Is it normal to become bored and fed up with a relationship?

Guest101

Caleb11 wrote: »

I have been idiotic before when drunk yes. Have I hurt him - no. Have I been so drunk that I've been sick and had an awful hangover the next day. Yes. Does that mean I shouldn't get freedom to go out and I should feel restricted? No. Especially when I have also more often than not been totally sensible when drinking/drunk. I don't touch drugs I don't like being around them - where as OH does.

He has a conviction which involves drugs. I tell him that I don't want him around/using them. And I am accused of being controlling. But I never ever stop him going out and drinking even though I know he will most likely make bad decisions (I.e. Be around drugs). I still don't stop him though as I like him to make his own decisions/mistakes. I do hate it though. Anyway I expect the same freedom even though I rarely make the same mistakes (I.e by getting too drunk).

Regarding the financial side - I am not the best with money no. But I'm not in any/much debt and I have a fine credit record. I like to treat myself but know when I am able to and don't spend if I can't afford to. He tells me that I'm useless with money and that I need his "guidance" which then makes me feel like I'm useless with money. I'm not though. I'm just not tight and stingy. If I can afford to I like to enjoy life and that means spending the money I earn (sensibly).

Anyway all this is irrelevant as I can't take it anymore in the relationship. I'm frustrated and agitated and I need out. Whether it's forever or not I don't know but what I do know is that trying to make it work isn't working anymore.

Space is good, running away snt

Caleb11

Please delete

Gigervamp

Caleb, why have you deleted your posts? A lot of them have been quoted so it seems rather pointless.

A lot of people have been supportive, giving advice, and deleting your posts seems rather ungrateful of that support..

Lunar_Eclipse

Gigervamp wrote: »

Caleb, why have you deleted your posts? A lot of them have been quoted so it seems rather pointless.

A lot of people have been supportive, giving advice, and deleting your posts seems rather ungrateful of that support..

It's not necessarily ungrateful at all. More likely to regret being so open and honest, and thus now feeling uncomfortably exposed (albeit on an anonymous forum, but it's how I feel sometimes and nothing to do with replies or not.)

Gigervamp

But it's completely pointless if posts have been quoted as they will stay anyway.

I'm wondering if it's due to Guest's comments, as the deleting happened after his posts.

tea_lover

Gigervamp wrote: »

But it's completely pointless if posts have been quoted as they will stay anyway.

I'm wondering if it's due to Guest's comments, as the deleting happened after his posts.

Wouldn't be at all surprised. Must be very frustrating to post asking for advice and support and get one person intent on putting you down for their own bitter reasons. Hope all's ok caleb.

Guest101

Gigervamp wrote: »

But it's completely pointless if posts have been quoted as they will stay anyway.

I'm wondering if it's due to Guest's comments, as the deleting happened after his posts.

tea_lover wrote: »

Wouldn't be at all surprised. Must be very frustrating to post asking for advice and support and get one person intent on putting you down for their own bitter reasons. Hope all's ok caleb.

Uhm? Where did I put her down?


The OP confirmed a lot of what I said, about getting too drunk and spending money - which were reasonable questions to ask given that was the issue.


I'm surprised no-one asked it sooner?


E.G.
My partner says I cant be trusted with money.


Response 1: That's crazy controlling behaviour, etc etc etc.
Response 2. Well can you be? Oh well if you can't, it seems reasonable that your partner is trying to help for the sake of the family.


I understand we don't agree on some things, which is fair enough. But part of public debate is accepting other people have an opinion, belittling that as you have is really not on.

Caleb11

The reason I deleted them is because I emailed someone asking for the thread to be closed. Does anyone know if it's possible.

Guest101

Caleb11 wrote: »

The reason I deleted them is because I emailed someone asking for the thread to be closed. Does anyone know if it's possible.

It does sometimes happen. However I would suggest that everyone, Me, you, all of us stop replying. It will then disappear into the depths of MSE never to resurface.


(it is possible to create a new account for future issues - though this is against the forum rules and as such I would not advocate this)


Good luck with the move.