Unrequited love

dodger1

getting other help

System

Wouldn't advise getting too attached while things are in v early stages, you cannot really know a person that early, so it can't really be love yet, just attachment and need. Last thing a woman wants is to be loved just for her legs and if you can't justify something in her personality to admire its not much of a starter

Remember there are 7 billion people in this world and half of them are sheilas. I recommend getting to know more to realise that, maybe online dating or some sort of alternative

Jacko_amz

how do you know this will only ever be one sided? plenty of couples have a big age difference. Is she already in a relationship?

barbiedoll

MatthewAinsworth wrote: »

Wouldn't advise getting too attached while things are in v early stages, you cannot really know a person that early, so it can't really be love yet, just attachment and need. Last thing a woman wants is to be loved just for her legs and if you can't justify something in her personality to admire its not much of a starter

Remember there are 7 billion people in this world and half of them are sheilas. I recommend getting to know more to realise that, maybe online dating or some sort of alternative

Yes, completely agree with this ^^^

You're not "in love", you just have a major crush. It happens to all of us at some time in our lives, sometimes it's with someone we only know from afar (the lovely bloke who drives the bus), sometimes it's with someone we think we know well (work colleague, gym partner etc)

Move on, get a life of your own and stop fixating on someone you know that you can't have........

Or is that part of the attraction?

System

Women also generally require you to be strong enough to be happy without them, theyre not really there to lean on and if anything want to feel they can lean on you, as well as that you'll need to be secure to survive all the ups and downs of a relationship (never smooth) - if you feel right now that you'll never be that strong we all have, you may eventually surprise yourself, surviving and pushing your limits makes you stronger

tomtontom

While typing this several pictures of her are on a loop on my PC,

Is a bit creepy. I can't imagine she'd be at all comfortable with this.

Sounds like you need some distance from her. Can you join another athletics group?

(That's not to say I'm not sympathetic - we've all been there.)

Gigervamp

dodger1 wrote: »

While typing this several pictures of her are on a loop on my PC

I know you're infatuated with this woman (as that's what this is) but the above that I've quoted is a bit creepy.

System

Yea pictures on loop are just going to torture u more and feed the obsession.

Women take up valuable PlayStation time so I recommend you distract with that, or speaking to other women since you're not in a relationship. If you simply haven't met the right one yet don't beet yourself up about it, its luck, and this woman might be preventing you actually meeting the right one

swingaloo

Im a bit more sympathetic to your plight than most of the replies but there is a massive amount of info missing from your post if you are really looking for advice.

Why can it not progress?
How old are you, what is the age difference?
Are either of you married or in a relationship?
How does she view you? Does she encourage contact or is she just using you for a lift here and there?

And importantly- those pictures you have on a loop. Where did you get them from?

System

Swingaloo - Were all sympathetic but have funny ways of showing it sometimes, but thats why were here, its obviously unhealthy if its causing distress and best not to dwell too much or encourage him to dwell too much on it, for his sake

SailorSam

I can't see a problem here. You say you've known her 12mths, why haven't you asked her for a date. If she's early 30s the age can't be such a big thing.