Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 2

whitewing

Maybe agency or interview staff were having trouble getting in too and they decided to wait until tomorrow to get in touch with you. But it does sound like travelling would have been a nightmare. You are doing well, melly, considering everything that is going on.

Waves_and_Smiles

How horrid for your mum, Georgie! Well done for standing up for her! I often used to get tutted at by people when I was out. My balance disorder means I can't step down a kerb unassisted, I have no sense of balance and my head spins so I need to stand still and lean on someone as I do so, the same happens with slopes. I often had people in a hurry mutter at me and it is really hurtful. I would love to be able to step up and down a kerb like everyone else!

Good luck for tomorrow, Melly! It sounds like today would have been a nightmare if you had tried to get there and more stress is the last thing that you need.

mellymoo74

I spoke to them twice WW just didn't get any response to my I can't get to interview can they rearrange call and email.

It's fine I wouldn't have got there before midafternoon so would have missed interview

mellymoo74

Exactly WaS OH would have a meltdown so no good for interview
Oh well another day and all that

whitewing

WaS,

I remember reading an autobiography once about a woman who was blind. She then had some kind of operation and gained some sight. She couldn't walk down grassy slopes initially because she couldn't see that it was sloped.

I know that you do have balance issues anyway but I also wonder if some of it is that your environment at home is so small compared to being outside?

Wellyboots6

Dreading my EMDR session tomorrow, it brings up so much bad stuff.
Feel like cancelling but I should really sick with it. I just hate that it makes me feel worse

mellymoo74

I get that welly
If you go I will brave healthy minds call.

Shall we take a bet on whether their passing me on to the ed team?

Gingernutty

tea_lover wrote: »

Just makes me so angry as I know that he is ill. I'm not condoning the way he's been behaving (believe me!) but I do know that this is not his normal behaviour. I also fully believe what I've heard from him and others that he's now on medication and is having counselling. I've seen a recent photo of him and he's lost a lot of weight (his face looks so different).

Sorry, tea but I believe you're being fed a line of bullshine.

I was put on a waiting list for counselling before Christmas and I've just received a letter telling me my face to face assessment will be in two weeks time.

How has he managed to access therapy so quickly?

Every time you speak to mutual friends and aquaintances, they'll pass messages back and forth.

"Tea asked about you...", "Tea says this...", I met Tea and told her..."

It's like go betweens.

Even if you're not contacting him directly, this is indirect contact and needs to stop.

If he has a solicitor, then your solicitor can contact his and you can arrange some of these mates of his to collect his belongings from the garage.

Arrange a date and time for when the garage will be unlocked, get one of your friends or family to deal with them and ensure the garage is empty of his stuff and his mates are gone before the garage is locked again.

Don't contact him.

Wellyboots6

Melly you've got a deal!

Would the ED team be that bad? They'd actually know what they are doing, and would hopefully be clued up enough to realise that certain things are not helpful to go on about straight away.

I agree with Gingernutty, Tea. And even if he were on medication and getting counselling, it hasn't been long enough to have any real effect yet. Also, if he'd been open and honest with his counsellor (which he'd need to be for any lasting change to occur) then they would have reinforced to him that his behaviour is unacceptable, and would likely have informed the relevant services themselves due to the risk issues.

tea_lover

I think after 5 weeks of medication and private counselling there would be some effect.

I enquired with some local counsellors last yr and they could all see me the same week, so I've got no problem believing that aspect.

The indirect contact is what he's said to my parents and what his mum has said to me. None of us are replying to either of them so nothing's getting back to him.