Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 2

Izadora

charliewocka wrote: »

Might have overstepped by telling people I peed on the floor when I don't even know you but hey, this is me! Trying to smile about something!

It's alright, I'm beginning to think there's no such thing as TMI here
At least you're trying to smile about it, I think I'd still be seething too much to come close to seeing the funny side.

I guess it depends on how much work you've got to catch up on. I'd be inclined to leave as soon as I could and spend an extra 20 mins travelling than wait around so that I had a shorter commute but still got home later.

Pyxis

Hallo, Charliewocka!

I'm not my usual self at the mo, 'cos I'm up to my ears in elephants! We saw loads on the Safari yesterday, including babies and one tiny weeny one!

Not had a chance to do the photos yet. It's all go!

We've changed hotels and are now up in the mountains near Kandy.
On the way we visited a Spice Garden and saw various trees that spices come from. Then they gave us a face massage and a neck massage!
We had lunch in an open air restaurant, and a huge land monitor wandered in.
And wandered out again.
The locals didn't bat an eyelid, but all us stupid Brits were going sweeeee! And leaping out of our chairs to go and stare at it!:D


Must get those photos done.

Night night. (It's 11pm)

Pyxis

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Wellyboots6

tea_lover wrote: »

Maybe things have now calmed down enough for us to have an adult conversation, sort out his belongings and at least leave things on slightly better terms.

Tea, you have just reported some suspicious behaviour to the police, his mum has been in contact with you, and he is apparently contacting a solicitor for some weird and wonderful reason.

Have things really calmed down, or are you just trying to convince yourself they have so that you can justify to yourself getting back in touch with him?

You would have already contacted him and wouldn't be posting on here if you genuinely thought it was the right thing to do.

Trust your gut, something is stopping you contacting him. Listen to that something.

Welcome Charlie! Don't worry, peeing on the floor is mild compared to some of the conversations that go on around here!

charliewocka

Pyxis, where are you? Sounds good....
I've been to Africa a few times (DRC, Zambia, Tamzania, Kenya, RSA) partly with work and partly due to my ex-OH living in DRC so we had a house there I went to. Love the continent and my next dream trip is 4x4 in Namibia and also driving to Vic Falls (in different trips).... Spent quite a while going on safari for weekends and love elephants, giraffes and hippos

Georgiegirl256

Fuming over the pond scum that had a go at my Mam in town. :mad: My Mam has vision and balance problems, and accidentally knocked into this man as she was walking down the street. She apologised, but just got a mouthful off him and his skanky wife, such as "watch where you f'ing going" etc.

I was already in the shop at this point, and my Mam came in blood boiling telling me all about it, when they walked in. My Mam went over to try to explain that her vision isn't the best, and some people's disabilities aren't immediately obvious, and was there any need to talk to her in that disgusting tone. The guy starts on her again, and there was no way I was standing for someone talking to my Mam like that and so went over and was like "Oi! Don't you dare talk to my Mam like that! She has vision and balance problems and bumped into you by accident, so just leave it"....he skulked off out of the shop but his go by wife said "oh, here come the excuses, here come the violins" :mad: I won't tell you what I said to her, but eventually she backed off leaving me muttering that she didn't have the intellect to have the common sense and decency that most people do and so it was pointless trying to reason with her. She shouted something down the shop, not sure what, so I just told her to b*gger off.

tea_lover

Welly - I think what's stopping me is the fear of getting into trouble with the police!

Georgie - I would be raging too! Some people should not be allowed out in public!! Hope your mum's OK. We call my mum the anti-weeble, as she wobbles but she does fall over

mellymoo74

Georgie is your mum ok?

So after a wonderful almost 2 weeks (or normal length of time) noise is back and car park is full woop

Couldn't get hold of agent so bye job.
Oh the pip report I was told by the really dismissive CAB person I wouldn't get cos of data protection (er it's OH data) came so will be working g through that

Georgiegirl256

Yeah she's fine thanks She's pretty fiesty so I think was more annoyed than anything. I just didn't like the two of them having a go at her, two against one.

Anti-weeble! :rotfl: I think my Mam could be classed as that too!

I'm a mixture of my Mam and Dad. I can be quiet, calm and laid back like my Dad, but like my Mam in that I'll be feisty and say my piece if anyone harms or attacks any of my friends or relatives.

Sorry you're still having struggles Melly

Got some of that Turkish yoghurt that Calley was talking about abit back. Haven't tried it yet, but it looks nice!

mellymoo74

I will be ok. Docs again tomorrow and applied for more jobs.
As people were stuck where we live for 4-7 hours I think not going to interview was the right call even if it lost me the job.

Calley give the rabbit a squish (still want a pic)