1st Christmas Together

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Whiteknight wrote: »

I did pay for the whole shop, we had gone shopping on Christmas Eve to get all those last minute items and party foods were also added - I should add at that point I was not sure what was going to be happening but knew that her and the children would be staying with family on Boxing Day and having a get together with them (Rather foolishly I suppose I hoped that I would be invited)

Interestingly enough it did come to about £80!



The original plan was for me to stay over on Christmas Eve so that I could see the children open the presents, that had to change as their father could only see them in the morning so to cut a long story down it was easier for me to not stay there (you will love this) I was told that he was staying over on Christmas Eve so that the children did not have to wait for him to arrive before they opened their presents.

Of course when he went and I was invited over the presents had been opened and they were busy playing with them, gifts from me were exchanged. Later that evening I dropped them off at the family she was staying with.

How do I feel about the relationship now?

Really wish I had not spent as much as I did, she did not seem to worry about what I would be eating after Christmas (when they were eating the leftovers from Christmas Day and party food) I feel used and more so now that she has become distant with me, with next to no contact from her since I dropped her children off on Monday.

I am starting to see why Gulash is adamant he won't touch single mums with a ten-foot pole :eek::rotfl:

You've been used, big time, mate Chalk it down to experience and next time beware.

mellymoo74

Sorry this happened white knight but you've learnt her true colours at a cost of a couple of hundred quid.
Don't contact her and get back out there.
Not all.single mums are.like this

LisaLou1982

Im also sorry to hear this WhiteKnight Hope things get better for you soon. At least it was a lesson learnt pretty early on in the day.

steph2901

How awful! She sounds like a user and gold-digger and you'd be better off without her.

I can't believe she let the ex stay over on Christmas Eve either!

Whiteknight

Thank you for all your kind messages.

getmore4less

PIcked this up from the followup post(came over from a debt post) so not read from the begining obviously there were some concerns over the situation in advance.

I wonder if the Ex is not so Ex anymore.

At least now WK can focus on clearing the credit card.

Guest101

Whiteknight wrote: »

Thank you for all your kind messages.

Have you made any decisions regarding this relationship?

Whiteknight

getmore4less wrote: »

PIcked this up from the followup post(came over from a debt post) so not read from the begining obviously there were some concerns over the situation in advance.

I wonder if the Ex is not so Ex anymore.

At least now WK can focus on clearing the credit card.

My mother thinks the same about the ex but I know she will always have a connection with the him but deep down regardless of anything else she is not like that.

Guest101 wrote: »

Have you made any decisions regarding this relationship?

We have spoken and I've been told that she does not consider us a couple anymore, she mentioned that she had felt we have been more like friends for quite some time now - blaming a lack of "us" time for a lot of it. She has said that she would like to remain friends with me, how that would work out I'm not quite sure!

Guest101

Whiteknight wrote: »

My mother thinks the same about the ex but I know she will always have a connection with the him but deep down regardless of anything else she is not like that.



We have spoken and I've been told that she does not consider us a couple anymore, she mentioned that she had felt we have been more like friends for quite some time now - blaming a lack of "us" time for a lot of it. She has said that she would like to remain friends with me, how that would work out I'm not quite sure!

I'd say this to her:

Dear ex, thanks for the offer, but I don't really remain friends with people who take advantage of my good nature. Good luck in the future, WK

And then just ignore ALL other contact. You deserve better.

steph2901

If she felt like that for some time, then she should not have asked you to pay for her kids christmas presents or her food shopping!

You are better off without her as she doesn't sound very honest and seems like a user. I don't think I'd want her as a friend either!