Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 2

onomatopoeia99

In a curious co-incidence, I had two YA books turn up from Amazon (well, 2nd hand sellers that sell on Amazon) at lunchtime today, both by Robert Cormier (I am the cheese and The chocolate war). I definitely read the first when I was young, possibly in English lessons, not sure about the second.

What with the John Hughes films last week, I'm obviously reverting to a teenager (although sometimes I think I never grew up any further :rotfl: )

Waves_and_Smiles

Hello Charlie! Welcome to our thread, it is your thread too, now. No wonder you feel so overwhelmed, you have had so much happen and so much that is still happening. Do be honest with the GP, I really hope it is someone kind and understanding who will listen to you. Are you managing to grab some time for you? Even if it is an hour soaking in the bath? I think it is really important that you have periods where you can feel less under pressure. I have done this by spending 10 minutes every couple of hours sitting on the edge of the bath at really hectic times, just a few minutes to take a break and take a deep breath. Please let us know how you are, we are all here for you.

Tea, you know what you are thinking and feeling is totally normal? It happens a lot when people have suffered bad breakups that have become disturbed. You are grieving for what could have been, feeling guilt and still a tiny part of you hopes it might work out. This is all totally normal! It is a process you are going through of letting go. This is always hard for people after a long relationship but it is worse for you because you aren't being given the space to do so. It is just dragging on and keeping you locked in this stage. Please do not contact FOH, if you can't decide not to do that right now then tell yourself that you will not contact him YET. For now that will do if it must. Give yourself more time. I speak as someone who went running back to an obsessed ex who was very, very ill and it was an utter disaster and I ended up more hurt than I did in the first place. Be careful tea, don't let the what-could-have-been thoughts alter your perception of what is really happening.

charliewocka

Waves_and_Smiles wrote: »

Even if it is an hour soaking in the bath? I think it is really important that you have periods where you can feel less under pressure. I have done this by spending 10 minutes every couple of hours sitting on the edge of the bath at really hectic times, just a few minutes to take a break and take a deep breath. Please let us know how you are, we are all here for you.

I wish! We've had no bath in our house for 3 months now, no shower for a month and no sink in the bathroom for a couple of weeks It could be comical - I took a pee the other evening and peed on the (open wooden floorboard) floor. Mr CW had disconnected the toilet and pulled it back from the wall a couple of inches and forgotten to tell me. That resulted in floods of tears


I'm not one to make time for me. When I try, a dog needs attention, or something is beeping to be switched on/off, Mr CW needs help moving something. I know it's important but I struggle so much. I would love to have some time this weekend, but OH is away for the weekend, cat needs a vet appointment Saturday, it's my brother in laws birthday so have to go for family meet-up, dogs need to be walked (that's OK, some relaxing time in itself I guess) and there is a plumber knocking around the house on both Saturday and Sunday Wah!


I decided I couldn't wait until next Thursday so have booked to see my private GP and tell her how I'm feeling. Will figure the money out later.....

mellymoo74

One good thing
OH missed a call.from healthy minds with an appointment

Waves_and_Smiles

Yes, don't worry about the money for now charlie, your well-being comes first. There is only such much anyone can take at once and you have had more than your fair share. You must really be at the end of your tether, there is no let-up for you right now. Do let off steam here if you need to, no matter if you make 4 posts in a row just use the thread to release some of your stress if it helps.

Oooh, good thing, Melly!

tea_lover

Yes Charlie, as WaS says please do post whenever you want to - it will make a nice change for everyone else from me wittering on all the time! :rotfl:

Not looking forward to the trip home this evening. I don't use the part of the M6 that's closed, but all the people that would usually be on that road will be on the (already busy) roads I do use. Think it's gonna be a looooong trip. On the plus side, I can't give into contacting FOH temptation while I'm stuck in traffic!

mellymoo74

Now I just need my floating support worker.

Heard !!!!!! all off the agency.
So its gone I think

mellymoo74

200 metre stretch needs resurfacing tea.
Think we can assume that it was a baaad smash and it's lucky only the car driver died.

Last night I walked back with the porky one to swap for the grinch and upstairs was getting out of a learner car instructor took the sign off the top and put in the boot. This morning she drove off on her own in the nail that's leaking oil everywhere. I think the lack of licence is now obvious

tea_lover

Yes it did sound like a horrible accident think it's going to be closed till at least midnight.

charliewocka

Thanks for the welcome....


Might have overstepped by telling people I peed on the floor when I don't even know you but hey, this is me! Trying to smile about something!


Normally finish work at 4 but busy doing my old role (I started new job on Monday) and finishing up projects for that as well as learning new role. So now traffic will take me an hour to get home instead of 40 minutes so wondering whether to stay a bit later and get more done till it dies down a bit more.