Unbelievably selfish woman

Alikay

Drinking large amounts of booze without bringing a couple of bottles as a contribution does seem a bit stingy, but the amount spent on Christmas presents, seems OK to me. I think we only spent a little more than that on our grandchildren, and ours only got inexpensive gifts from the in laws as children (stuff like a book, Lynx gift set etc). My side are Jehovah's Witnesses so no Christmas or Birthday presents - the kids are much loved and well aware of it, though.

Some families, like ours, just don't DO expensive presents. We have outings, meals out, mini breaks together (usually funded by us these days, my parents back when our kids were little), but actual gifts aren't really our thing.

scooby088

Trazy wrote: »

she didn't contribute anything
I'm glad that some of you find it funny to bully me, must make you feel so good

And what did you contribute?

Lily-Rose_3

The OP has logged off now she is being asked questions she doesn't want to answer/can't answer.

Speaks volumes.

I did feel for her to begin with, but now I am questioning how much of what she says is true; especially the woman eating and drinking £175 worth of stuff in one day!

I have asked again and again how she consumed that much, but she has not replied, and then she logged off.

I am not wasting any more time on this thread. All the OP has done is moan, and accuse people of bullying her.

theoretica

Maybe she didn't feel everything has to be equal on the short term, and why should it be. When her daughter was younger presumably she didn't grudge her meals and probably even the occasional gift, maybe during the rest of the year she provides more meals than the younger generation, and likely the daughter will inherit a share of what she doesn't spend now.

JulieElizabeth

This is precisely why I refuse to "do" Christmas

duchy

I suspect had MIL turned up brandishing bottles of expensive champagne and expensive gifts for the kids she'd have been in the wrong too.

Tracey lost any sympathy from me with her ridiculous post that people were bullying her ....... obviously unless you agree with her 100% you are against her-which for me made me wonder about her first post.

Personally I don't expect guests to bring anything except themselves and I'd think it the height of rudeness if a guest complained that another guest's gifts were inadequate. Family or not- none of their business ! I certainly don't decide how much I am going to spend on their meal by calculating how much any gift they may or may not bring costs.

There's an awful lot of posts this year from people calculating how much gifts given by others cost - I think it's horrible and utterly not what Christmas is about to me.

Often there's more to it anyway - for example my OH bought presents for all the grandkids (his not mine) but we've also bought tickets for him to take all 4 plus parents to the panto with him. If his ex was the type to add up how much the presents they got on the day cost (she wouldn't ) she might conclude he'd spent less than her when in fact he'd spent more .

For all we know the other MIL might have paid for the Christmas food or helped with some other expense- and the son and DIL didn't feel it was her business to tell her especially as she clearly dislikes the other granny.

Tiddlywinks

Trazy wrote: »

I'm feeling so wound up
My son has his mother in law staying for Christmas, I was there for Christmas day and she talked all about herself and how much money she has
She gave the kids a tenner each and her daughter and my son a £15 marks and spensers voucher to share, Yet ate and drank five times that amount
how can anybody be so bloody selfish?

Selfish? Yes you are...

You probably sat there with a sour look on your face bringing the atmosphere down through your jealousy of having to share the day.

When I invite people over they are my guests - they don't have to pay for anything, do any housework or pass any 'generosity' test.

Also, since when have grandparents been measured by the value of their gifts? There's so much more to a relationship than 'transactions'.

You just seem really mean spirited to me....

Rebel_Cause

Mother in laws hey... who'd have 'em?

This reminds me of Everybody Loves Raymond

'Conneticut Grandma and Grandpa and regular Grandma and Grandpa'

Maybe son's MIL is in debt to her eyeballs or possibly really thrifty, you would be suprised the amount of money people pretend to have when they do not have a pot to do the proverbial in.

balletshoes

Trazy wrote: »

I'm feeling so wound up
My son has his mother in law staying for Christmas, I was there for Christmas day and she talked all about herself and how much money she has
She gave the kids a tenner each and her daughter and my son a £15 marks and spensers voucher to share, Yet ate and drank five times that amount
how can anybody be so bloody selfish?

how was she selfish? she was an invited guest, she brought presents for the hosts and their children. She ate and drank the equivalent of over £175 (based on there being 2 kids) - what was your son serving her, champagne and caviar?

She'd have been selfish if she tipped up with nothing at all for her hosts and then drank and ate her way through £175 worth of goodies.

balletshoes

melanzana wrote: »

Competitiveness regarding presents is not good imv.

Anyway, our family do not do presents except for the babies.

And that is not over the top either. Just a few bells and whistles to make it fun.

Christmas is for comparing or complaining? !!!!!!. Is it not for enjoying people and families?

This is why I am, and always will be a bah humbug.

I'm Mrs Claus's daughter and I agree completely with you!