Facebook dilemma

absolutereturn

melanzana wrote: »

FaceBook can be great for some. But it is NOT for me.

And I like internet stuff, but not that.

Fair enough, not everything is for everyone.

melanzana wrote: »

Unlikely. That is why I think FB is a dangerous tool in unstable hands.

No more dangerous than the phone or the post.

melanzana wrote: »

And too many people think FB is actual, rather than a virtual world.

The people are all real, not virtual, although it probably doesn't feel as bad to be unfriended on FB as having a door slammed in your face.

melanzana wrote: »

Wattsapp, FaceTime and email with attachments and indeed Skype do not involve all this angst, and it works to keep in touch!

Some emails with attachments did cause me a lot of angst, which I never experienced on FB. We all have different experiences.

melanzana wrote: »

Childish behaviour all round. Get OFF FB and grow up.

Pardon? _pale_

fierystormcloud wrote: »

I think this is a bit harsh. FB is a lifeline to friends and family who don't live closeby, and many people keep in touch, sharing pics, and posts, and playing games, and generally having fun. And It is certainly NOT a 'virtual world.' Every single one of my 133 'friends' on FB, is a person I know in real life.

Indeed, I got back in touch with my family in OZ and some old friends in Spain I'd not been in touch with in 20 years, via FB. :T

melanzana wrote: »

And it's not always about rows and arguments and !!!!!! as some are trying to say! Good grief.

I have had my FB for 7 years and have never experienced any of the horrors that people are carping on about on here.

Same here, joined in 2008 and haven't had any big dramas. :A

DevilsAdvocate1

heuchera wrote: »

Public libraries also have internet access for older children (teens) which is fine, but I'm pretty sure you can't just go accessing dodgy sites from library computers! You'd soon get booted off if you tried.

The school need a heads-up on that site which the boy managed to access.

Don't worry, the school were made aware. Also, we explained about the trouble he would get into if the school caught him. It wasn't a dodgy site, btw, just one the school did not allow.

barbarawright

Pollycat wrote: »

Really?
You don't think there's any more rows on FB than in real life.....?

Really? :rotfl::rotfl: :rotfl:

Not in my circles because I chat to people I know or friends of friends and I'm not a particularly row-prone person. It might be different if I opened up my FB feed to the entire world but why would I do that? Things may be different for other people but it takes two to make a row

securityguy

heuchera wrote: »

That question was answered a few posts ago..

Not to the point of actually answering it.

You're claiming it's illegal for a parent of ten to permit their child to use Facebook. I've simply asked for you to cite legislation or case law, which will involve (almost certainly) a successful prosecution. If a parent permits a child to use Facebook, aged 10, which legislation are they breaking, and under what circumstances might they be prosecuted? Because otherwise, it isn't illegal, is it?

Kynthia

Facebook is a great way of keeping in touch with family and friends, particularly when many live abroad. Like many things people only hear about the bad and I agree with the statement that people who row in real life will row on Facebook. I've never had an incident or witnessed a fallout of any kind. I do think it helps to only have people you actually are friends with or family, plus I believe that many children with accounts are only allowed supervised access despite what many assume. Using the internet is a skill that needs teaching gradually and being able to post updates to family and chat to them is a fairly safe way to start.

duchy

I get so tired of these "Facebook is the spawn of the devil" type posts. It is no different to any other form of communication. If you are the type of person to argue with everyone or gossip or wash your own dirty linen in public then you'll do it on FB too- If you are a bit pickier about your friends then you won't have problems - just like any other friendships .

I've a stupid number of FB friends - some going back to the early days of the internet. If I look on my feed right now I see posts from people I acted with forty years ago, people I've worked with, others I've met in America , family in Australia , some I play online games with and so on. I don't see posts from people arguing or making passive aggressive comments or posting !!!!!! or other unsuitable media because anyone who does that gets blocked straightaway.

It is easy enough to manage - and it keeps me in touch with people who it isn't always easy to keep up with by phone or face to face. I spent a holiday in the US this year with two girlfriends who live 8 timezones away. We arranged everything together online -and hadn't actually seen each other face to face in a long time - Yet had you seen us together on that trip you'd have assumed we saw each other all the time as we were so easy in each other's company and were chatting about current things and not just stuff from when we'd last seen each other.

Facebook can cause absolute misery or be a great social tool - it's no different to chatting to someone face to face - you can use it for good or for bad.

Pollycat

duchy wrote: »

Facebook can cause absolute misery or be a great social tool - it's no different to chatting to someone face to face - you can use it for good or for bad.

I think that, because it's not face to face, a lot if people think they can 'say' anything they like.

heuchera

Pollycat wrote: »

I think that, because it's not face to face, a lot if people think they can 'say' anything they like.

They can also create online personas, photoshop pictures, and turn into veritable keyboard warriors (as the OP has seen). Not saying that everyone who uses FaceBook does that, but a large number of people do, unfortunately.

heuchera

securityguy wrote: »

Not to the point of actually answering it.

You're claiming it's illegal for a parent of ten to permit their child to use Facebook. I've simply asked for you to cite legislation or case law, which will involve (almost certainly) a successful prosecution. If a parent permits a child to use Facebook, aged 10, which legislation are they breaking, and under what circumstances might they be prosecuted? Because otherwise, it isn't illegal, is it?

If someone is illegally creating an account, FaceBook could (and should) take action. The fact that they rarely if ever do is not really relevant.

Only irresponsible parents would allow their 10 year old to go on the net unsupervised anyway.

barbarawright

heuchera wrote: »

They can also create online personas, photoshop pictures, and turn into veritable keyboard warriors (as the OP has seen). Not saying that everyone who uses FaceBook does that, but a large number of people do, unfortunately.

I don't friend people I don't know either in person or as friends or friends so that sort of behaviour doesn't worry me. My experience is pretty much that of Duchy's. Interestingly it seems to be the people who don't use FB who seem to have the most negative views of it