Women who keep their married name YEARS after the divorce.

Pollycat

Person_one wrote: »

I'm pretty sure I didn't ask you to. I asked somebody else a question!

Well maybe you didn't ask me a question directly......but you did ask the question of the person who quoted me (missbiggles) saying she agreed with me asking.

This is how it went:

Pollycat wrote: »

I call my Aunts & Uncles - who are in their 70s & 80s - 'Auntie' & 'Uncle' but I think when my niece & nephew get a bit older (now12 & 16) I'd be happy for them to call me by my given name. I'd check with their Mum first though.

missbiggles1 wrote: »

I think lots of people change that when the children grow up but good for you for checking first - many people don't.:(

Person_one wrote: »

I don't really see why the parents would need to be involved in decision their adult children and adult siblings make about what to call each other!

As children, yes to an extent, but once everybody is grown up? Why?

So I answered the question you asked as I was the person who made the point that I would check with my sister first.

Person_one

Pollycat wrote: »

Well maybe you didn't ask me a question directly......but you did ask the question of the person who quoted me (missbiggles) saying she agreed with me asking.

This is how it went:





So I answered the question you asked as I was the person who made the point that I would check with my sister first.

Yes, I'm aware of the order of the posts.

Your statement that you checked with your sister wasn't of any particular interest to me, that's up to you.

missbiggles idea that it is the 'right' thing to do and that other people should all be doing this is what surprised/interested me.

There was really no need to get defensive.

mumps

I grew up in England and had two grannies, my grandchildren all call me granny. I think my sisters grandchildren call her nan or nanny, she is in Yorkshire so not sure if comes from there. I like being granny but my eldest grandson tells me its not "cool" to say granny so he has started to call me gran if he has any friends around. I can't see what is cool about gran but the mindset of young teenagers is generally a mystery so I won't dwell on it.

System

mumps wrote: »

I grew up in England and had two grannies, my grandchildren all call me granny. I think my sisters grandchildren call her nan or nanny, she is in Yorkshire so not sure if comes from there. I like being granny but my eldest grandson tells me its not "cool" to say granny so he has started to call me gran if he has any friends around. I can't see what is cool about gran but the mindset of young teenagers is generally a mystery so I won't dwell on it.

I much prefer Nan. My Son In Law calls me Granny when he wants to wind me up.... which it does. I then remind him of his receding hairline.:)

Pollycat

Person_one wrote: »

There was really no need to get defensive.

I didn't think I was - but Hey! Ho!

You may have asked the question of missbiggles but I'll answer it too.

I would ask my sister because I think it would show respect to her to do so.
If you're not very close to a sibling, you'll find it hard to understand.
But that's OK.

Wednesday2000

I would probably keep my married name even if I had a divorce as I don't like my maiden name.

duchy

My Mum used to say Nanny was a goat and she wanted to be called Grandma and she was - My ex MIL didn't fancy any of the titles and wanted our son to call her by her first name (yeah right) so in the end we settled on Oma as she's Austrian (and reckoned English people wouldn't realize it meant grandma as she thought she looked too young to be a granny. )

I always thought Nan was working class and grandma was middle class as that was how it seemed to be with people I knew growing up .

tea_lover

I'm from the midlands and had a Nan and Pap (mum's parents) and Grandma and Grandad (dad's parents). I never did find a card with Pap on (he was my last grandparent and died at the start of this year). Also, everyone else in the world seems to spell Grandad differently to us. I liked that all my grandparents had different names

My parents are now Nanny and Grandad. Pap was Pap to his grandchildren, in-laws and great-grandchildren. It was almost his name

Jagraf

I grew up in the Midlands, all my mum and dads friends were auntie ir uncle as a mark of respect. I still, in my mid forties, call them auntie or uncle mostly. My daughter always did with my friends too when she was little - she doesn't need to anymore but it still sounds a bit weird when she calls them just by their first name. I don't like teens calling their teachers by their first names - I don't think it works boundary wise and doesn't make kids respect their teachers.

Having said that I call the vicar and the doctor in our vikkage by their first name, as they do with me

For their blood aunties and uncles, they will always be auntie and uncle. Unless they don't want to be called it any more.

Jagraf

Person_one wrote: »

I don't really see why the parents would need to be involved in decision their adult children and adult siblings make about what to call each other!

As children, yes to an extent, but once everybody is grown up? Why?

My daughters auntie is Indian with a culture of respect for elders I can't ever imagine my daughter dropping the auntie bit - and I would definitely guide her not to.

Not with the other rellies either.

Again, I believe it's polite to call people what they want to be called so any decision would come from them.