Unrequited love

missbiggles1

SailorSam wrote: »

I can't see a problem here. You say you've known her 12mths, why haven't you asked her for a date. If she's early 30s the age can't be such a big thing.

"Nothing ventured, nothing gained". (But delete creepy computer pickies before inviting her round.)

System

SailorSam wrote: »

I can't see a problem here. You say you've known her 12mths, why haven't you asked her for a date. If she's early 30s the age can't be such a big thing.

I wonder if dodger1 is very young, meaning he'd be her toyboy, or if he's getting on in years!

tiger_eyes

Never socialise with someone you have unrequited feelings for. It just drags out the pain.

SandC

You should delete the pics as that is a bit creepy.

So far as the woman herself goes, there are obviously reasons why you know it won't happen, but it would help if you told us as we don't have the full picture.

But you know what? I've had a few crushes over the past while but recognised them as that and actually enjoyed them. They showed me I still have feelings and excitement in my belly and maybe it'll be directed at the right person, right time one of these days...

So perhaps you should enjoy the feelings but keep yourself in check at the same time. If you can't, then you should consider cooling the friendship.

SailorSam

avogadro wrote: »

I wonder if dodger1 is very young, meaning he'd be her toyboy, or if he's getting on in years!

I thought if he's giving her a lift to the athletics he must be able to drive, so he's not 14. And if he's doing that much Athletics he probably isn't as old as me. So lets say he maybe early 20s. It's not to big a difference if they both liked each other.
We'll have to wait to see what he says.

SailorSam

Seems i was wrong in saying the Op probably isn't as old as me. This is a post he made earlier this afternoon.......

I can't speak for the disabled or unemployed but I can as a pensioner and many pensioners who I personally know. We are of a generation who respect our own decisions, if we make an appointment we either turn up or cancel the appointment if things improve.

I think then it is a bit creepy to keep pics of someone half your age.

swingaloo

Looking at old threads the OP is a pensioner so is understandable why he is thinking as he is and also why perhaps he does not want to come back to the thread to give more information.

Maybe it isnt love but this young woman is obviously invoking feelings which the op remembers from his younger days and although he is realistic enough to know that nothing will probably come of it, it dosent stop him being affected.

Just because someone is getting on in years does not mean they cant have the same emotions as younger people.

missbiggles1

avogadro wrote: »

I wonder if dodger1 is very young, meaning he'd be her toyboy, or if he's getting on in years!

IIRC, he's over pension age.

fairy_lights

dodger1 wrote: »

While typing this several pictures of her are on a loop on my PC, I sit here just smiling at them, wishing and hoping, for what I don't know.

You need to stop this, right now. As has already been said, this is pretty creepy. Does she even know you've got pictures of her? If I found out that a man I attended a sporting club with had photos of me in a loop on his computer and sat there mooning over them like a hormonal teenager I would call a halt to any future lift sharing or socialising.
Edit: and it's not because of your age, it would be creepy if you were the same age as her too.

Loz01

Sorry OP but the pictures on the PC are a bit weird, I'd hate it if someone had photo's of me and I didn't know!! Not being harsh, seems as tho you like her genuinely and you're not a creeper :rotfl: - is she in a relationship? If not, why not ask her for a drink or a lunchtime meal?