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Women who keep their married name YEARS after the divorce.

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  • heuchera
    heuchera Posts: 1,825 Forumite
    heuchera wrote: »
    The :eek: is a shocked smiley, not a scathing one.

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    Wow there's some thin-skinned people on this thread ;)
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  • mumps
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    I'm totally in agreement with your granny - good for her!

    She was wonderful, if rather direct at times. One of the family stories about her is that she married not long after the First World War, my grandfather did a government job and it was very much expected that wives didn't work. The Monday after the wedding he was getting ready for work and said something like, "Well grannymumps you can have anything you want, you just have to ask."

    Later that day he returns home, granny serves dinner and says, "Well grandadmumps, I can have anything I want because I start back at work tomorrow."

    Oh what a stormy marriage that was.
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  • balletshoes
    balletshoes Posts: 16,610 Forumite
    mumps wrote: »
    I am very definitely a granny, an honourable title in my book but lots of people say it sounds like someone very old. How daft, do people think you get called nanna till your 70 and then change to granny.:rotfl:

    My granny always insisted on being called granny although one of my aunts always referred to her as nanny so her kids did as well. Granny used to say nanny refers to two things, a female goat or a young girl paid a pittance to look after someone's children and I'm neither. A lady of strong opinions was granny.

    I think its also regional. I was born and raised in Scotland, I had 2 grannies. We moved to England when my daughter was 2, she has a granny (my mum). Her friends don't have grannies, they have nanas or mamars, sometimes nans.

    My niece (in Scotland, and the youngest in our family at age 7) has a granny (my mum) and a gran, to differentiate between them.
  • missbiggles1
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    edited 7 December 2015 at 10:51PM
    I think its also regional. I was born and raised in Scotland, I had 2 grannies. We moved to England when my daughter was 2, she has a granny (my mum). Her friends don't have grannies, they have nanas or mamars, sometimes nans.

    My niece (in Scotland, and the youngest in our family at age 7) has a granny (my mum) and a gran, to differentiate between them.

    I grew up in Surrey so that may not be totally the case. The only time I heard Nana was in Peter Pan and she (the dog ) was a nursery nurse rather than a grandparent.

    (I've never hears of marmars.)
  • pigpen
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    I had 2 Nanna's.. OH had 2 grannies, not in Scotland.. my children have/had 3 nanna's and a grandma.. I am grandma too.
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  • balletshoes
    balletshoes Posts: 16,610 Forumite
    I grew up in Surrey so that may not be totally the case. The only time I heard Nana was in Peter Pan and she (the dog ) was a nursery nurse rather than a grandparent.

    (I've never hears of marmars.)

    neither had I until we moved here (we live in Notts now).
  • My mother was only married for four years, left my father when I was 2 months old and divorced a few months after that. She didn't ever change back to her maiden name, even though her maiden name is much shorter and easier to pronounce, as she wanted to have the same surname as me.

    Over 30 years later, and I have now been married nearly 14 years and she still has her married name as it is just who she is now. Incidentally, she has 3 sisters, one of whom was married for about 12 years when she got divorced 21 years ago and she still has her married name...

    Personally, I would change my name to something easy like Smith (different from my maiden name and my married name) IF I were to ever get divorced. This is simply because my maiden name is soooo long and difficult to pronounce (for others, not me) and my married name may be shorter and very easy to pronounce but so many people misspell it because it's an unusual spelling of a common word :D
  • Person_one
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    Pollycat wrote: »
    I don't need to explain my family dynamics to you. :p

    I'm pretty sure I didn't ask you to. I asked somebody else a question!
  • Person_one
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    I thought we were probably talking about older teenagers rather than those who'd reached middle age.:D

    You're an adult at 18.
  • Pollycat
    Pollycat Posts: 35,818 Forumite
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    I grew up in Surrey so that may not be totally the case. The only time I heard Nana was in Peter Pan and she (the dog ) was a nursery nurse rather than a grandparent.

    (I've never hears of marmars.)
    Grew up in the North Midlands - I called my Mum's Mum Grandma, I called my Grandma's eldest sister (very close to her) Nanna.

    My sister's kids call my Mum Mammar (not sure how they spell it).
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