POLL: Would you appreciate a public wedding proposal?

Alikay

I'd hate it as I'm very shy and would hate being the centre of attention. I'd much prefer a private proposal, but even then, I wouldn't want it sprung on me out-of-the-blue: It's a really important step, and I'd hope we'd have had conversations that would make it clear we were heading in that direction, and our intentions were for a long-term commitment to each other.

marleyboy

I think a private proposal to at least give a green light before a public announcement or proposal would suffice.

I can think of nothing worse than being turned down in front of everyone you know.

arbroath_lass

Lily-Rose wrote: »

A lot of people are saying how disgusting it is that he wants to do it at the parents Ruby Wedding anniversary, but as I said in my post number... 8, he has cleared it with them. He asked them if it would be OK to do it, and they are OK with it. (Well they said they are anyway.)

What if she says no, though? Everyone will be upset and the parents' celebration will be ruined. Selfish and rude in my opinion. Not to mention extremely tacky.

Pollycat

Lily-Rose wrote: »

A lot of people are saying how disgusting it is that he wants to do it at the parents Ruby Wedding anniversary, but as I said in my post number... 8, he has cleared it with them. He asked them if it would be OK to do it, and they are OK with it. (Well they said they are anyway.)

People must not have noticed my post there.

http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showpost.php?p=69466962&postcount=8

Still, it's still massively tacky isn't it?

Thanks for your contributions folks. (And for voting!)

Maybe they felt they couldn't say no....

Mojisola

arbroath_lass wrote: »

What if she says no, though? Everyone will be upset and the parents' celebration will be ruined. Selfish and rude in my opinion. Not to mention extremely tacky.

The pressure to say yes in that moment would be enormous - even if she really wanted to say no!

gettingtheresometime

tara747 wrote: »

What??? What's a proposal video? :eek:

Where the proposal, usually following someone singing, is filmed and then put on youtube

selement

I personally would not have liked a public proposal but I don't really like being the centre of attention, some people love it (but it isn't the safe option!). Someone I know proposed to his partner on a bus because there were lots of people around! Thought that sounded like the worst thing ever but she still said yes. He said it was good because everyone claps you when it's public. I am glad it was just me and my partner for our engagement though!

74jax

When I posted my reply that I was proposed to in public and loved it I think I'm not on the same waveleangth as what others consider 'public'.

I really don't see why a public place is bad, maybe it's park that they always walk through, maybe a corner of a pub where they first met, during the interval of their favorite film at a cinema, a public places doesn't have to be filled shoulder to shoulder with people.

Mine was in one such place (shoulder to shoulder with people), but it was between us two and no-one batted an eyelid. but a very very public place.

As I also mentioned, at someone elses party I think is really bad form, whether they agree or not, it's really making the other person not be able to to say no - even though he will know she'd say yes anyway the 'assumption' is that the proposer is taking away all control.

SingleSue

My now ex husband proposed to me on stage in front of about 300 people.....it made it oh so special and meant everyone else could be involved (we had about 25 family members in the audience). It was as if he was publicly declaring his love for me rather than it being a secret.

Weirdly, I am usually one who prefers to be in the background and hate being the center of attention but it really was very special.

ampersand_

Personally I wouldn't mind public or private, but that's because I know I would say yes! And my boyfriend knows this too haha. So no worries about any awkwardness I totally understand why someone wouldn't feel comfortable with something public though.