Women who keep their married name YEARS after the divorce.

Gloomendoom

Same sex couples aren't the norm, so the rules of norm don't apply.

Pollycat

Torry_Quine wrote: »

True everyone is different but the norm is still for a woman to change her name on marriage so that would always be my expectation unless told otherwise.

I'd do the same.

notanewuser wrote: »

What would you do for a same-sex couple, Torry?

I'd ask them what name(s) they preferred me to call them.

missbiggles1

Torry_Quine wrote: »

Personally I dislike the term Ms and will correct people who use it instead of Mrs when writing to me.

You can't correct them because it isn't wrong. You can, of course, say that you prefer to be called Mrs.

missbiggles1

notanewuser wrote: »

This was the first year in the 11 that DH and I have been married that my nan addressed my birthday card to the right name. :rotfl:

Don't worry, we were married for 27 years and his family still thought I spelled my first name with a C rather than with a K!

missbiggles1

Torry_Quine wrote: »

A question for those women who didn't change their name when they married. Did you tell people that you were going to continue using the same name as before? If someone didn't say then I would presume they were changing to their married name.

I didn't specifically tell anybody - I didn't need to.

Why would you presume that - I'd've been quite miffed if somebody of my own generation made that assumption about me?

Gloomendoom

missbiggles1 wrote: »

I didn't specifically tell anybody - I didn't need to.

Why would you presume that - I'd've been quite miffed if somebody of my own generation made that assumption about me?

Given your generation, and probably this one too, it's a reasonable assumption to make... as it is the norm.

Mojisola

The most recently married young women in my family have chosen to -
1. change name to husband's surname and use Mrs,
2. keep own name but use Mrs as a title,
3. keep own name and continue as Ms.

I don't think there is a 'norm' any more. I always ask about-to-be-couples what names they will be using.

patanne

I can completely understand people (M & F) keeping their own names professionally, but I sometimes wonder if they do that in their private lives because most of their friends are living together unmarried and are somehow embarrassed to admit to having succumbed to convention enough to actually get married.

Although, I have come across the opposite too, where someone has changed their name to their partners by deed poll & wonder why, because it would have been cheaper just to get married.

pigpen

patanne wrote: »

Although, I have come across the opposite too, where someone has changed their name to their partners by deed poll & wonder why, because it would have been cheaper just to get married.

I'm currently telling this to OH.. we have 3 children so it would sort their surnames.. double barrelled long names was not a sensible idea. Sort my name and temporarily alleviate the need for a will I cannot afford.. all for £40 (or £90 if we have guests) it just makes so much more sense!

I'm not sure if he is waiting for a better offer or I'm simply not good enough/worthy.

Jagraf

As I have kept my ex's surname for DD sake, I refer to myself as Ms, as I'm not his mrs anymore (phew fir that!).

I use Mrs with my now husbands surname. generalky though I use my first name and then appropriate surname.