Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 2

Pyxis

elsien wrote: »

I have had a positive day which has reminded me of the things I love about my current job. Tomorrow is take Gitdog to work day (office based only!) after which I may no longe have a job.:rotfl:

I bet he'll be as good as gold and everyone will make a huge fuss of him and he'll get very big-headed and up himself and then make your life hell when you get home!

Either that, or he'll jump all over the computers, eat all the office biscuits and make a shredded nest out of the confidential files!

Waves_and_Smiles

I want chips. Correction, I need chips which is unusual because I hardly ever eat them. WaSp will not let me have any because there is food in the fridge that needs using up. Please persuade WaSp that this is a culinary emergency.

elsien

Can't you have the food that needs using up and chips?
Chips and bacon butties - the two foods that when the urge strikes it can't be denied.

I've just spotted a radio 4 programme about meditation causing panic attacks for some people. Not listened to it yet but it sounds interesting.

Waves_and_Smiles

Good idea, elsien! I shall suggest that!

Although I can meditate on my own terms conventional mediation doesn't work for me because I panic. I cannot concentrate on my breathing, I become aware of it and forget how to breathe properly, then I panic and usually end up hyperventilating. Ant relaxation exercises that tell me to become aware of my breathing are totally impossible.

codemonkey

Waves_and_Smiles wrote: »

Ant relaxation exercises that tell me to become aware of my breathing are totally impossible.

I think I've spotted your problem WaS. You need people meditation exercises.

Waves_and_Smiles

Hahahahahaha! Now I can't stop laughing, code! :rotfl:

You mean becoming one with the ants isn't how it works?

faerielight

Hi guys, I'm really stressing about something. I bought some stuff from a company, but forgot that I had never changed my address when I moved 5 years ago, and bought with paypal, so I presumed that the company had my paypal address. I got an email saying status completed, then I realised that it had gone to my old address. As I was approaching, I saw the couple who live in my old flat approaching with suitcases, as they had just come back from holiday. It must've gon to the guy who shares the hallway. The problem is is that that neighbour harrassed and stalked me for the last 2 years I loved there. He had a habbit of opening all my letters and keeping parcels back then, so I know he's got it. I was too scared to ring on his door so I waited in the car and they asked him, he swore blind he didn't take it. It's brought it all back, what he did to me. He has a psychosis related mental health issue, he was very aggressive and violent to me . I had to call the police daily on him, he harassed my carers, rang DLa to tell them I was working and they stopped my DLa for weeks. He even told police that I had my own plaster room and I was plastering my leg to pretend I'd broken it. He spent up to 12 hours a day listening into my flat, I caught him on a step ladder with a periscope spying into my flat. ten to SA me. He is a nasty piece of work. was evil to me, and I'm sure he is enjoying witholding my parcel from me.

I really don't know what to do.. the idea of being embroiled in anything to do with him is truly scary to me, but I want my parcel back!

I will contact the company tomorrow, I'm worried I won't get my money back though, as it had the wrong address, although I didn't consent to it being left with any neighbours. The couple didn't find any calling card from the courier, so I presume the nasty neighbour took it.
I know it was my fault, but it was 100 pounds, it was birthday presents for my 2 friends so I can't let that kind of money go. I could call the police if the courier can prove that he signed for it, but he is not at all scared by police,he got arrested for common assault of me, and now he knows I know he took it, he won't answer his door, and doubt the police will find it, his OCD hoarding is so severe, he even hoards in the bath.. the place is backed to the ceiling with rubbish. I feel shaken up that he has my parcel!

jobbingmusician

If you didn't consent to it being left with anyone else, it's their problem. So what you need to do is:

1. Talk to nice people and ask them if they will accept parcel, and/or let you know if they get a card to say they were out when delivery was attempted.
2. Contact company, check address it was delivered to, and say it hasn't arrived. Make it clear it can't be left anywhere else if no-one is in, due to stalking issues.
3. Keep in contact with nice people so that they let you know when either the (new) parcel or attempted delivery card arrives.

The fact that you aren't living there is actually irrelevant - the delivery company misdelivered it (or didn't deliver at all) and so they need to redeliver. If you are feeling particularly subtle, you could even give them an alternative address for their new delivery - your new one!

faerielight

thanks so much for your reply Jobbing :)I am really beating myself up for not changing my address. The couple took my number and called to say that they had checked all the neighbours and it wasn't wish any of them. They said they would have another go at scary neighbour, and my friend went over to ring his door but he didn't answer.. You've given me a bit of hope that I will get the money back.. phewee.. is it the couriers fault then or the company? As I poaid with paypal, if all else fails, I suppose I could open for a refund.

whitewing

Maybe you could persuade the courier to go and collect it and get it to you. He/she should at least remember who they gave it to.

Just check the delivery instructions if you can to ensure you didn't put that it could be left with neighbours.