Money Moral Dilemma: Should I buy a cheaper engagement ring?

ButterflyLC

This just says to me she is either a gold digger or not emotionally mature enough to get engaged/married. I was delighted that my husband went out to the shop on his own, picked the ring that he thought I would like and proposed. I high-fived my now husband when he told me that he had gone in on a day where he saved 60% and then got a further 10% off at the till! I wasn't concerned about price, in fact I would have been raging if he spent all of his money one a piece of jewellery. Buy what you can afford, leaving yourself in debt leads to a whole host of other problems. If she doesn't appreciate it then she is ungrateful and tbh I would reconsider the engagement in that case.

LaurelOakwood

I have the opposite problem! My partner insists on my ring being made of something more precious than silver and wants a diamond in it. I'd be happy with silver and our birthstones for under £100 and put the rest towards something more useful (like fixing our fence that just blew down plus other house-jobs)!!

moneyistooshorttomention

Dadad wrote: »

I was such a poor student at the time that we couldn't afford an engagement ring at all, so just went ahead and got married. And she had to buy the £20 wedding ring. We still laugh about it 48 years later !

I would say being a student counts as "extenuating circumstances":rotfl:.

Just remembering that most "people I knew" went to University (this being early 1970s) and a lot of them emerged at the end of that time with a degree certificate in one hand and an engagement in the other one so to say.

I'd forgotten that one rather - but still recall being surprised at just how many men were already "taken" when they emerged from University (as I'd assumed they'd still come out the end single and then I'd start dating in earnest so to say:rotfl:).

cazpost

Don't get engaged to her,she sounds horrible...

My first engagement ring cost £9 from Argos,he then replaced it with a bigger and more flashy looking one which cost £20 from QVC.It's the thought and the sentiment which matter,not the pricetag

moneyistooshorttomention

LaurelOakwood wrote: »

I have the opposite problem! My partner insists on my ring being made of something more precious than silver and wants a diamond in it. I'd be happy with silver and our birthstones for under £100 and put the rest towards something more useful (like fixing our fence that just blew down plus other house-jobs)!!

If that's what you genuinely want/would be happy with then I'd say "Its YOUR ring - not his - and its up to you to choose the style of it". You will be the one wearing it after all.

# call me old-fashioned ...but I believe its the womans day and her choices about it so to say.

matt2baker

All I know is, in the USA they base it on how much it costs and how big it is...............whether it's nice or not is immaterial!!

Person_one

fairy_lights wrote: »

What?! Do people really specify how much they want their significant other to spend on a ring now? Is she really more concerned about the cost of the ring than the look or it or the thought behind it?

Sometimes the cost can tell you a bit about the thought though.

For example, a man who spends a lot of money on himself and goodies and gadgets just for him to enjoy but then doesn't want to shell out more than the minimum for something for his partner to enjoy, that's not a great sign.

Although, these 'dilemmas' are getting more ridiculous and pointless each time. Where do 'morals' come into this at all?

tallgirld

I have 3 words of advice........ DON'T MARRY HER!

Pollycat

LaurelOakwood wrote: »

I have the opposite problem! My partner insists on my ring being made of something more precious than silver and wants a diamond in it. I'd be happy with silver and our birthstones for under £100 and put the rest towards something more useful (like fixing our fence that just blew down plus other house-jobs)!!

It's - imho - crazy for your OH to 'insist' on what metal and stone an engagement ring is made of.

Aren't you the one who will be wearing it?
TBH, if he's insisting over this, it would set alarm bells ringing for me.

I agree with the post below:

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

If that's what you genuinely want/would be happy with then I'd say "Its YOUR ring - not his - and its up to you to choose the style of it". You will be the one wearing it after all.

# call me old-fashioned ...but I believe its the womans day and her choices about it so to say.

Kernow666

makes me laugh people actually believe these blatantly made up moral dilemmas and reply thinking there answer will make a difference