I Think She Has Munchausen's Syndrome?

bluelass

I am not being evil and I do feel for her but I am not a doctor or psychologist. My SS has told me hubby that he doesn't really want to have another child but she will only see her own points of view and wants. A consultant in mental health has confirmed a diagnosis which will require a lot of remedial intervention and no it is not PND. And I do have a child of my own a 18 year old daughter from a previous relationship. I was a young parent but I didn't make up accounts of child minders or nursery staff doing awful things to her to gain attention. My DIL was 10 years older than I was when she became a parent so she isn't a niave young girl. Me and my hubby discussed having one of our own but I didn't wish to. She gets plenty of babysitting from her family it isn't that nobody helps at all.

meer53

bluelass wrote: »

I am not being evil and I do feel for her but I am not a doctor or psychologist. My SS has told me hubby that he doesn't really want to have another child but she will only see her own points of view and wants. A consultant in mental health has confirmed a diagnosis which will require a lot of remedial intervention and no it is not PND. And I do have a child of my own a 18 year old daughter from a previous relationship. I was a young parent but I didn't make up accounts of child minders or nursery staff doing awful things to her to gain attention. My DIL was 10 years older than I was when she became a parent so she isn't a niave young girl. Me and my hubby discussed having one of our own but I didn't wish to. She gets plenty of babysitting from her family it isn't that nobody helps at all.

Stop it ! It's not your business.

LilElvis

bluelass wrote: »

I do feel for her

Yes, we all believe that. I'm sure we all call people we care about names such as "nutter" and "airhead", criticise their parenting skills and appearance and threaten to bring social services in to break up their family.

lemonpopcorn

bluelass wrote: »

I am not being evil and I do feel for her but I am not a doctor or psychologist. My SS has told me hubby that he doesn't really want to have another child but she will only see her own points of view and wants. A consultant in mental health has confirmed a diagnosis which will require a lot of remedial intervention and no it is not PND. And I do have a child of my own a 18 year old daughter from a previous relationship. I was a young parent but I didn't make up accounts of child minders or nursery staff doing awful things to her to gain attention. My DIL was 10 years older than I was when she became a parent so she isn't a niave young girl. Me and my hubby discussed having one of our own but I didn't wish to. She gets plenty of babysitting from her family it isn't that nobody helps at all.

Well if the consultant has made a diagnosis that requires treatment then leave the treatment to the professionals. This includes whether they have any concerns, if they do they will inform Social services themselves.

Your interference in this is not needed and certainly not welcome from her point of view.
Your stepson has the choice of using condoms if he wishes to make doubly sure she cannot get pregnant.

Your attitude and general vileness towards someone who is obviously struggling is what perpetuates stigma towards those with mental health issues.

I'm glad she has a diagnosis for her sake as now she has some recourse in terms of action if ignorant people treat her appallingly as any discrimination towards her is covered under the equalities act.

As for those stating you're mentally unstable, I disagree, I just think you're a spiteful interfering person who needs to back off.

duchy

bluelass wrote: »

I intend to tell social services she is unstable and this has been confirmed by a doctor. My SS does not want another one for a good few years but again she does not listen. I am not being awful and I am only considering contacting then I have not actually done so yet.

Flipping heck

You *do* realise who SS will consider unstable if you run to them with this ridiculous tale - don't you !!!

RuthnJasper

Duchy and the others are right, Bluelass.

You post all sorts of terrible stories about this woman (https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/comment/67181882#Comment_67181882), and have done so for quite some time.

If things were truly that bad, surely someone in social services, a nursery, friend's mum, a GP would have done something by now?

You still seem to be on some level of speaking terms with the S-S; how do you think she would react if she knew you were posting such things?

And if she does have some sort of problem (which I have to say I doubt, after all this time), then is "reporting her" really the kindest way of helping?

As I have said previously in one of your other threads - whatever your opinions, this is the lady your husband's son has chosen to make his life with.

If you truly care; focus your energy on helping her and not sl*gging her off on an internet forum.

suki1964

Mupette wrote: »

None of this is true, the op is bored and seeking attention again

Totally agree

Although she must have hit the Gin early today as she usually posts such carp in the early hours, when hubby has !!!!!!ed off to spend the evening with Son and DIL

Leaving Op to sit at home soaking herself in a bottle of Gin and Thornton's chocolates, wondering if marrying the old fella for his house was really worth all this grief

thorsoak

bluelass wrote: »

I am not being evil and I do feel for her but I am not a doctor or psychologist. My SS has told me hubby that he doesn't really want to have another child but she will only see her own points of view and wants. A consultant in mental health has confirmed a diagnosis which will require a lot of remedial intervention and no it is not PND. And I do have a child of my own a 18 year old daughter from a previous relationship. I was a young parent but I didn't make up accounts of child minders or nursery staff doing awful things to her to gain attention. My DIL was 10 years older than I was when she became a parent so she isn't a niave young girl. Me and my hubby discussed having one of our own but I didn't wish to. She gets plenty of babysitting from her family it isn't that nobody helps at all.

Correction: You ARE being evil - and I think that you have an alternative agenda: in your twisted mind, you believe that SS etc will agree with you, that the 3 year old (and the baby) will be removed from their mother's care, put into the care of the father ....and you will be on hand to "help".

This will all happen when hell freezes over. Forget it, you are just an evil busybody who is determined to ruin the lives of a young couple. If they have problems about their relationship, they are their problems - not yours. And keep your evil, pinnochio nose out of it.

Pollycat

bluelass wrote: »

I intend to tell social services she is unstable and this has been confirmed by a doctor. My SS does not want another one for a good few years but again she does not listen. I am not being awful and I am only considering contacting then I have not actually done so yet.

So a doctor has confirmed that your DIL2B is 'unstable', although I highly doubt that this was the actual diagnosis he gave.

So what ongoing medical help is this woman having?
Surely the doctor didn't just say 'I've examined you, talked with you and pronounce you 'unstable'. Have a nice day'....?

Tamsin_Temrin

I think you are so evil you should run a care home.

From a safe distance I can point and laugh at you. I am really glad that I don't have to deal with you close up.