Social Services say i need to quit job

GobbledyGook

If SS believe you need to be the full time carer for your child then you need to get your financial ducks in order. Giving up work to care for your child and a partner who has difficulties/health problems isn't the same as being unemployed and struggling to find work. It's really not.

You need to ask SS for help applying for PIP for your partner so that you can access Carer's Allowance. Also speak to them about the benefits situation. I don't believe you get sanctioned if you can prove you've given up work for caring reasons. Also you wouldn't be applying for JSA because you wouldn't be seeking work.

Speak to them. You really must speak to them. They can't do anything to help if you don't engage with them.

dancingfairy

I don't know your family situation or how social services work but I would want to know what specifically they are worried about so you can address their issues. Perhaps you can agree the child is not left alone with your partner or for long periods of time? You could offer for you/ your partner to attend sure start or a lot al parenting group several mornings a week? You could maybe go part time and work 2 or 3 days a week, with your families stepping in at times and maybe a nanny some of the week as well.
You're going to need to find out from social servicrs what the issues are and to discuss different caring arrangements. Yes, its a complete pain and you can understand that now you are on the radar from previously they have to be involved. You have to work with them as best you can. Remember its not for them or for you but its about doing the best thing for the child (if you get frustrated with their requirements just keep reminding yourselves you're doing it for your child).
Good luck
Df

topaztiger1983

I have spoken to SW myself today & have a better understanding of what they want now

They are saying that they want me to give up work temporary (6 months - 1 year), after which they will have a better understanding of what my partner can & can't do

They want us to go into a 6 week parent & child placement with our daughter to see what support we need, if any

They have said that in 6 months - 1 year, I should be able to go back to work using daycare or family to support my partner

missbiggles1

topaztiger1983 wrote: »

I have spoken to SW myself today & have a better understanding of what they want now

They are saying that they want me to give up work temporary (6 months - 1 year), after which they will have a better understanding of what my partner can & can't do

They want us to go into a 6 week parent & child placement with our daughter to see what support we need, if any

They have said that in 6 months - 1 year, I should be able to go back to work using daycare or family to support my partner

Well, that all sounds very positive and as if you're going to get lots of support.

tomtontom

missbiggles1 wrote: »

Well, that all sounds very positive and as if you're going to get lots of support.

I'm not sure I'd feel so positive, are they offering support or setting them up? I don't know, but it would be naive to assume SS motivations are all good.

TT, please please get in touch with an advocacy service that can help you through this. It may be that SS are being genuine in their offer of support, but I don't want them pushing you down a route you're not comfortable with. An advocate can get to know you and your partner and help you get the best support for the three of you, without any bias or agenda that SS may have.

topaztiger1983

I will do so tomtontom

pigpen

SS won't OFFER anything.. you have to decide what will help your family and ASK for it.. they cannot offer because of funding. If you want help/support with childcare tell them, help with a proper diagnosis and PIP claim ask for it.

You have to be proactive and show them you know what you need to keep your child safe.. write a list of all the things you would have if the world was a perfect place!

topaztiger1983

Well she (SW) OFFERED us a parenting placement, a lift to meetings, help with childcare, help with benefits, a letter to my employer to explain situation & a letter to a solicitor for legal advice, so they do OFFER things

We asked for help with money until benefits come through, which they have agreed to & help with diagnosis, but they are not sure if they can help with that

thorsoak

I think that you can apply for paternity leave for up to 50 weeks - see https://www.gov.uk/shared-parental-leave-and-pay/overview

Worth looking into!

topaztiger1983

thorsoak wrote: »

I think that you can apply for paternity leave for up to 50 weeks - see https://www.gov.uk/shared-parental-leave-and-pay/overview

Worth looking into!

I don't think so as my partner is not employed