expand the dialogue beyond the housing question!

I'll put my can-opener back in the drawer now that the worms have escaped.

ManuelG

Poppie68 wrote: »

Does it matter if it was planned or not?....Nothing to do with anyone on here if it was or not.

Given the OP mentions

IntriguedUser wrote: »

She's decided she's keeping it, and I said I'll offer my support whichever option she decided to take in relation to the baby.

There wouldn;t have been a decision to make if it was planned...