POLL: Would you appreciate a public wedding proposal?

Anatidaephobia

Personally, a public proposal would be my worst nightmare.

Thankfully my partner is aware of this and proposed in our own house to ensure nobody else would be around.

System

No i would want it to be a special moment just between the two of us.

missbiggles1

Lily-Rose wrote: »

A bit of a debate going on with me and a couple of friends right now.

One of my friends has a brother who is thinking of proposing publicly to his girlfriend of 3 years (they are 29.) He is planning on doing it at his parents Ruby Wedding anniversary party in December.

Frankly I can't think of anything worse than my OH proposing in front of the world, and think it should be a private affair.

What do you guys/gals think?

I wouldn't like it at all. Also doing it at someone else's big day seems really mean and attention seeking.

Serendipitious

What if her answer is that she wants some time to think about it?

Yolina

Lily-Rose wrote: »

You folks are saying exactly what I said LOL! It's just hideous, a public proposal, and you would HAVE to say yes, wouldn't you? I would, and then the next day I would say 'no sorry....'

I'd hate it too. My answer would be "I'll think about it" :rotfl:

Edit: sorry didn't see Serendipitious' post above

marisco_2

Lily-Rose wrote: »

It's just hideous, a public proposal, and you would HAVE to say yes, wouldn't you? I would, and then the next day I would say 'no sorry....' And then suggest we make up something in a few weeks, that made out we BOTH decided to not get married yet.

I find the above totally bizarre! If you mean no say no from the off. Otherwise you risk ending up looking a fool and upsetting people when it is totally avoidable.

gettingtheresometime

does anyone remember when some woman thought it would be a good idea to propose to her boyfriend, it being leap year, at his workplace in front of his mates on live tv.

the look on his face was priceless (ok car crash tv) and although he said yes, I wonder how long the relationship lasted after that

dragonette

Even with the best of intentions behind it, it always seems manipulative to me. Very, very few people would feel able to say no at a public proposal, and that makes it harder to say no afterwards.

In fact, I'm contrary by nature. A public proposal would be the perfect way to ensure the relationship ended, I simply couldn't be with anyone who knew me so poorly.

Sorry, just read the OP again - at someone's ruby anniversary?? Hideous bad manners and a total lack of consideration to disrupt other peoples' social event.

Might it be worth showing this to the young man in question? If he is madly in love then he possibly hasn't thought of these issues.

System

I wouldn't be fussed either way, i'd just be happy he'd proposed

Though knowing him it would be a more private moment

peachyprice

I don't think there's anything wrong with public proposals as long as the proposer is 100% sure that it is what the proposee would like, which hopefully if they're sure enough to want to spend they rest of their lives with them they would. If you're the kind of person who would hate that I'd like to think the person wanting to marry you would know that already.

However, to do it as somebody else's celebration party? What awful manners and so very, very tacky.