Unrequited love

tea_lover

It might all seem romantic in your head but it's coming across to me as creepy stalker.

barbiedoll

Delete the pictures now. She'd probably be embarrassed and horrified in equal measure, if she knew that you were mooning over her pictures in this way.

If she was interested, she's probably mature enough to let you know. So she clearly isn't. Don't waste any more of your time gazing at pictures, get out there and meet some real women, who may actually be interested in you.

We all have our secret crushes. My best friend recently posted a picture on Facebook of her older brother, who I've been lusting after since I was 15 years old.....a long time! I have a quick peek every so often, I allow myself a big sigh for what might have been, then I get on with my real life. Funnily enough, I occasionally see him on the train from work and we have absolutely nothing in common. Whilst I'd happily rip his clothes off, I wouldn't want to date him, even if he asked me out and I was in a position to accept. It's not real love, despite lasting longer than both of my marriages put together!

Don't despair OP, this will pass. But definitely delete the photos!

Petra_70

swingaloo wrote: »

Looking at old threads the OP is a pensioner so is understandable why he is thinking as he is and also why perhaps he does not want to come back to the thread to give more information.

Maybe it isnt love but this young woman is obviously invoking feelings which the op remembers from his younger days and although he is realistic enough to know that nothing will probably come of it, it doesn't stop him being affected.

Just because someone is getting on in years does not mean they cant have the same emotions as younger people.

NO WAY! I figured that the OP was about 18. :eek::eek::eek:

fairy_lights wrote: »

You need to stop this, right now. As has already been said, this is pretty creepy. Does she even know you've got pictures of her? If I found out that a man I attended a sporting club with had photos of me in a loop on his computer and sat there mooning over them like a hormonal teenager I would call a halt to any future lift sharing or socialising.

Edit: and it's not because of your age, it would be creepy if you were the same age as her too.

Absolutely agree with this. Surely, on some level, a man who is a pensioner MUST know it's not right to obsess over a woman of 30-odd and have an array of pictures on his computer that he keeps mooning over.

Having a crush is normal for anyone, but this is just weird, and as some people have already asked, how did the OP get the woman's pictures? I bet she would be horrified if she knew. I certainly would be! :eek:

As fairylights says, stop all this for goodness sake!

BrassicWoman

I agree - creepy

Pollycat

OP
you've provided a fair bit of information on your first (only) post so far on this thread.
I think this is a very important bit that you've missed out:

Jacko_amz wrote: »

Is she already in a relationship?

If she is, then maybe you should be taking steps to distance yourself from her.

If she isn't in a relationship, then what is the barrier to you asking her out?
As other posters have said, age difference is not a necessarily the killer.

And - also as others have advised - delete the photos.

dodger1

Jacko_amz wrote: »

how do you know this will only ever be one sided? plenty of couples have a big age difference. Is she already in a relationship?

She's single.

dodger1

MatthewAinsworth wrote: »

Wouldn't advise getting too attached while things are in v early stages, you cannot really know a person that early, so it can't really be love yet, just attachment and need. Last thing a woman wants is to be loved just for her legs and if you can't justify something in her personality to admire its not much of a starter

Remember there are 7 billion people in this world and half of them are sheilas. I recommend getting to know more to realise that, maybe online dating or some sort of alternative

12 months of slowly getting to know her is not in my opinion early stages. As for the legs comment, where on earth has that come from? I've never fallen for looks alone, yes as an initial attraction but over 12 months no way.

itsanne

dodger1 wrote: »

She's single.

If she's single and you're single. there's nothing to stop you suggesting something low key like going for a coffee and taking things from there: nothing ventured, nothing gained and all that.

Like everyone else has said, though, the pictures do need to be deleted. How do you think she would feel about them if she knew? (That's a rhetorical question.)

dodger1

swingaloo wrote: »

Im a bit more sympathetic to your plight than most of the replies but there is a massive amount of info missing from your post if you are really looking for advice.

Why can it not progress?
How old are you, what is the age difference?
Are either of you married or in a relationship?
How does she view you? Does she encourage contact or is she just using you for a lift here and there?

And importantly- those pictures you have on a loop. Where did you get them from?

Receiving other help

Pollycat

dodger1 wrote: »

She's single.

Given the age difference - which some posters have pointed out is likely to be a significant number of years - do you think she would be open to possibly taking the relationship further?

You have to determine if she's just being friendly with you or is possibly interested in you romantically.

If you ask, she may be horrified and you could lose her friendship.

But - please do delete the photos.
Enough posters have told you it's creepy.
And it is.