Women who keep their married name YEARS after the divorce.

notanewuser

patanne wrote: »

Frankly burning a Christmas card because it is addressed incorrectly seems a little OTT but if your OH agrees then I guess it is your choice. He does agree right or doesn't he get the choice.

He was all for me ripping them up and sending them back!

notanewuser

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

That's disgusting behaviour :mad:

Someone has taken the time to think of you, write you a card, and post it to you and because the way they have addressed you doesn't suit, you burn it

Fair enough, you didn't take your husbands name. A lot of women don't nowadays. But most would still have the good grace to overlook it and then just accept the card with the good grace in which it was given and put it on the mantelpiece (or wherever you put your cards) with the rest of the Christmas cards.

We don't keep any xmas cards. They go in the recycling as soon as they're opened.

Pollycat

notanewuser wrote: »

He was all for me ripping them up and sending them back!

Have you tried telling the people who send you cards not to bother?

notanewuser

avogadro wrote: »

Going by previous posts, the person concerned hates Christmas and won't let her small daughter see Santa Claus because he's just a fat man in a suit. Whether any of this actually occurs in real life or the posts are merely designed to provoke discussion is unclear.

Our daughter "saw santa" yesterday and is seeing another one today, actually. We've let her come to it herself rather than forcing fake footprints, behavioural threats and chimney visitors on her. We wanted her to make her own mind up, and now, at 5, she's interested in it. We still treat it as a story rather than absolute fact, but she's not actually prevented from believing anything she likes about any made up entity.

We've also been very very careful to make sure she isn't likely to "give the game away" to classmates and friends who have been fed the santa thing.

So there.

Jagraf

notanewuser wrote: »

We don't keep any xmas cards. They go in the recycling as soon as they're opened.

What a big waste of time and money all round. Instead of going bend people's backs to make a point to yourself, why don't you ask people not to send them.

notanewuser

Pollycat wrote: »

Have you tried telling the people who send you cards not to bother?

Every year. Haven't sent a card to anyone for at least 10 years and usually let everyone know that we're making a charitable donation instead of cards and gifts.

notanewuser

Jagraf wrote: »

What a big waste of time and money all round. Instead of going bend people's backs to make a point to yourself, why don't you ask people not to send them.

Indeed. Hate the waste of time, money and trees. That's why we don't do them!

We've done nothing behind anyone's backs. We're completely open about it.

notanewuser

pigpen wrote: »

Cards here come addressed to OH or to me and if they are (rarely) addressed to both they just have first names on, we usually get 2 of these.

Why does what is written on the envelope matter? it is what is inside and the sentiments it is sent with that are important.

I disagree. Why should I accept people refusing to acknowledge a choice that they've been aware of for more than a decade? Were DH and I not married no doubt cards would come, as with you, addressed to one of us, or to both with our individual names. I don't find it acceptable to be addressed as Mrs Hisname by anyone. If they aren't sure, they should just send it to him!

notanewuser

missbiggles1 wrote: »

I wouldn't expect someone I knew socially to call me by my title and surname but I would expect them to ask before using my first name, that's the difference.

I wouldn't want someone with whom I had a business relationship (in the most general sense) to call me by my first name and I wouldn't want to use theirs to them either.

I want everyone to call me by my first name, personably. Only people I address as Mr/Ms Whatever are the teaching staff at DD's school, and I think that's horribly outdated. (Although the head teacher is happier with me using his first name in informal situations.)

Georgiegirl256

notanewuser wrote: »

Every year. Haven't sent a card to anyone for at least 10 years and usually let everyone know that we're making a charitable donation instead of cards and gifts.

But do you actually mention that you throw their cards in the bin? Somehow, I think that would work and they'd soon stop sending them!