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Wife cheating, just about to buy a house
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nearlysingle wrote: »10% of me says there is an innocent explanation but how can there be?
There isn't. Bring it up now & you can kiss goodbye to that inheritence money to start your new life withMortgage (Nov 15): £79,950 | Mortgage (May 19): £71,754 | Mortgage (Sep 22): £0
Cashback sites: £900 | £30k in 2016: £30,300 (101%)0 -
no, you are seeing an opportunity to be a gold digger whilst at the same time showing yourself to be a doormat that has repeatedly been wiped on
decide what matters: money or self respect
rightly or wrongly, I have probably contributed to her lifestyle 50% of the value of her inheritance. I don't want to have to settle with 12.5% of this house and she drives off into the Sunset in my range rover.0 -
nearlysingle wrote: »A little bit of back history,
She has cheated on me previously. I only found out last December and I found her with a co-worker at the Christmas party (I was due to pick her up at 11pm but got there earlier than planned). She denied anything was going on and at that time we were going through a rough patch so I just accepted that it was a drunken snog. We got over this within a few months and she has been good as gold, though in most arguments I do throw it back at her. I think we felt the move would do us good.
But if she is having an affair, what I can't understand is why is she moving? I do feel very hurt and betrayed and at the same time very angry.
Giving you (ALOT of) benefit of the doubt.
You really have no proof she's having an affair.
Frankly I dunno what kind of throes of passion you must be in to throw boxer shorts under a bed (which sounds less than accessible) - normally they end up on the floor surely?!
Even if hypothetically that is what was happening, I cant imagine anyone just going - oh well, nevermind, and leaving with no boxer's on, AND your wife not bothering to look either. - Surely it's not that much hassle to check ONE room.
As for working late? Sometimes it's necessary, and perhaps it's on flexi time (rather than overtime).
And as for throwing it back at her face. Well yes that's clearly stupid. You've not got over it, which is fair enough, but pretending you have and then bringing up the past is one sure fire way to push her away.0 -
Pretend to go out next Wednesday, but instead hide under the bed.
I must say I would notice if I didn't put my boxers on after a afternoon session with someone else's wife.
Why? Nowadays we have small video cameras...send me a copy of any evidence pleaseMortgage (Nov 15): £79,950 | Mortgage (May 19): £71,754 | Mortgage (Sep 22): £0
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nearlysingle wrote: »rightly or wrongly, I have probably contributed to her lifestyle 50% of the value of her inheritance. I don't want to have to settle with 12.5% of this house and she drives off into the Sunset in my range rover.
You don't have to settle for 12.5% of your CURRENT home, you may well be entitled to 50%.
But if you buy now, then that is the accepted position. Her 75%, you 25%.
As for contributing to her lifestyle, that's what couples do.
(at least it sounds like there's no kids involved, thankfully)0 -
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You don't have to settle for 12.5% of your CURRENT home, you may well be entitled to 50%.
But if you buy now, then that is the accepted position. Her 75%, you 25%.
As for contributing to her lifestyle, that's what couples do.
(at least it sounds like there's no kids involved, thankfully)
We don't have children as she doesn't want them. The only other joint asset is the odog which she is more than welcome to.0 -
nearlysingle wrote: »this is why I am 100% sure, only 90%. It doesn't add up?
He may have had more staying power than normally and you were expected home around the time so just rushed out commando as he couldn't find them immediatelyMortgage (Nov 15): £79,950 | Mortgage (May 19): £71,754 | Mortgage (Sep 22): £0
Cashback sites: £900 | £30k in 2016: £30,300 (101%)0 -
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No pictures or it didn't happen"It is prudent when shopping for something important, not to limit yourself to Pound land/Estate Agents"
G_M/ Bowlhead99 RIP0
sort of :eek: 
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