Unbelievably selfish woman

Trazy

I'm feeling so wound up
My son has his mother in law staying for Christmas, I was there for Christmas day and she talked all about herself and how much money she has
She gave the kids a tenner each and her daughter and my son a £15 marks and spencers voucher to share, Yet ate and drank five times that amount
how can anybody be so bloody selfish?

74jax

Trazy wrote: »

I'm feeling so wound up
My son has his mother in law staying for Christmas, I was there for Christmas day and she talked all about herself and how much money she has
She gave the kids a tenner each and her daughter and my son a £15 marks and spensers voucher to share, Yet ate and drank five times that amount
how can anybody be so bloody selfish?

I'm not sure what you mean, was she contributing to the Christmas meal? In which case I totally agree, but maybe it was an oversight on her part and once home she'll remember?

I do think she could have at least taken a bottle or two to contribute also.

I never understand why people talk about their money, they're so much more interesting things to talk about.

victor2

Maybe she has money because she tightly controls her expenditure.
Maybe she doesn't have as much money as she led you to believe.
Maybe you and her will never be destined to get along. If your son can tolerate her and just accepts her as she is, then why get worked up about it?

meer53

Lots of people are like that. Just rise above it and be yourself. Don't let her get to you, she'll get her comeuppance one day.

Maybe she doesn't have as much money as she makes out, i'd feel sorry for her if it were me.

Dizzy_Ditzy

My brother and his wife came to my house on Xmas day for drinks - they drank pretty much everything I'd bought in especially for those who were staying for dinner and stayed so long I thought I'd have to plate up some dinner for them too :eek:

They spent ages telling everyone about the presents they'd given each other, brought presents round for my parents and gran but didn't even bring a card round for me :eek:

Surely it's basic common courtesy - if you're invited to someone's house at Christmas you take the bare minimum of a card?! I'd given them both a card and presents

FWIW - my ex SIL came too with the kids - she exists on benefits and every penny goes on bills, food and the kids - even she brought a card, some wine and chocolates

melanzana

Sorry to be so blunt, but I doubt you like the woman much.

If she had given the pressies in private, and if no one had said anything, what would the problem be?

There is more to this.

I HATE CHRISTMAS FOR ALL THIS MULLARKEY!.

So sorry for shouting. It is not all about who gave what to whom.

It is much more. And baggage maybe too.

Move on and enjoy your family. There is a whole year to go before the next drama.

Lily-Rose_3

If there is one thing I LOATHE; it's people who BRAG about the cost and value of what they have.

Their £400K house. (Usually highly mortgaged!)
Their £30K car. (Usually on finance!)
Their £3K holiday. (Usually bought in a credit card!)

And they always do their food shop at M & S or Waitrose, and HAVE to tell everyone about it.

They will never buy or wear anything other than name brand clothes and shoes. And they always have to tell everyone about it.

I think people who are consumed with their wealth/money/bank balance have nothing else in their lives.

Your MIL sounds like one of these people. She is probably just sad and miserable and alone, and this is all she has.

Pity her, don't get mad, and move on.

Happy new year.

missbiggles1

Trazy wrote: »

I'm feeling so wound up
My son has his mother in law staying for Christmas, I was there for Christmas day and she talked all about herself and how much money she has
She gave the kids a tenner each and her daughter and my son a £15 marks and spensers voucher to share, Yet ate and drank five times that amount
how can anybody be so bloody selfish?

She ate and drank over £175 worth of goodies - how?

splishsplash

missbiggles1 wrote: »

She ate and drank over £175 worth of goodies - how?

Easily:rotfl:

DUTR

Trazy wrote: »

I'm feeling so wound up
My son has his mother in law staying for Christmas, I was there for Christmas day and she talked all about herself and how much money she has
She gave the kids a tenner each and her daughter and my son a £15 marks and spensers voucher to share, Yet ate and drank five times that amount
how can anybody be so bloody selfish?

I'm trying to see where she is selfish?
You are hosting the guests.
Which kids, yours?

melanzana

"So here it is, Merry Christmas, everybody's havin fun".

If you feel so annoyed, she has certainly hit some buttons alright!

Your choice to be angry or laugh and get over it.