Women who keep their married name YEARS after the divorce.

Mojisola

Andypandyboy wrote: »

We just had the line omitted;) it didn't alter the service, but that was in an RC church.

I've been to marriage services in C of E churches where they've done the same thing.

System

I'm completely in favour of people having their children after marriage but Judi said she wouldn't have had children if she hadn't changed her name to her husband's which seems pretty extreme to me.

Extreme yes but thats how i was bought up. Living with someone and having children with them was frowned on by people around me.

A lot of things were drummed into me by my upbringing and what i could see around me. They formed me. What i did had consequences for both myself and my parents! After all, in their eyes, they would have had the 'shame' thrust on them.

One thing that i did manage to dismiss was 'no sex before marriage' Heaven forbid, that was too extreme for even me!

Its all a load of tosh now when i come to think about it but in the 70s, things like that mattered.

LameWolf

Fwiw, it irritates me to death that my DH's ex still uses his surname, even though they divorced 25 years ago. Not a celebrity, and no professional reason for retaining it.

When I divorced my ex, I would have changed my name just to get rid of his, except that I was getting remarried almost immediately, which made it a bit pointless to do so.

Mojisola I too still get letters addressed to my old name (I've been married to DH for 12 years) but luckily they're always just junk mail, so I chuck 'em back in the post with "not known at this address" on 'em.

carlislelass

Slinky wrote: »

How very Princess Michael of Kent.......

(What is that poor woman's name, does anybody know?)

Marie Christine

missbiggles1

Andypandyboy wrote: »

We just had the line omitted;) it didn't alter the service, but that was in an RC church.

We were told it was either one or the other - unfortunately.

missbiggles1

Mojisola wrote: »

I had a few letters addressed to me as 'Mrs Husband's first name and surname' after I got married. I sent them back and insisted that the companies wrote to me using my name in future.

At least that was technically correct when we were younger - there's no excuse now.

harrys_nan

A name is just that, a name.
I have had 4 surnames, a birth father, a step father and 2 husbands.Was never known as my birth name as stepdad was a bully and I had to grow up with his name. Then married, divorced then remarried then separated.Haven't bothered getting a divorce the second time as I will never ever get married again. I still use my 2nd marriage name even after many years. I will not go back to the name I grew up with, I hated that man, I have never been known by my birth name so will continue to be known as Mrs 2nd marriage.
I often get referred to by my now partners name, but I always just answer to anything.

DevilsAdvocate1

Person_one wrote: »

Now they carry them because they look nice and add colour to a white dress.

Why are they still taking their husband's names en masse?

For me, when we married and then had children we became a family unit. I like that we all have the same family name. I don't feel like I'm my husband's possession. And he is not my possession. But we are one family.

Torry_Quine

Personally I dislike the term Ms and will correct people who use it instead of Mrs when writing to me.

Jagraf

LameWolf wrote: »

Fwiw, it irritates me to death that my DH's ex still uses his surname, even though they divorced 25 years ago. Not a celebrity, and no professional reason for retaining it.

When I divorced my ex, I would have changed my name just to get rid of his, except that I was getting remarried almost immediately, which made it a bit pointless to do so.

Mojisola I too still get letters addressed to my old name (I've been married to DH for 12 years) but luckily they're always just junk mail, so I chuck 'em back in the post with "not known at this address" on 'em.

Why does it irritate you? I use my ex's name, who I can't stand, but that's because of my daughter. I'm just interested to know why it bugs you.