Unbelievably selfish woman

picklekin

I think the part of this thread that annoyed me was the obsessing over the "5 times" and how much it was... most of us exaggerate for effect when we are upset (I know I do anyway), and comments like that taken 100% literally is just to pick apart the OP for no reason. Yes, this is a money savings website and we do like accurate sums, but it seemed unwarranted,

She ate of lot of food and drink and gave quite stingy gifts for someone that boasts about their money.

Prothet_of_Doom

I gave my Dad, a book that I bought for myself, I read it, and then wrapped it up for him.
Now that's tight.

suki1964

JJG wrote: »

That's impressive when the website hasn't even been around 13 years yet.

So I exagerated , rather like the op :rotfl:

suki1964

Prothet_of_Doom wrote: »

I gave my Dad, a book that I bought for myself, I read it, and then wrapped it up for him.
Now that's tight.

Only if it was a paper back

I done the same years back with a hard back

Pollycat

Anatidaephobia wrote: »

That is completely different from someone turning up with bags of food that was not asked for, not agreed, not prearranged, and not wanted. "Normal" gifts to bring to someone's house are things like bottles of wine/alcohol, flowers, chocolates; people don't normally bring actual food to be used as a component of the meal unless it is prearranged. Anyone who invited a relative over for a Christmas turkey dinner would be very surprised if said relative turned up on the door step with an uncooked Tesco turkey in a carrier bag.

I agree with this.
One year my Mum turned up at my sister's house for Christmas dinner with some courgettes and an aubergine - bought reduced.

Now, I doubt my Mum has ever cooked these vegetables and I'm not sure anyone else would think they would go perfectly with pigs-in-blankets, sprouts and gravy.
But she kept popping into the kitchen asking what my sis was going to do with them. Quite frankly, it stressed my sister out.
An example of unasked for, unwanted food.

Kim_kim wrote: »

Petra - there was some very odd responses on here. I'm not surprised either the poster didn't come back.

I got some very odd comments because I like to help my daughter (young family, childcare costs, mortgage) with some of the expense of hosting Christmas.
I like to help them in any small way I can & it's very appreciated by both of them.

Kim kim, you originally posted that you took a large bag of food to your daughter's at Christmas which promoted some discussion about whether that was appropriate, then clarified in a later post that it was pre-agreed, then later that it was to help out financially.
If all that information had been included in one post, I don't think you'd have got any odd comments at all.

cbrown372 wrote: »

I'm not sure what help and advice the OP wanted, can you tell us?

Kim_kim wrote: »

I don't know, maybe an anonymous rant :-)
Maybe people chipping in with their similar experiences.

So like a 'there, there, dear - such a nasty women, no wonder you're so wound up' type of response?

If that's what the OP is looking for, this is the wrong place.
People have opinions.
Those opinions will differ - it's very rare to get a thread where 100% agreement is expressed - some people will voice their opinion more vociferously than others, some will voice them more eloquently than others. But, unless there is rudeness, they all have a place on here.

Petra_70

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

Bit rich isn't it? When you do exactly the same thing in the "guests, how welcome are they really?" thread.

Whilst I agree with you that leaving dirty underwear on the floor is gross, I also think what people do in their own house us up to them. Your attack on pastures was uncalled for and totally the behaviour you are apparently sick of on here.

Tiddlywinks wrote: »

Oh, the irony.... Have you read some of your own posts recently?
Let me enlighten you...
http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showpost.php?p=69791318&postcount=46
http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showpost.php?p=69791283&postcount=44
http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showpost.php?p=69697815&postcount=58

Plus, as GeorgieGirl said, you got personal with a long standing member on another thread - a poster who really never has a mean bone in her body. Proud of yourself for that, are you?

Now, I'm no angel in the posting department BUT nor are you so YOU need to get down off YOUR high horse too.

Oh FGS, there is a WORLD of difference between someone arguing and debating with someone on a thread now and again, and posting a couple of 'argumentative' posts, and the CONTINUAL goading, bullying and haranguing and mocking that goes on on here. People backing each other up, joining in, LOL-ing and mocking, and dragging up old threads and posts to try and discredit people, and then saying 'don't post if you don't want a vast array of opinions yada yada!!!' And it's ALWAYS the same people.

