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Is it normal to become bored and fed up with a relationship?

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  • duchy
    duchy Posts: 19,511 Forumite
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    If he is earning nine hundred a week how do you calculate child support at a hundred per week ?
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  • BigAunty
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    duchy wrote: »
    If he is earning nine hundred a week how do you calculate child support at a hundred per week ?

    There's a child maintenance calculator on the Direct Gov website. Think a non resident parent is supposed to pay 10 or 15% of their income to the parent with care of the child and then there are deductions for time that the NRP has the child. All very complicated.

    however, nothing to stop the OP from negotiating a mutually acceptable sum.
  • Guest101
    Guest101 Posts: 15,764 Forumite
    duchy wrote: »
    If he is earning nine hundred a week how do you calculate child support at a hundred per week ?


    Assuming you less than £156k

    At 70k he would fall into the basic plus rate.

    which is

    12% of the first £800 weekly income
    9% of the income from 800.01-3000 weekly

    In this case - if it's £1,346 per week, he would pay:

    £96 basic
    £49 'plus rate'
    - £145 per week.

    It gets tricky when calculating the reduction for time the child stays over. (which is why it is expected that the receiving parent should cover day to day costs)

    1-2 nights a week, reduce by 1/7th
    2-3 nights a week, reduce by 2/7ths
    3-4 nights a week, reduce by 3/7ths
    Over 175 nights in a years, reduce by 50% + £7.


    145 / 7 x 5 = £103.50
  • Guest101
    Guest101 Posts: 15,764 Forumite
    BigAunty wrote: »
    There's a child maintenance calculator on the Direct Gov website. Think a non resident parent is supposed to pay 10 or 15% of their income to the parent with care of the child and then there are deductions for time that the NRP has the child. All very complicated.

    however, nothing to stop the OP from negotiating a mutually acceptable sum.


    It's not that complicated, the information is above. Hope it helps
  • justme111
    justme111 Posts: 3,531 Forumite
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    Guest101 wrote: »
    Excuse me?


    It's as much a presumption to say she's popped out for tea and scones as it is to say she's going clubbing until 4am.
    Exactly. So you agree with me then that you saying it did not look like she was ready for an adult life was baseless presumption?
    The word "dilemma" comes from Greek where "di" means two and "lemma" means premise. Refers usually to difficult choice between two undesirable options.
    Often people seem to use this word mistakenly where "quandary" would fit better.
  • Guest101
    Guest101 Posts: 15,764 Forumite
    justme111 wrote: »
    Exactly. So you agree with me then that you saying it did not look like she was ready for an adult life was baseless presumption?

    No.

    I'm saying after reading the posts I used my judgment. Which the OP confirmed
  • duchy
    duchy Posts: 19,511 Forumite
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    I don't think the OP will need to worry about the overnight deductions as judging by his present lifestyle he simply couldn't fit them in
    Guest101 wrote: »
    Assuming you less than £156k

    At 70k he would fall into the basic plus rate.

    which is

    12% of the first £800 weekly income
    9% of the income from 800.01-3000 weekly

    In this case - if it's £1,346 per week, he would pay:

    £96 basic
    £49 'plus rate'
    - £145 per week.

    It gets tricky when calculating the reduction for time the child stays over. (which is why it is expected that the receiving parent should cover day to day costs)

    1-2 nights a week, reduce by 1/7th
    2-3 nights a week, reduce by 2/7ths
    3-4 nights a week, reduce by 3/7ths
    Over 175 nights in a years, reduce by 50% + £7.


    145 / 7 x 5 = £103.50
    I Would Rather Climb A Mountain Than Crawl Into A Hole

    MSE Florida wedding .....no problem
  • Guest101
    Guest101 Posts: 15,764 Forumite
    duchy wrote: »
    I don't think the OP will need to worry about the overnight deductions as judging by his present lifestyle he simply couldn't fit them in
    true, but thought i'd do a worst case scenario type rging
  • justme111
    justme111 Posts: 3,531 Forumite
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    I am sure op would welcome overnight deductions as it would mean child has relationship with father which is more normal than just few hours visits. And she has a night or two to herself .
    As she does not count on any CM at all she does not strike me as prioritising money enough to fit NRP time around money.
    The word "dilemma" comes from Greek where "di" means two and "lemma" means premise. Refers usually to difficult choice between two undesirable options.
    Often people seem to use this word mistakenly where "quandary" would fit better.
  • Caleb11
    Caleb11 Posts: 200 Forumite
    edited 30 November 2015 at 11:46PM
    Please delete
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