Wife cheating, just about to buy a house

nearlysingle

Hello,

As the title suggests, I have discovered my wife has been having an affair.

I have sensed all is not well for the past few weeks as she has been working overtime in the office. I did raise an eye brow because she does office junior work and I didn't think she would be asked to do more hours for no more pay. Anyway, I trusted her.

She doesn't work Wednesdays and I am out all day.

Last weekend I was hiding her Christmas presents under our bed (there is loads of junk under there and it's dusty, so a safe place), but I discovered a pair of Calvin Klein boxer shorts (worn). Now, I don't wear Calvin Klein's and as we live alone, I could not fathom how they would end up there. They obviously haven't been there long as they weren't dusty.

They can't be my wife's because frankly if she put them on, they would resemble a cheese cutter.

Anyway, this is where I am stuck. I haven't mentioned anything because we are in the midst of buying a larger home. She inherited money earlier this year and we are buying the property on a Tenants in Common basis. As she is effectively putting in 75% of the asking price and we are using 25% from the equity in our property.

If she is having an affair and this marriage breaks down, am I right in thinking I will have half the money in the house?

Johnnytwostep

keep quiet until you move in, then screw her over.

Guest101

No.


But I suggest you stop buying the house and start talking to her.

Dan-Dan

nearlysingle wrote: »

Hello,

As the title suggests, I have discovered my wife has been having an affair.

I have sensed all is not well for the past few weeks as she has been working overtime in the office. I did raise an eye brow because she does office junior work and I didn't think she would be asked to do more hours for no more pay. Anyway, I trusted her.

She doesn't work Wednesdays and I am out all day.

Last weekend I was hiding her Christmas presents under our bed (there is loads of junk under there and it's dusty, so a safe place), but I discovered a pair of Calvin Klein boxer shorts (worn). Now, I don't wear Calvin Klein's and as we live alone, I could not fathom how they would end up there. They obviously haven't been there long as they weren't dusty.

They can't be my wife's because frankly if she put them on, they would resemble a cheese cutter.

Anyway, this is where I am stuck. I haven't mentioned anything because we are in the midst of buying a larger home. She inherited money earlier this year and we are buying the property on a Tenants in Common basis. As she is effectively putting in 75% of the asking price and we are using 25% from the equity in our property.

If she is having an affair and this marriage breaks down, am I right in thinking I will have half the money in the house?

lol , sorry but this threads on its way to being a classic already

misspickle_2

nearlysingle wrote: »

Hello,

As the title suggests, I have discovered my wife has been having an affair.

I have sensed all is not well for the past few weeks as she has been working overtime in the office. I did raise an eye brow because she does office junior work and I didn't think she would be asked to do more hours for no more pay. Anyway, I trusted her.

She doesn't work Wednesdays and I am out all day.

Last weekend I was hiding her Christmas presents under our bed (there is loads of junk under there and it's dusty, so a safe place), but I discovered a pair of Calvin Klein boxer shorts (worn). Now, I don't wear Calvin Klein's and as we live alone, I could not fathom how they would end up there. They obviously haven't been there long as they weren't dusty.

They can't be my wife's because frankly if she put them on, they would resemble a cheese cutter.

Anyway, this is where I am stuck. I haven't mentioned anything because we are in the midst of buying a larger home. She inherited money earlier this year and we are buying the property on a Tenants in Common basis. As she is effectively putting in 75% of the asking price and we are using 25% from the equity in our property.

If she is having an affair and this marriage breaks down, am I right in thinking I will have half the money in the house?

Nobody is gonna fall for this post. Yawn.

TBagpuss

No. If you split up, (amnd if you can't agree things betwen yourselves) then ultimately a court would decide what was fiar, taking into account all the relevent (finacial) circumstances.

A recent inheritance and a house bought, after the marriage, as TinC - there's a strong liklihood you would each get out what you put in.

But also you will potentially have months of having to live together, after you've fallen out, plus potenial issues selling so quickly, early redemption penalties etc.

Put the house move on hold and talk to you wife. Then when you know whther you will be staying ogether or divorcing, you can either sell the current house and go your eparate ways, or buy a new one together and rebuild your trust in each other.

Who was the inheritance from? If she has recently lost a close family member such as a parent then do be aware that grief does have huge impacts -this may be a big factor in why she is having an affair (if she is) and it may be that relationship counselling and grief counselling would both be beneficial for you as a couple.

nearlysingle

A little bit of back history,

She has cheated on me previously. I only found out last December and I found her with a co-worker at the Christmas party (I was due to pick her up at 11pm but got there earlier than planned). She denied anything was going on and at that time we were going through a rough patch so I just accepted that it was a drunken snog. We got over this within a few months and she has been good as gold, though in most arguments I do throw it back at her. I think we felt the move would do us good.

But if she is having an affair, what I can't understand is why is she moving? I do feel very hurt and betrayed and at the same time very angry.

Marvel1

This is just a guess but part % only, do the documents state what %?

I would probably post the OP to http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/forumdisplay.php?f=24

Dan-Dan

nearlysingle wrote: »

A little bit of back history,

She has cheated on me previously. I only found out last December and I found her with a co-worker at the Christmas party (I was due to pick her up at 11pm but got there earlier than planned). She denied anything was going on and at that time we were going through a rough patch so I just accepted that it was a drunken snog. We got over this within a few months and she has been good as gold, though in most arguments I do throw it back at her. I think we felt the move would do us good.

But if she is having an affair, what I can't understand is why is she moving? I do feel very hurt and betrayed and at the same time very angry.

but at the same time your aware enough that you could still get hold of some of her assets (cough) if you play your cards right

alistairstubbs

I'm waiting for the "Bag for Life"

Johnnytwostep

nearlysingle wrote: »

A little bit of back history,

She has cheated on me previously. I only found out last December and I found her with a co-worker at the Christmas party (I was due to pick her up at 11pm but got there earlier than planned). She denied anything was going on and at that time we were going through a rough patch so I just accepted that it was a drunken snog. We got over this within a few months and she has been good as gold, though in most arguments I do throw it back at her. I think we felt the move would do us good.

But if she is having an affair, what I can't understand is why is she moving? I do feel very hurt and betrayed and at the same time very angry.

Can you not satisfy her, buy a karma sutra and get some tips