Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 2

Pyxis

The regular repost....

Pyxis wrote: »

(The thread etiquette will be reposted every ten or so pages.)
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Here is the suggested THREAD ETIQUETTE. By following this etiquette, all posters, whether new or existing, will feel safe, unpressured and respected..

!!!But first...............please be assured..................................................................******It should be pointed out that if anyone is feeling very distressed or close to a crisis, they do not have to worry about what they are posting, or whether it is a penguin for someone else or not. (See below about penguins). In a crisis situation, just post! We wouldn't want anyone to feel that they couldn't ask for help in case it's a penguin! The penguin thing only applies to a general discussion situation.******


- This is a thread for support. We have discovered some good friends on here, but we promise always to welcome and include new people, and not to be cliquey.

- People may make suggestions to help each other, and might even ask if the suggestions were helpful or have been carried out, but we'll really try not to nag each other or put too much pressure on.

- The normal board rules about sexism, racism, homophobia etc. apply, but if we are careful we should be able to discuss almost anything without breaching board rules - so far we have discussed subjects ranging from child abuse to incontinence!

-If someone thinks that too much pressure is being applied, they can post the trigger word PENGUIN and flag up the fact that they believe there's a potential for someone feeling too nagged to do something. ANYONE could post PENGUIN if they felt there was a danger that suggestions were being enforced too much.

Similarly, if they want to discuss something that might be a trigger for some people, then posting PENGUIN would be a warning that what follows in the whiteout might be a trigger.


- So, if you think something might be a PENGUIN, please post something like the green bit which follows.

"Possible penguin about.........(type of trigger)" The trigger might be:- child abuse, marital abuse/violence, paranoia, stalkers, death, etc.

Then, when you post, repost the word PENGUIN above the discussion. Then post the penguiny bit in white! And the phrase END OF PENGUIN when you have finished.

It will look like this. You will be able to see the white text if you highlight it or if you quote it, (so please don't 'quote' a post containing a penguin onto the thread!)
(Harmless example follows here):-
PENGUIN

This is a penguin. A nasty, crotch biting penguin (CBP).
It isn't really! So you can look. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ozGTv0hxhpc[/url]


END OF PENGUIN

(NB on a tenth-page repost of the etiquette, you can see these penguiny words because they are white against the green 'quote' background. On a normal post, they will be white against white, and so won't be seen on the thread.)

IMPORTANT: It has been ascertained that some posters to this thread have found that there are certain subjects which act as triggers, precipitating a worsening of their condition.
To protect these posters, you are respectfully requested NOT to discuss these subjects on this thread:-

Religion. (Please note: it is recognised that everyone is entitled to their beliefs, and we respect those beliefs. It is only because of the fact that religion does act as a trigger for some posters, that we exclude it from discussion.)
N.B. Please don't even mention the name of the religion.

The afterlife. The reason for this is explained in this thread by one poster, and there will be others for whom this is a trigger.

We ask and thank you for your co-operation in this matter.


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!!!So, to reiterate..............******It should be pointed out that if anyone is feeling very distressed or close to a crisis, they do not have to worry about what they are posting, or whether it is a penguin for someone else or not. In a crisis situation, just post! We wouldn't want anyone to feel that they couldn't ask for help in case it's a penguin! The penguin thing only applies to a general discussion situation.******

- More suggestions please.............We stress that we are suggesting that we AGREE some Thread Etiquette to HELP people who might feel anxious about posting, we are not trying to IMPOSE rules, just relating this to facilitating groups, so that people feel safe and able to participate as fully as they can.

...............Thread Motto...............
Nos Omnes Ad Audiendum Parumper

tea_lover

Spent the last two hrs lugging boxes around and have maybe 60% of FOHs stuff downstairs now. Have covered every bit of floor, and it's not a small house! Still got to get the rest downstairs then get it all down the garden to the garage. Have given up for this evening.

Much more emotional than I thought it would be.

Pyxis

(((((((((((((((Tealover))))))))))))))

You're doing well, Tea. Have a good rest now. :A

pollyanna_26

Well done Tea . Have a big hug . Now put your feet up and rest .
polly

whitewing

Good news is my tax return got submitted today!

Bad news is I owe more tax than I thought. Boo! Bang goes my project for this year. I hate being self -employed because of the fluctuations of income and then trying to keep tabs on it all.

DH is really fed up and angry as he got a parking ticket. He is supposed to be preparing food now but is not moving. If I move to do it he will think I am criticising. (DH is lovely but I guess he won't come across like that in my posts sometimes. He is not keen on his whole life being posted on MSE so I only tend to do it when he is being negative!)

Littlewing burst into tears when I got home as everybody had upset her, and daddy raised his voice.

I am dehydrated.

But apart from this moany post, and no chocolate, all is fantastic!

Pyxis

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tea_lover

Well done on the tax WW, wouldn't know where to start!

Hope you got some food x

whitewing

Chicken noodle soup and baguette. It wasn't what was planned but it was very nice. If only I had blueberry muffins now.

I am reading The Spark. It was recommended by someone on another thread. I think it is great. Very well written. You may like it WaS, I can't remember if you can read books at all. I don't think it would trigger you but I haven't read it all yet.

http://www.amazon.co.uk/Spark-Mothers-Nurturing-Genius-Autism/dp/0241961815/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1454104620&sr=1-1&keywords=the+spark

Georgiegirl256

Well done tea, sounds like you've made good progress. One more step towards getting him out of your life for good, although I appreciate it must be sad still.

Well done on getting your tax sorted WW. Boo to DH's parking ticket and Littlewing being upset though. *passes WW some blueberry muffin*

Thing is when I make cakes/biscuits etc, D goes overboard and has way too many. I know it means he enjoys and appreciates my cooking, but his sugar intake for today must be sky high :eek:

Chicken noodle soup is one of my fave soups. I just got 2 tins of the weight watchers one. Not because I'm counting calories or anything just because I like it. My other favourite at the moment is the Minestrone frozen one from Iceland. Although it doesn't have much pasta in and is more like chunky veg.

jobbingmusician

Well done tea! ((((()))))
Lovely to see you, pollyanna ((((()))))
Random unclaimed hugs and squishes need a home! ((((((((((((((((()))))))))))))))))~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
WW - does DH know about the Pepipoo site? Really excellent (even better than this one!) at helping people appeal against parking tickets, if they have a defence! (I have had THREE* recently, all issued for ridiculous reasons, and all won!)

*In case anyone thinks I must be an appalling parker, or just lucky

#1 - I stopped the car (but not the engine) for 63 seconds in a place which used to be an access road, to judge whether I could park in an area just ahead, judged I couldn't, and drove off. Ticket issued by camera.

#2 - I misread an O on my numberplate as a zero and so entered my registration incorrectly on a parking ticket.

#3 - I tried for 20 mins to pay by text on my phone. At one point I thought I had been successful so left the car, carried on trying to pay while in bank queue, came back and found a meter maid, asked her for help, and she said 'terribly sorry, I've just given you a ticket'. She couldn't see what I was doing wrong either! Drivers are just cash cows to the bloody local authorities............