Girlfriend's pregnant...

G_M

You come to a public forum and share your personal circumstances you will get replies of all sorts.

No, it's not housing advice (and my record shows I'm not averse to helping people with housing issues where I can), but it is advice.

Not the only advice - I'm sure others (yourself?) might advise an opposing course of action, but if this were a member of my family, that's what I'd be saying (subject to a deeper understanding).

17? Kicked out by family? Unmarried? Homeless? Unemployed? Pregnant?

Partner 21 and without a home to offer her?

The answer is so simple and so obvious.

moneyistooshorttomention

I'm glad I wasn't the only one thinking "How did she manage that?" re getting pregnant, followed by "It's not good timing....best to decide not to be parents yet...".

HappyMJ

Benefits will pay more than enough to cover their living costs so I don't see any problem with keeping the baby.

OP, save every penny you possibly can and find a private rental using your income to secure a tenancy in the private rental market. You may need a guarantor so find one if you can.

It only needs to be a bedsit for a year. Keep saving as much as you possibly can and after a year or two move into a 2 bedroom flat. After a few more years of saving and possibly another child then you can move in to a 3 bedroom house.

Do not rely totally on benefits you need to do as much work as possible to have the best life for you and your family. Take another job....heck take another 2 jobs. There's time in the evening and weekends to work so do that as much as possible.

Person_one

G_M wrote: »

The answer is so simple and so obvious.

...and if you're ever in that situation it will be completely up to you, and you alone, to decide on that answer.

marksoton

emsywoo123 wrote: »

I expect this is exactly what the OP turned to MSE for.

It may be the making of her/them. It may not. But it has got s0d all to do with housing and why he came to this website.

If you're suggesting people are being judgemental then yes,they are.

And why not. Everyone is judged everyday by those around them.

Some people do not appreciate the system being played. I'll wager it is in this case.

bobbymotors

marksoton wrote: »

If you're suggesting people are being judgemental then yes,they are.

And why not. Everyone is judged everyday by those around them.

Some people do not appreciate the system being played. I'll wager it is in this case.

Yep, its not about judging anyone...but those of us on here that have more experience of life can foresee that it will most likely end badly.

G_M

Person_one wrote: »

...and if you're ever in that situation it will be completely up to you, and you alone, to decide on that answer.

Indeed. I agree completely.

But I guarantee my family, & friends (and strangers on the internet if I posted my circumstances there) would all offer advice, suggestions & opinions.

Indeed, I'd be disappointed if they did not (family/friends at least).

Whether I were the age I am or, chr*st forbid, only 17!

seven-day-weekend

G_M wrote: »

You come to a public forum and share your personal circumstances you will get replies of all sorts.

No, it's not housing advice (and my record shows I'm not averse to helping people with housing issues where I can), but it is advice.

Not the only advice - I'm sure others (yourself?) might advise an opposing course of action, but if this were a member of my family, that's what I'd be saying (subject to a deeper understanding).

17? Kicked out by family? Unmarried? Homeless? Unemployed? Pregnant?

Partner 21 and without a home to offer her?

The answer is so simple and so obvious.

The young woman has a CHOICE and has chosen to have the baby, it's not for anyone to question that choice.

To the OP, regards housing, you need to see someone at your local council housing dept to see if you/she are eligible.

bobbymotors

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

The young woman has a CHOICE and has chosen to have the baby, it's not for anyone to question that choice.

To the OP, regards housing, you need to see someone at your local council housing dept to see if you/she are eligible.

She does indeed have a choice...rather a pity though that the rest of us don't have any choice on whether to pay for it or not.

But apart from that, she is 17...the child will need care throughout the years when all her friends will be out clubbing and enjoying themselves...which she is bound to resent.

It will not end well....

Mojisola

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

The young woman has a CHOICE and has chosen to have the baby, it's not for anyone to question that choice.

Except that all of us will be paying for her choice for many years to come.