Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 2

Waves_and_Smiles

Hahahaha! Everyone nags me about high rate care, JM! Even the professor helping me with my sleeping asked why I only get DLA for daytime care when I having to speak to someone from a sleep clinic because my sleeping is so disturbed and I sleepwalk so often. I am a big scaredy-cat who won't apply, that's why!

The insurance people should call tomorrow with the verdict so if they do write the car off we will find out how much the repairs would have been. Thank you to you and Mr JM for thinking about it for us!

Pyxis

Been reading some back pages!

Gosh! What has been happening!


Poor WaS!

Poor Melly!

Poor Tea!


Poor anyone else whom I haven't read about yet!


Off now to another hotel. Hopefully the internet will be better there.

Love and hugs to all! xxxxx

Birdie85

Once again Tea I am raging on your behalf! Why would FOH be seeing a solicitor? About what? It's not like you're withholding access to children, the house is yours... what would he get from a solicitor other than a stern talking to about leaving someone alone when they've reported you to the police for stalking them!

So sorry about the car, WaS. Please apply for higher level DLA. They won't take your current rate off you, the worst that will happen is that it stays the same!

What a difference MU! Well done! :T

Good luck today Melly!

Hey Pyxis! I'm not jealous of your adventures at all!!

tea_lover

WaS, I'm another in the higher DLA cheerleader camp! I'm pretty sure that's what my mum gets - and believe me, if her and my dad can manage the forms anyone can! :rotfl:

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Brace yourselves - have just realised how much I've written (as ever) so thought I'd pop an apology in here!

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None of you will be surprised to hear that I didn't hear a thing back from the police last night. I'd bet serious money on that not being logged at all. Not sure I can even be bothered to contact them again. None of which is helping with the weird sudden urge to contact FOH - if the police have stopped taking this seriously then maybe I should too (so works my sleep-deprived brain).

After all, I only wanted some space in the first place. I've had that now, now I want to speak to him. But now it's even less likely that I can as his mum is just the most massive stirrer and is making everything worse.

She's basically making out that I'm withholding his stuff and that's all he contacted my parents about. Only, he has never at any point mentioned any of his belongings - in his contact with my family he's given them gifts for me, asked if they'd speak to me and asked if they thought we'd get back together. If he was that desperate for something out of the house surely you'd just contact the police and ask for their advice? Especially as I've made it clear to the police all along that I want the stuff gone!

Just makes me so angry as I know that he is ill. I'm not condoning the way he's been behaving (believe me!) but I do know that this is not his normal behaviour. I also fully believe what I've heard from him and others that he's now on medication and is having counselling. I've seen a recent photo of him and he's lost a lot of weight (his face looks so different).

But !!!!!! is her excuse?! She's just a spiteful, meddling old woman that is making things ten times worse. I had loads of trouble from her years ago (before I'd even met her!)

So for that reason alone I should be very grateful that I'm out of it and don't have to deal with any of them again. But just not feeling that today. I want to speak to him. I know that's pathetic and stupid and probably the worst idea I've ever had (and I once put armbands on my ankles to help me swim on my back and had to be rescued by a lifeguard - I have stupid ideas)... but I really want to. But then I've made my family give multiple statements and fallen out with them for nothing, and I've wasted police time. But the longer the police ignore me the more I think oh !!!! it, I'm just going to call him and deal with the fallout later. Maybe things have now calmed down enough for us to have an adult conversation, sort out his belongings and at least leave things on slightly better terms.

Am going round in circles. My brain has been like a hamster in a wheel all night.

Also had some thoughts that I'm really, really not proud of. Along the lines of - once the medication and counselling is taking effect he'll get better, and that basically means he'll be over me. To my shame, I don't like that. I want him to feel better, of course I do. But maybe I don't want him to move on. Maybe I've been a complete idiot about all of this and should never have contacted the police in the first place.

My head might actually explode.

tea_lover

There is also a tiny chance I've overdone the coffee :rotfl:

mellymoo74

Tea
Your grieving so of course you miss him. You do know it's a mythical him though not the real one?
Do not contact him! Email police baby stating time and date of your call to 101 and ask him to see if it's logged.
Also say FOH stuff is packed what's his suggestion for getting it back to him so the excuse has gone.

I am up against 2 neither of which will have a fee attached (internal and a recommendation) maybe I should just go back to bed.

whitewing

tea,

I bet if you ring The Stalking Helpline you will discover that these are all thoughts that people have in these circumstances.

If he was a complete prat you wouldn't have lived with him so long.

Don't contact him. Wait for police baby next week.

I dreamt that I was on a coach in Barcelona and was next to a chap from Aerosmith who was a little overfriendly, but all in a goodhumoured way. (I am pretty sure that I am not his type). Everyone else was speaking Spanish.

Brains are very weird.

whitewing

melly - another finger waggle for you this morning!

Hope everyone has a great day today.

tea_lover

Mellybobs, if nothing else, see it as a chance to try out your presentation x.

pollyanna_26

TEA . I agree with melly and whitewing . Been there done that got the tea shirt .
MELLY . Go for it !
polly