Social Services say i need to quit job

topaztiger1983

But they should offer to help first not just take peoples kids, people can change especially in 6 years

Its not as if we had our son taken away then had another baby straight away, like some do

LilElvis

topaztiger1983 wrote: »

They are saying that they want our daughter to stay with us, but the option they are giving is that I give up my job, which I have worked hard to keep

So get your families to step forward and tell them what they can do to help so that you can continue to work.

topaztiger1983

but even then SS could say that I need to give up work, I am so demoralized at the moment, SS said they were going to speak to my mum

missbiggles1

topaztiger1983 wrote: »

sometimes I think that SS get a commission for each child they get put up for adoption

Don't be silly, that attitude'll get you nowhere.

topaztiger1983

missbiggles1 wrote: »

Don't be silly, that attitude'll get you nowhere.

I know but its how it feels, I am not usually a negative person, but this has knocked me down a bit

meritaten

I really think you should take advice from people who know what they are talking about.
Many Solicitors offer a FREE hour or half hour consultation. Look for a 'Family Law' solicitor, ring up and make the appointment for a free consultation. They can advise you on your best moves forward.
Try not to be negative OP, you have come a long way in the last few years and it WILL stand you in good stead.

topaztiger1983

meritaten wrote: »

I really think you should take advice from people who know what they are talking about.
Many Solicitors offer a FREE hour or half hour consultation. Look for a 'Family Law' solicitor, ring up and make the appointment for a free consultation. They can advise you on your best moves forward.
Try not to be negative OP, you have come a long way in the last few years and it WILL stand you in good stead.

I will do & thanks

AnnieO1234

I'm not trying to sound awkward but OP sounds like many women who have to give up work after having children in order to care for them. Unfortunately for his situation there doesn't seem to be a practical solution of his partner going to work, or his partner potentially being unfit to care for the child.

The red flag that social services will be seeing is the potential for aggression particularly after emotional and hormonal upheaval.

OP is there an organisation in the UK that covers the disease? If so, get some real life advice, there must be others who have had children,

Xxx

Ikamva

Your partner needs a learning disability advocate now, what area are you in?

suki1964

topaztiger1983 wrote: »

but even then SS could say that I need to give up work, I am so demoralized at the moment, SS said they were going to speak to my mum

Hey Topaz, remember how you struggled to find a job - and to keep it???

You are a fighter

Right now you are being dealt a bad hand, but you can get by it - you know you can

I dont have any experience in childrens services and the likes, but many knowledgeable people have come up with what sounds like great advice

Read up, educate yourself, get all the outside help you need - and then work with SS so you dont have to give up work and your partner is supported

Yes its going to be tough, but you have been there before

And as you say - a lot has changed in 6 years

I wish I could offer more practical advice, I cant. What I do offer are my prayers that you have the strength to get through

And congratulations xxx