So don't even TRY to compare anything I have ever said to anyone, to the bullying that goes on on this board.

I would go and drag up all the stuff YOU have posted tiddlywinks, but frankly, I have better things to do with my time.

And as for you Georgie, picking me up on ONE thing I said to a poster that was no worse than what several others were saying; utterly pathetic. Better try harder next time love. You're slipping.

and she gave as good as she got, but you've nothing to say to her have you?! No of course not, because she is a long standing member...!!!

As you were. :cool:

Pollycat

Petra_70 wrote: »

Oh FGS, there is a WORLD of difference between someone arguing and debating with someone on a thread now and again, and posting a couple of 'argumentative' posts, and the CONTINUAL goading, bullying and haranguing and mocking that goes on on here. People backing each other up, joining in, LOL-ing and mocking, and dragging up old threads and posts to try and discredit people, and then saying 'don't post if you don't want a vast array of opinions yada yada!!!' And it's ALWAYS the same people.

So don't even TRY to compare anything I have ever said to anyone, to the bullying that goes on on this board.

I would go and drag up all the stuff YOU have posted tiddlywinks, but frankly, I have better things to do with my time.

And as for you Georgie, picking me up on ONE thing I said to a poster that was no worse than what several others were saying; utterly pathetic. Better try harder next time love. You're slipping.

and she gave as good as she got, but you've nothing to say to her have you?! No of course not, because she is a long standing member...!!!

As you were. :cool:

I'm not sure who this is aimed at but speaking solely for myself, I don't back anyone up and I don't join in with whatever......

I've not noticed any "CONTINUAL goading, bullying and haranguing and mocking" going on.

I have my own opinions, sometimes they coincide with x user, sometimes they are diametrically opposite.

I thank the posts that I agree with, don't thank the ones I don't agree with.

Isn't that how the site is supposed to work?

BrassicWoman

Trazy wrote: »

I'm feeling so wound up
My son has his mother in law staying for Christmas, I was there for Christmas day and she talked all about herself and how much money she has
She gave the kids a tenner each and her daughter and my son a £15 marks and spensers voucher to share, Yet ate and drank five times that amount
how can anybody be so bloody selfish?

Altered behaviour due to dementia? It reduces some people's ability to see any perspective but their own.

HurdyGurdy

I think the OP chose the wrong word when she said "selfish". Probably "stingy" or "tight" or "mean" would have been more appropriate.

And as for the OBSESSION over "ate and drank five times that amount"? Dear god - have none of you ever exaggerated for effect? Or are you all completely literal people? I have been telling work colleagues that "I have eaten my own bodyweight in crap food over Christmas". I haven't, of course, and luckily no one took me literally, but just understood that I was admitting to having been ultra greedy.

I think the OP saw what she believed to be a family taken advantage of by her son's MIL and wanted to vent her feelings. Some of the comments, (and omg, what IS IT with hunting down and c+p other posters' previous comments!?) have been a bit harsh and unnecessary.

I should think the OP has been scared off now and won't return to the thread. Or maybe not even to the board or the site.

Pollycat

HurdyGurdy wrote: »

I think the OP saw what she believed to be a family taken advantage of by her son's MIL and wanted to vent her feelings. Some of the comments, (and omg, what IS IT with hunting down and c+p other posters' previous comments!?) have been a bit harsh and unnecessary.

I should think the OP has been scared off now and won't return to the thread. Or maybe not even to the board or the site.

We don't actually know if the OP's son and his wife (this so-called selfish woman's daughter) actually felt they were being taken advantage of.
I asked that question:

Pollycat wrote: »

The above is the opinion of a mother-in-law (to her son's wife).

I'd be very interested in the opinions held by her son and his wife.
Do they agree with the OP's assessment of this woman as 'selfish' or are they happy with what she gave?

I think as the OP threw out groundless accusations of bullying because she didn't get the responses she expected, I think it's possibly just her who is annoyed on her son & grandchildren's behalf.

As for hunting down other posters' previous comments, I think when you start throwing stones, you should first make sure your house isn't made of glass.