Unbelievably selfish woman

Kim_kim

FBaby wrote: »

There is no right or wrong way, it's a matter of adapting to what is expected or wished for. I have one friend who tend to host dinner parties more than the others because she enjoys it and her house is perfect. When she does, she cooks the main meal and we all bring something else. I wouldn't think of coming empty handed.

Christmas meal at MIL, the arrangement is that they buy everything but the turkey which we get as well as the wine.

However, I would never bring something at my parents because they would feel offended if we did.

What is wrong though is to base judgement on what others do based solely on what we do ourselves.

Indeed you are right.

scooby088

Has the OP been back on since

74jax

scooby088 wrote: »

Has the OP been back on since

Just to say we are bullying her.

scooby088

74jax wrote: »

Just to say we are bullying her.

For the life of me I can't see any bullying at all.

heuchera

She doesn't post very often and she's probably regretting starting a thread on here :rotfl:

Kim_kim

heuchera wrote: »

She doesn't post very often and she's probably regretting starting a thread on here :rotfl:

Why is that funny? I don't understand.

heuchera

Kim_kim wrote: »

Why is that funny? I don't understand.

I don't think she's posted on the marriages board before and may not have been expecting the responses she got. I had a quick glance at her post history. She has been a member for a long time but is not a prolific poster.

Kim_kim

heuchera wrote: »

I don't think she's posted on the marriages board before and may not have been expecting the responses she got. I had a quick glance at her post history. She has been a member for a long time but is not a prolific poster.

Thank you. I wasn't sure if you meant "she should have known what to expect".
But I knew I must have that wrong as this is a help forum & this particular board for family troubles.

Petra_70

I bet Trazy IS regretting starting a thread on here, seeing as how her thread has gone the way that many threads go on here. With the OP being mocked and laughed at.

When someone posts a thread on here (not everyone; it depends if your face fits,) no matter what they post, someone will come along and have a go at them and criticize them and try and belittle them. Then before long, a few others will join in (usually the same half a dozen usernames EVERY TIME.) It's not ever 'bullying' though; people shouldn't post on here if they don't want an array of responses should they?! !

I don't blame Trazy for not returning, with the way people have behaved on this thread; laughing and berating.

As I said, it depends if your face fits; some posters never get attacked and mocked in this manner. But I have seen it happen to some people on here, including myself, and it's very unpleasant when you are the target. No wonder people make up a new username (and say 'new username to protect my identity,') when they want to start a thread on here.

It's like a snake pit in here sometimes! The worrying thing is that many people cannot see how bad their behaviour actually is!

Kim_kim

Petra - there was some very odd responses on here. I'm not surprised either the poster didn't come back.

I got some very odd comments because I like to help my daughter (young family, childcare costs, mortgage) with some of the expense of hosting Christmas.
I like to help them in any small way I can & it's very appreciated by both of them.