Wife cheating, just about to buy a house

Guest101

nearlysingle wrote: »

Thank you for your replies. I think the thread is going off track, my fault I guess for trying to reply to everyone's replies in gratitude.

Back to the main question, if the house share is 50/50 in the new home and if the marriage breaks down, will the judge take into account the fact I have supported her for many years and given her things which now counts as her assets when apportioning the equity in the home?

Whatever the share is, that is likely what you'd get.


Things you have 'given' do not count for anything in your favour.


In general everything goes into the pot and then you share out.

nearlysingle

Guest101 wrote: »

£5 to charity says the OP comes back saying he caught her after work today

I highly doubt it, she knows i will be back on time to get ready for dinner out.

Guest101

cloo wrote: »

I'm sorry but if this is how you handle a drunken snog then I'm not sure you're cut out for cohabiting in a place you both pay a mortgage on.

I think some people would call it quits there and then. No trust left.


But I really dislike the whole ' I was drunk so it doesn't count ' mentality.

nearlysingle

Guest101 wrote: »

Whatever the share is, that is likely what you'd get.


Things you have 'given' do not count for anything in your favour.


In general everything goes into the pot and then you share out.

Thank you.

Its a bit of a quandary, if I spook her she will not proceed with the house purchase, or delve more into the ownership aspect if she smells divorce. Probably best I chat with a solicitor.

nearlysingle

Guest101 wrote: »

I think some people would call it quits there and then. No trust left.


But I really dislike the whole ' I was drunk so it doesn't count ' mentality.

at the time we were going through a phase of sleeping in separate rooms and generlaly not speaking. I was trying to bridge the gap by dropping her off and picking her up from the Xmas do.

What I hadn't expected was seeing her on the smoking bench near the venue entrance with some bit of rough.

nearlysingle

cloo wrote: »

I'm sorry but if this is how you handle a drunken snog then I'm not sure you're cut out for cohabiting in a place you both pay a mortgage on.

she says I have Trust issues so naturally my argument retorts with NO WONDER WHY

Pixie5740

Assuming this thread isn't a wind up then using her inheritance to buy the property won't necessarily mean that you will get half of it. The splitting up of martial assets is more complicated than that.

Nor would a judge sit and go through how much you spent during the marriage and how much she spent. You're married, you pool your money.

Forget about buying another house and contact Relate instead.

nearlysingle

DaftyDuck wrote: »

You sure your wifey isn't simply hiding your Xmas present boxers under the bed? No, too simple, too... boringly simple!

You could, of course, dig out the Vaporella (was it the really amazing Polti Vaporella Forever 1800 Eco Steam Generator Iron, which is a very, very fine steam generator, or the lesser mere Vaporella 505... ) on Wednesday, and loiter around the bedroom wearing nothing but a bow tie, ironing said boxers on hottest cotton setting, whistling The Ironing Board Blues from The Waltons. Should she poddle upstairs alone, you could suggest that, as the under-bed area is really very dusty and (I make an assumption) you are no Godfrey Bloom, you should share the dusting of said area with a hearty afternoon of aerobic and steamy activities - for which you will not need the Polti Vaporella Forever 1800 Eco Steam Generator Iron.

However....

..... should she arrive, with paramour in tow, fix them both with a steely grin and unblinking gaze, whop her with the base (it's somewhat lighter; I have sensibilities when it comes to clubbing wives or seals) and him (an assumption again, I suppose...) with the Polti Vaporella Forever 1800 Eco Steam Generator Iron itself. Should you have economised, and only bought the Polti Vaporella 505 Pro Steam Generator Iron you may, I suspect, require two swift blows to render him unconscious (as it is somewhat lighter, and distinctly less well-made). Then, redress him in said boxers, and resume ironing on maximum heat (I believe there is only a 90g/min from that darn 505, whereas the finer Polti Vaporella Forever 1800 Eco Steam Generator Iron can sustain a ball-shrinking 150g/min - sufficient for even a Premier Footballer to suffer severe shrinkage).

To avoid embarrassment when your wife comes to (assuming you didn't reverse the whopping, and use either iron on her), you may prefer to dress beforehand. Keep the bow tie on for continuity (she will be confused) and dignity (a man should never iron sans bow tie, in my humble).

Now, when (if, I suppose) she comes round, she will be left with a stark choice. One, she may choose to side with her unhappy paramour who, by now, will have rather lost some of his appeal, and certainly much of his undercarriage. However, two, she will see you in a new light, a man who knows how to handle such a situation with finesse and elan.

I suspect she will ensure the under bed area never gathers dust again....

You aren't Godfrey Bloom are you? I'd hate to give such sage advice to such a ...

VERY AMUSING

I bought the 505 'lesser' one. I am not sure you could hit someone with it as it is attached to a base.

I have left the stained CK underwear where I have found it so I can monitor its movement. Since I discovered it, it hasn't moved.

Johnnytwostep

nearlysingle wrote: »

at the time we were going through a phase of sleeping in separate rooms and generlaly not speaking. I was trying to bridge the gap by dropping her off and picking her up from the Xmas do.

What I hadn't expected was seeing her on the smoking bench near the venue entrance with some bit of rough.

maybe you need to be a bit tougher and rougher then if thats what she likes.

Johnnytwostep

nearlysingle wrote: »

VERY AMUSING

I bought the 505 'lesser' one. I am not sure you could hit someone with it as it is attached to a base.

I have left the stained CK underwear where I have found it so I can monitor its movement. Since I discovered it, it hasn't moved.

what, have you put a little homing beacon on them?