Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 2

mellymoo74

By accident Elsien
I did some gap analysis for a hse audit, the hse director thought I was good, I ended up doing hse.
The contracting I did, I did without a nebosh lol I jumped straight to nvq level 5 (same as nebosh diploma).

The level I am at is still people focused and I likes people (not that you'd know from the epic rants)

Since the agency call yesterday not heard owt else about the 'here have 3 sites' role

Telephone interview went alright.

mellymoo74

Healthy minds yesterday

She's chasing the floating support worker referral to MIND.
Gonna speak to some other suppliers of the service
Look at advocacy services to remove the HA from me (OH can't deal they acknowledged this)

So went alright I think

onomatopoeia99

Went for my surgery today and they sent some of the lumps / moles on my neck that they cut off for biposy. My neck is now a patchwork of surgical dressings, and quite sore, plus I have to keep the dressings dry until Saturday, so have strict instructions that I can't shower for two days :eek:

Surgeon said "take it easy for a few days, walking is OK but don't go to the gym." Like I belong to a gym! "PE" at school put me off that for life.


Since I'm going to be almost at Birmingham on Saturday, does anyone that lives that way know if there's anything interesting to see in the city? I've only ever driven past on one or other of the motorways, or been to the NEC for shows, so thought I might try and find something (the museum looks a possibility, if parking is possible). Of course, if the weather's awful I'm just as likely to go straight home again once I've bought my new computer...

tea_lover wrote: »

Now I just need to actually get started on the clearing.... this is where the plan falls down a bit!

Sounds like every DIY project in this house too

Waves_and_Smiles

Evening all! My form should have arrived at the DWP today. Not that I am thinking about it...(please make me stop).

I echo what everyone else said, tea. You are lovely and you deserve someone lovely to be with, FOH does not fit that description after how badly he has treated you. Don't throw away the chance to meet someone who will make you incredibly happy by choosing FOH. You are worth so much more.

Ouchie, whitewing! I spent my teenage years with almost constant tonsillitis, it hurts! Have a hug.

Things sound a bit more positive, Melly! I did laugh at the pigs ears.

Jet lag can indeed cause depression, Pyxis, Can you try staying up an hour later each day to slowly shift your sleep time? I'll ask my Oxford sleep expert what he advises.

I no longer have a carer at all. My teacher friend has financial problems so can no longer give me the money. Once things are more stable I will contact my Bubbly Bulldozer, possibly about someone just checking on me. Really, WaSp can help me with balancing in the shower and my physio, the carer gave him a break. Where it does become a problem is the fact I have to be checked on every 4 hours. Having a carer gave WaSp an 8 hour gap to go out and do what he wanted twice a week, usually visiting Milliefleur. He would be lucky to get there and back in 4 hours for the travelling alone. Sometimes he just goes for a walk and a coffee, he can relax knowing he doesn't have to check his watch.

It really restricts WaSp's life and that isn't fair, it also means Millefleur won't see him so we need to do something. Once I have the benefit side of things sorted (because I really can't handle anything else right now) I shall call my Bubbly Bulldozer and see what she can offer, even someone just letting themselves in and then going again 10 minutes later would mean WaSp has longer than 4 hours to be away from home, it really isn't fair for him to be restricted to that time frame indefinitely. Just because I live my weird life in isolation in my flat doesn't mean WaSp should have to as well (I am feeling like a guilty waste of space again, can you tell?).

Of course if I did what everyone keeps telling me to do and applied for the higher level of DLA, now PIP I could use that money to pay for someone. I know, I know...

elsien

WaS, has WaSP had a carers assessment? Because if he hasn't then it may help if he did as it would give extra emphasis to his needs as well as to yours.
Although I strongly suspect he may run screaming for the hills at the prospect? I believe some councils have a facility to do them online, if that helps at all.

Wellyboots6

There's a seallife centre there Ono, but that's all I know!

Tea, could it be that you feel like you haven't 'finished'? I know sometimes you feel like things will be OK if you can just help the other person change x y z about their life, situation etc. Could it be that you feel like you haven't seen things through to their conclusion, you haven't managed to help him enough, you don't know for 100% certain he can't change etc? It can be very hard to walk away when you don't feel like you have total closure. Just a thought.

I did my weight in Wednesday but forgot to post it! I've lost 5 lb since last week, which seems a lot so I think the scales are broken! Bearded one has lost 6 lb.
It all sounds very positive until you realise that even now I actually weigh more than I did the day before I gave birth!! Bearded one keeps trying to make me feel better by telling me it's just baby weight I need to lose, and then some!

elsien

If you like historicals, the national trust back to backs are interesting, although you need to book a slot in advance. Right by the Chinese quarter if you want a spot of lunch. Staffordshire hoard at the museum, and the art gallery sometimes has some good things on. Not sure what's there at the moment though.
And the dreaded bullring and new central station if you like shopping, which would be my idea of hell. The Thinktank will probably also be full of screaming kids.

Waves_and_Smiles

Hahahaha! You are right, elsien. There would be a sudden WaSp shaped hole in the door. He isn't one to say he needs help, it makes him feel like he's failed so he will soldier on until he's fit to drop. He also see's caring for me very much as his responsibility, in the same way that his main focus used to be work his focus now is taking care of me and he takes it very seriously. A lot more seriously than I do who is far more likely to bend the care plan. It took me a year to convince him that if I was a couple of hours late with my pills occasionally that it didn't mean disaster, he is very by-the-book.

Usually when Bubbly Bulldozer says jump WaSp asks how high? I then discuss things with her and tell her when I am not happy with a suggestion (or flat out refuse) and poor WaSp sits there horrified that I dare disagree. I find it adorable and funny and wouldn't have him any other way. But I might be able to get around him having an assessment by saying it would mean he could visit Milliefleur who needs him, if he thinks he is still in the carer role he will accept help far more easily than he would accept it just for himself.

elsien

I still don't see why you should be paying for your carers WaS if you can't afford it.
When you think of the amount of money that's being saved by the local authority by you staying at home I'm now starting to get very cross on your behalf that they can't even provide someone to come in to give you a bit of a hand.

Waves_and_Smiles

Oh, I agree elsien. I seem to float in this no-mans land where people mention residential care is an option for me if I do not have support but at the same time I am treated as very independent and able to sort things out for myself. I may be partly to blame because when I am well I am very able to advocate for my own needs and can seem very capable. Then when I relapse it swings the other way and I am totally dependent on someone being with me and couldn't advocate my way out of a paper bag. I am not one or the other really and I don't think that they know what classification I fit under. Sometimes I need constant 24 hour support, other times I am pretty much able to take care of myself if we ignore the whole going outside part. I am not sure that they are really familiar with my type of psychotic illness and how quickly my needs can change depending on what my chemicals happen to be doing.