I Think She Has Munchausen's Syndrome?

Mojisola

Spinkz wrote: »

Americans call it a yard, we call it a garden

This is like the 'Mom is American, Mum is British' - there are parts of this country where the backyard is a 'yard' (and where mothers are called "Mom").

pigpen

We had a yard at our first house.. it had no grass and was a yard.. my mother also has a yard.. I now have a garden.. with grass and plants I think of them as enclosed spaces though not a space where a child could get in but I guess a yard out front is also possible.. I have a front yard with a privet hedge I guess.

My son when aged 3 picked up stones coated in ant poison my delightful neighbour had put along my side of the adjoining fence.. my son was very sick.. I went absolutely off my crump yelling at the old guy who did it.. he was trying to kill my 3 cats because of the 19 cats down our terrace only mine pooped in his garden.. My grandson also picked up rat poison at the ex's house when DD1 last took him round.. it is possible that did happen.. and better safe than sorry where rat poison is concerned!

nit picking the details isn't really going to help anyone and is just differences in dialect mostly.

Pollycat

Well guys.... this thread has been resurrected from the dead (after over 2 months) by the OP.
As has another thread started by the OP).
Maybe we should ask why she has done that.
And ask why the OP feels the need to drag up old threads.....

RuthnJasper

bluelass wrote: »

I intend to tell social services she is unstable and this has been confirmed by a doctor. My SS does not want another one for a good few years but again she does not listen. I am not being awful and I am only considering contacting then I have not actually done so yet.

If the doctor is professional and abides by the Hippocratic Oath, then they will not have confirmed anything to you, Bluelass.

And as for "not being awful"; I am afraid that, there, we must disagree. I think the way you are discussing her and the things of which you are accusing her are appalling - regardless of whether any of these things are real or imagined. Horrible.

bluelass

It was my SS who told myself, my hubby and her parents about the diagnosis not anyone else. She has ADHD and a form of schizophrenia so those saying there is nothing wrong with her I disagree. She has been started on medication which was once weekly injections for a month by a community nurse now it is daily oral medication. She began seeing a psychiatrist 2 weeks ago which will be on a monthly basis for some considerable time. Do you think it wise for her to even think about having a second child with all this going on?. The medications alone can cause possible harm to a foetus but she doesn't think about this. And if she did have a second is it fair for us or her family to have to pick up the pieces and burden if she crumbles.

fairy_lights

Regardless of what she's been diagnosed with, it's still not your place to get involved. If she's already under the care of social services and a psychiatrist then how do you think sticking your oar in is going to help further? Having someone trying to meddle in her life like you're doing must make her feel terrible.

RuthnJasper

As far as I am aware (and I appreciate that I remain unaware of much), I don't believe that it is possible to suffer from both Schizophrenia AND Munchausen's-Syndromes-by-Proxy.

I should be happy to be proved wrong and will of course, willingly apologise if I am in error.

duchy

Pick up the pieces - My foot !!!

The OP has mentioned her husband is much older than her ....Simple younger wife insecurity of knowing she will never come first - and whilst she can't show resentment of her step-son - the DIL is an excellent substitute.

My partner has adult children and grandchildren- I don't see them as a threat- or resent them and I certainly don't r gossip about them. If my future DIL was struggling I'd be moving heaven and earth to help her not dripping bile and reporting her to social services. Family is family - step child or your own !!

Green is a most unflattering colour and I'm sure your husband isn't blind to your jealousy. It's more a question of when he decides enough is enough. So if you value your marriage OP you should consider getting yourself sorted out . You're not fooling anyone here so odds are you aren't fooling your family either.

System

bluelass wrote: »

It was my SS who told myself, my hubby and her parents about the diagnosis not anyone else. She has ADHD and a form of schizophrenia so those saying there is nothing wrong with her I disagree. She has been started on medication which was once weekly injections for a month by a community nurse now it is daily oral medication. She began seeing a psychiatrist 2 weeks ago which will be on a monthly basis for some considerable time. Do you think it wise for her to even think about having a second child with all this going on?. The medications alone can cause possible harm to a foetus but she doesn't think about this. And if she did have a second is it fair for us or her family to have to pick up the pieces and burden if she crumbles.

She's only just started medication, and if she's talked to her psychiatrist about wanting another baby i'm sure they are the best position to advise what medications are best (some can be taken during pregnancy and at the end of the day the mother is sometimes more at risk if they don't take medication). Either way its something SHE needs to discuss with those involved in her care as they can out in case a care plan and extra support if she needs if.

Despite what you probably think having a mental illness does not automatically mean you're unfit to be a parent. I have bipolar disorder and hope to have children one day, when i do it will be planned with medical professionals, and there will be the perinatal mental health team in place if needed.

What you DiL needs right now is SUPPORT, and if you can;t give that to her i suggest leaving her alone and letting people who do care about her support her.

thorsoak

bluelass wrote: »

It was my SS who told myself, my hubby and her parents about the diagnosis not anyone else. She has ADHD and a form of schizophrenia so those saying there is nothing wrong with her I disagree. She has been started on medication which was once weekly injections for a month by a community nurse now it is daily oral medication. She began seeing a psychiatrist 2 weeks ago which will be on a monthly basis for some considerable time. Do you think it wise for her to even think about having a second child with all this going on?. The medications alone can cause possible harm to a foetus but she doesn't think about this. And if she did have a second is it fair for us or her family to have to pick up the pieces and burden if she crumbles.

So why do you have a social worker? I would normally apologise for asking an intrusive personal question, but as you see fit to plaster your stepson's partner's personal situation all over the internet, I feel that you should share your situation as well.