posting photos of children on FB

Mojisola

l3xi wrote: »

I re-read all these messages - sorry Mojisola, not picking on yours specifically - and something doesn't leave my mind... so a lot of you think that a father who effectively declined most, if not all, of his responsibilities as a father, and all the hard work and efforts and commitments that come with raising a child (sorry, I don't think 15-min weekly Skype sessions count towards that, and holiday-wise looks like both 2015 and 2016 are entirely on me), still has moral grounds/rights to ask the other parent to change the way they share photos online, in a closed FB family-friends circle? (Never mind the insults in the request, which I learned to ignore, I refused a long time ago to be drawn into name calling and insulting, via email or otherwise).

He sounds like a total pain as an ex and a father.

If there was no other way to do what you want to do - share the photos with family and friends - I would have said keep using FB.

As there is a way to do that - through emails - and yet 'comply' with his request, I'd make the change. He thinks he's stopped you sharing photos while you can carry on sharing as before.

Any request to stop sharing through email would be met with a very straightforward 'NO'.

Rebel_Cause

I think your ex is worried about the fact that tis mutual friend can see the pics if he 'likes' or comments on the pic of the kids etc. Then it will show up on his news feed for all his 'friends' to see.

I have even liked status updates and pictures of whatever my friends liked or shared on their newsfeed because it would show up on mine... even though the original person's profile was private and not even on my friend list.

Also, anyone can save any picture on Facebook or any other websites for that matter (unless the site has security measures) simply left click on the mouse, 'Save image/picture as'

That was one of the many reasons why I completely deleted the account.

fairy_lights

Mojisola wrote: »

You could set up a group email with all the people who currently see the photos on FB and send photos that way.

Friends and family still get to see the photos. Ex is happy that the children's photos aren't on FB.

But a group email to send photos to close family and friends isn't really any different to having a private Facebook profile where only close family and friends can view photos. As long as OP has tight security setting on facebook then no outsiders can view the photos, unless someone she knows goes out of their way to share them, which could happen anyway if they were emailed.

mgdavid

I don't understand why so many people think it right and proper to live out their lives and their family's lives on facebook.
Your ex certainly has as much right to an opinion on this as you do. You may or may not take any notice of his opinion but your subsequent action may say more about you than him. Difficult to form a view about your situation without knowing the whole backstory...

restless6

I would tell your ex to get a grip.
You are posting photos of your child, just like many other parents do- no harm in that.
If he doesn't like it, then that's up to him, but why should you change what you want to do just because of your ex?
Does he ask your permission for things he wants to do? I doubt it.
Tell him to stop moaning. Sounds like he just wants to have a go at you because he cannot control what you are doing.

fairy_lights

mgdavid wrote: »

I don't understand why so many people think it right and proper to live out their lives and their family's lives on facebook.

Posting an occasional photo of your child for your family and friends to see is hardly 'living your life out' on facebook.

l3xi

Rebel_Cause wrote: »

I think your ex is worried about the fact that tis mutual friend can see the pics if he 'likes' or comments on the pic of the kids etc. Then it will show up on his news feed for all his 'friends' to see.
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From what I know, that is valid only if you chose to share photos with Friends and 'Friends-of-Friends'. I do 'Friends' only. I might be wrong though.

I've just looked at my photo history on FB and checked privacy settings this afternoon. I've shared a grand total of 14 photos of my child over the course of the last 6 months, not tagged with her name, there's no identifiable info.

I also checked the school website, there are over 5 photos of my child on their website for school-related activities. Public photos.

I'll email him, but wait a couple of days, I've spent too much time on this already.

raven83

I would make it so this mutual friend can't see any of the pictures you post.

I personally don't see the problem with posting pictures of their children that are decent. I do however, think it is inappropriate when parents post pictures of their children in states on undress, that really does bother me.

pickledonionspaceraider

Sorry OP, but I agree with your ex but I am paranoid with social media

I would never ever post my small childrens pictures on facebook

It does not feel secure enough & pics could end up anywhere

TBagpuss

mgdavid wrote: »

I don't understand why so many people think it right and proper to live out their lives and their family's lives on facebook.
Your ex certainly has as much right to an opinion on this as you do. You may or may not take any notice of his opinion but your subsequent action may say more about you than him. Difficult to form a view about your situation without knowing the whole backstory...

Facebook is a medium. Different people use it in different ways. Simply using facebook doesn't automatically mean 'living out their lives' on it, any more than using twitter, or using the phone, or using any other medium does.

That said, OP, I think that this is a 'pick your battles' situation. Decide whether this is one of the parenting choices which you want to take a stand on, or whether there are other things which you see as more important to take a stand on!

You can set a 'custom' group for specific posts on facebook, so if you want, when you post a photo you can specify that it is only visible to specific people (such as relatives) rather than letting your full friends list see it.