Women who keep their married name YEARS after the divorce.

balletshoes

Jagraf wrote: »

Can't you just put unwanted goodwill christmas cards on your pin board/fridge like postcards ?

I find postcards a bit odd but I don't need to burn them in defiance ��

yeah i don't get the burning in defiance either i have to say, just put them with the others in the recycling, as none of them are being kept/displayed.

I only display about half a dozen christmas cards in the whole house, the rest get put in a pile on the windowsill until the decorations come down in January - so they might as well go straight in the recycling really!

notanewuser

pigpen wrote: »

Because envelopes are big enough to write several different names on such as ' Mr NotPiggers and Ms Piggers' and writing mr and mrs is not incorrect you are mr and mrs whether you like it or not it is just you being pedantic.. if you didn't want that you shouldn't be married.. it's easier quicker and fits better on the envelope.. but destroying them is just peevish.

I have huge issues with my lack of surname which I'm sure everyone on this site knows.. but I wouldn't be petty enough to destroy something because someone used one over another or the incorrect 'title'.. I object more about 'Mrs' because I'm not married.

Different strokes, eh?

I think you've missed something. I'm not and have never ever been Mrs Hisname. Anybody addressing me as such is addressing his mother, as far as I'm concerned. I'm not Mrs Myname - that's my mother. I'm me. I could happily not use any title whatsoever - if pushed I'll use Ms (or Miss). Never, ever Mrs. So no, it's not correct in anyway shape or form to address me as such. It would be like calling me Gertrude when my name is Sarah.

There's more than enough room on the average envelope for his name and my name. If not just address it to one of us. Couldn't really be simpler, could it?

notanewuser

Jagraf wrote: »

Can't you just put unwanted goodwill christmas cards on your pin board/fridge like postcards ?

I find postcards a bit odd but I don't need to burn them in defiance ��

No, I can't. Why should I?

balletshoes

Peter333 wrote: »

This ^^^

I would not keep sending cards to someone who never ever sent one back. I would give it maybe two times, and that is it.

And I don't think I would burn the cards, but then I am not someone who specifically requests 'NO CARDS PLEASE' like NANU. Maybe she has just had it up to the eyeballs with people disrespecting her by taking no notice of her request. I know NANU is not a Christmas person, and I don't know why, but whatever the reason, people should respect it.
If she says 'don't send me a Christmas card,' why do people send one?!

but then why not just burn them all? nanu said she usually recycles them, it was the ones which were mis-named she burnt, and those only. Seems a bit of an overreaction to me, but if it made her feel better, they're her cards after all, she can do what she likes with them.

notanewuser

They were the only 4 that came that day. Fire was on, so I chose to burn rather than recycle.

Person_one

pigpen wrote: »

Because envelopes are big enough to write several different names on such as ' Mr NotPiggers and Ms Piggers' and writing mr and mrs is not incorrect you are mr and mrs whether you like it or not it is just you being pedantic.. if you didn't want that you shouldn't be married.. it's easier quicker and fits better on the envelope.. but destroying them is just peevish.

I have huge issues with my lack of surname which I'm sure everyone on this site knows.. but I wouldn't be petty enough to destroy something because someone used one over another or the incorrect 'title'.. I object more about 'Mrs' because I'm not married.

Different strokes, eh?

It's so disrespectful to tell somebody that they are a Mrs when they have clearly said they do not accept that title and do not use it.

pickledonionspaceraider

Jagraf wrote: »

Can't you just put unwanted goodwill christmas cards on your pin board/fridge like postcards ?

I know this question is not directed at me, but will answer to give an idea, for me i wouldn't do that, as would be displaying signs of a religion I don't follow which would make me uneasy = by appeasing other people I would be making myself very uncomfortable. I am not sure how comfortable anyone would be, in that situation and I think each must be true to themselves.

I do not even understand why you think it is acceptable to suggest that someone display religious items in their home for the sake of others - it is in fact offensive

I think the whole 'cards being burnt' thing is blown out of proportion in terms of the poster has said that, matter of factly, the fire was on - not really a planned sacrificial burning

Pollycat

Torry_Quine wrote: »

I wouldn't keep sending cards to someone who hadn't reciprocated for even a couple of years, other than an elderly person who may not get many. However I do think that it was an overreaction to burn the cards that had been sent.

Me neither.
So do I believe that people still send many Christmas cards after being asked not to.....?

pickledonionspaceraider

Pollycat wrote: »

So do I believe that people still send many Christmas cards after being asked not to.....?

It really does not matter what you believe and I can't see the point of trying to discredit what someone else is saying

Just to add, just because you haven't experienced something in your life, does not mean that it does not happen

notanewuser

Pollycat wrote: »

Me neither.
So do I believe that people still send many Christmas cards after being asked not to.....?

We get about 30 a year, I'd guess. So not hundreds, but enough to be annoying.